Dating Advice #181 - Growing Up
by Rosie Einhorn, L.C.S.W. and Sherry Zimmerman, J.D., M.Sc.How to jump-start the engines -- when you want to get married but don't feel emotionally ready.
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How to jump-start the engines -- when you want to get married but don't feel emotionally ready.
He can't understand why a woman wouldn't give up everything familiar to live in the deep cold.
He says that marriage has to wait until his finances are in order. What will be the next excuse?
She's ready to try anything, just to add the prefix 'Mrs.'
She does high-intensity dating for a few months, followed by a break-up. What's causing the problem?
She decided that he's not the man of her dreams. And now she's reconsidering.
With all the demands of work and parenting, should he put off dating until the kids go to college?
How much emphasis should be placed on physical attraction?
What degree of success in life is necessary for moving into marriage?
At their first meeting, she was already planning the wedding.
She's resentful that he doesn't buy her flowers or go to nice restaurants. Is there any hope for this?
The groom still thinks that his best friend is his primary relationship. Guess again.
After an abusive marriage, how can she hope to find a 'good man'?
If she's planning to move to Israel, should she wait to find a husband?
They agreed not to be involved with members of the opposite gender. But he's not living up to his end of the bargain.
Does a family history of some medical condition signal a red flag to stay away?
He's shown no interest in setting a wedding date. How long should she keep waiting?
Drawing out crucial information at all three stages of the dating process.
Trying to sort out the comfort of a long-term friendship with the stuff that marriage is built on.
Avoiding some of the pitfalls that can cause an otherwise promising courtship to unravel.
She's operating on the principle of: This guy's nice, but maybe the next one will be Mr. Perfect.
They're headed for marriage, but her children and his children are not cooperating.
After a broken engagement, he has built a new live for himself. She's stuck.
With parents fighting all the time, she's not sure a happy marriage is possible.
Basic guidelines for getting the dating ball rolling.
Will her dark family history scare off potential dates?
The first time around, he wouldn't commit to marriage. Has anything changed?
She just said "yes" and already she's a nervous wreck.
How should she broach the topic of her difficulty conceiving?
Okay, a few pounds overweight. What's all the fuss?
He wants to marry Jewish, but can he find an accomplished musician, too?
He's a mensch, but works for minimum wage. Can creativity carry them through?
Her failure to individuate is preventing her separating from her parents.
The search for a match who has refrained from physical intimacy before marriage.
Is a brief encounter with childhood abandonment holding him back from a total relationship?
They've been dating steadily, but the website still lists them as 'available.'
Following a book's advice on dating games doesn't seem to be working.
Her family is impoverished; his is upper-crust. Can they survive the battle of the in-laws?
She's getting remarried and wants to know how to handle her private assets.
For years he played it cool. Now things are heating up and he doesn't know how to handle it.
He wants to avoid meeting with the non-Jewish in-laws. She can't live without it.
Seven possible reasons why she said "no" to a second date.
The wedding is a week away. He's a great guy, except for one thing...
He thought their engagement was just around the corner. But suddenly she dumped him.
Keep it short and simple. And no lingering emotional attachments.
Finding the right one: A-to-Z guide for picking the needle out of the haystack.
These co-workers are dating, but trying to keep it all a secret.
How the participation of a third party can help facilitate one's getting to the chuppah.
Something looks very suspicious. Should he break the engagement?
He's the perfect dream. Except for one thing...