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(8) Anonymous, September 15, 2011 6:16 AM
Stressing effort and not grades!!!
Rabbi Salomon is absolutely right about stressing effort and not grades. I have heard horror stories about those parents and educators who stress grades and expect all "A's" which is a drastic mistake. Growing up in the '60's and '70's, my parents never stressed that I should bring home all "A's" and even all "B's". They were even happy with a "C" even though I did receive "A's" and "B's" as well and also made the honor roll in junior high school with all "A's" and "B's". In senior high school, I was a "B" and "C" student also receiving "A's" on projects but on my report card receiving "B's" and "C's" which satisfied my parents. Even all "C's" would have satisfied them. Therefore, I was never afraid of going to school and actually enjoyed going to school very much. I loved going to the library and doing research papers. I am raising my children in the same way that I was raised. This is the only way to true success. Unfortunately, most educators do not agree with this philosophy and only pay attention to the "A" students which is a drastic mistake and could G-d forbid cause grave consequences. Unfortunately, the educators themselves must be educated about how to educate children. Also, Rabbi Salomon is absolutely right about not allowing cell phones next to a child's bed. Aside from that, as someone else mentioned, it is very dangerous for a child to use a cell phone. It is also dangerous for an adult nonetheless a child which is triply dangerous.
(7) Anonymous, September 13, 2011 11:36 PM
you forgot the obvious
how about some fun time when the kids come home from school instead of yelling about chores and homework? get out your popcorn popper and sit down on the floor - even if it's only for half an hour and have a CONVERSATION with them. or make a plate of fruit and sit on the couch with them. The home has to be a CALM place. I know it's hard, our days are crazy and stressful. But doing that is GOOD FOR YOU TOO. and as the person above said, Sitting down to dinner is SACRED. We do it EVERY SINGLE NIGHT.
(6) Suzanne, September 13, 2011 5:52 PM
Great advise, rabbi!
I would only add that it is really important for parents to have DINNER TIME. This is such a de-stresser. Cook good food so the house smells nice, insist everyone sit down together and talk to each other!
(5) Anonymous, September 13, 2011 5:44 PM
What to do about lying?
My child constantly lies about not having homework when she clearly does -- anyone else have any tips on how to deal with that?
Anonymous, September 13, 2011 11:31 PM
the answer is here
I had that problem. My daughter has a private teacher three nights a week- sometimes Sunday as well if she has a test . This teacher (actually several, depending on the subject) reviews what she learned and does the homework with her. That's what they get when they lie about not having homework, and not passing a single subject. Now she is up studying till 8:30 at night - no TV.
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