I'm Not Your Toy... But What Am I?

Beauty is not the most important value.


Comments (11)

(8) Jaya, November 8, 2018 7:26 AM

Beauty !

Excellent video! To focus only on the outer beauty is to think of oneself as a toy and a decoration piece rather than focus on one’s strengths and personhood .

(7) me, November 7, 2018 4:08 PM

society too s ex oriented

G-d made the world to be inhabited and continued and created man and woman to have children and continue developing the world for generations. At the same time too much of society is too obssessed with the opposite gender and other things the Torah calls abomninations. The Torah does NOT condone, as too many liberal Jews may think, free for all "orientation". Imagine in this crazy society they have CHILDREN
supposedly decide already their Gender (oh my gosh) The great flood came in large part due to immorality flourashing. We, males and females, need to focus more on constructive healthy (purer) activities and will be literally healthier AND more productive. We will also have more self confidence and happy with ourselves.

(6) Erika Kish, November 7, 2018 8:15 AM

Smart advice

Lovely comment,very smart , that’s the way woman have to go, get away from “you look so beautiful “ we are so much more then that. thank you so much for you words good advised .

(5) dov4u32, November 4, 2018 10:03 PM

You are SO right but miss the point!

Women FOR sure are not "toys"! Its SUCH a non Jewish way even of speaking and even more so NOT to think!
At the same time The Holy One MADE the idea of "beauty" of a woman to help BOND a man to his spouse
This is NOT the place to explain this--just I feel strongly that the DANGER of seeing ones spouse as a SEXUAL being could be more detrimental than efficacious!
sigh!
The modern generation NEEDS a LOT of guidance from the Rabbonim...!


Nancy, November 9, 2018 12:24 PM

To commenter #5 dov4u32

While I would not call myself a member of the modern generation, I would say that I need lots of guidance from the Rabbonim. It certainly does not hurt and it helps me a great deal.

(4) Anonymous, November 4, 2018 5:38 PM

As we sing every Friday night: Mishlei /Proverbs 31

שקר החן והבל היופי, אשה יראת ה׳ היא תתהלל Attraction is false, and beauty is vacuous; A woman who has awe of HaShem, She shall be praised!”

(3) Anonymous, November 4, 2018 3:17 PM

Well said by a truly beautiful woman.

A really naturally beautiful woman giving over a beautiful message.
When getting a compliment, the response should also be ,It is a gift from the Almighty and I hope we are doing the right things with it.

TSvi Epstein, November 4, 2018 6:20 PM

Men also are more than skin deep

This on-target video applies to men also, says this father of 3 girls, and saba to 6 grand kids.

Advertisements often also appeal to phony qualities that men should question. Sometimes these are also physical qualities. But also they ask men to value other things our tradition teaches against.

Early in my career, there were few women professionals and managers. Then to be a "minch" was not so much held up as an ideal. "Nice guys finish last." "We do not play Sunday morning women's tennis here, we play rugby." These were refrains I often heard.

Later, as women became bosses and colleagues, team work improved, less aggressive people were heard, and we became more productive in my mind.

We do need to teach that there is more to women than physical beauty. We should also teach that there is more to men than toughness. Minchkite is beautiful.

My largest images of minches were Bill Hewlett and Dave Packard, the not Jewish founders of HP. I had the privilege of working there when they were still around. They in effect taught real Torah, where the rubber hits the ground in business. They set super example that many companies later followed.

You do not need to be Jewish to be a Woman of Valor or a Minch. Yet, these are values our ancestors carried to the greater world. We should strive for such midot ourselves and our children.

Nancy, November 6, 2018 12:18 PM

To commenter Tsvi Epstein

I was very impressed by what you wrote.

(2) Nancy, November 4, 2018 3:02 PM

Thank you!

That message cannot be repeated often enough.

(1) Anonymous, November 4, 2018 12:43 PM

Great, Shalvie!!

 

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