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Who Are Your Real Friends?

Might it be your own kids?


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Published: August 25, 2012


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Visitor Comments: 25

(24) SusanE, January 31, 2014 2:07 AM

Friends and Family

My husband told our kids when they were small..."Your Mother is the best friend you will ever have, and you can always go to her for anything" . - - - - I thought it was nice but didn't realize the importance of that statement.. I would hope that the kids see me as a Mother first and then as a friend who they can, as adults, respect. and confide in. I have my non-family friends from 25 years ago to do things with. Do you still have those friends around? I still enjoy being with them and they are my good old friends. My mom and dad had their own friends, my husband and I had our own friends, and so do my children. I enjoy the company of my children, they are interesting and fun. I love seeing what they are doing and hearing their stories.. But I don't think they are my best friends. I'll have to think on this and read the other comments for a while longer. Thanks Rabbi for something to think about. Susie

(23) Anonymous, January 30, 2014 10:46 PM

My husband of course!~

Whoa! Am I the only person in this site who would rather hang out with my spouse than anyone else the world? My kids are great - but their worldview is different, they have very different perspectives on many issues important to me and they certainly have different ideas of fun pastimes. I talk to my kids frequently, and see then when they have time, but for relaxing times to hang out, I'll chose my husband every time.

(22) Anonymous, September 5, 2012 2:30 AM

no no no and no

as much as I would love to be "friends" with my children (ages 14 to 28), It becomes a problem after a while. You see, when a friend sees you do something wrong, they will do everything possible not to hurt your feelings. Children who think they are "friends" criticize constantly and think they know everything and the mom is the dummest person on earth. No, thank you. I want my children to be able to have a fun conversation with me and we can go out together and have a wonderful time, but they have to know where to draw the line. There is no discussion when it comes to RESPECT.

(21) Liane Kramer, September 4, 2012 6:58 PM

My best friends? absolutely......our kids!!

who knows us better? who loves us more? with whom do we have more in common? who do we love more? As we get older, we cherish even more, time spent with our children, their spouses & ofcourse, their greatest gifts to us, our grandchildren.

(20) Ernest Miller, September 3, 2012 7:58 AM

Honestly, I am tied to my children a lot these days because of their children, my grandchildren. I don't view my children nor grandchildren so such as friends. They are more like associates! To me still a definition of a friend is one who is not related to me. I have many casual friends,but only a few close friends who I can confide in, listen to their problems, and offer advise,

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