Dating Advice #131 - Sabotage Path
by Rosie Einhorn, L.C.S.W. and Sherry Zimmerman, J.D., M.Sc.Why can't she get past the first date?
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Why can't she get past the first date?
Marriage within the Jewish community has some genetic risks. Pre-testing is the answer.
Many people can't process the emotional data generated by too-frequent dating.
She's never dated seriously, and worries that this 'lack of experience' will hurt her down the road.
She met a great guy, but his medical history has her worried. How should she weigh her emotions against the practicalities?
Is it okay to date more than one person at a time?
She's moved beyond past mistakes, but feels guilty for not 'telling all' to her potential husband.
She's engaged and enduring daily anxiety attacks. Is there a way to get to the chuppah without totally losing her mind?
She finds that older singles are socially awkward and commitment-phobes. Is there a solution?
Two letters regarding the best time and place to discuss a sensitive medical condition.
Her parents monitor her phone calls and scrutinize her dates. What's the chance of a successful courtship?
He's got baggage and is holding back emotionally. Her family says it's time to get out. Should she stick around?
He prefers dating women half his age. Is there any reason not to?
She's still wearing the same ill-fitting clothes she wore in high school. Is there any hope?
Oops! She forgot to tell him that she's dating in order to get married.
Are cold feet a sign of a genuine problem -- or just cold feet?
The future in-laws oppose their daughter moving out of town. Is this a control issue?
He's still trying to get clear the basic issues of attraction and shared values.
Imagine your ideal image of a spouse -- and then discard that image.
If you marry someone with kids, where does that put you on the totem pole?
Is it possible to combine a demanding career with motherhood?
She can't understand all the commotion about a ticking clock.
Hollywood tells us that a relationship needs romance, fireworks and sizzle. But is that reality?
Some bad energy at her parents' house has him worried. Is this what their future marriage will look like?
With the clock ticking, she wants to become a mother before finding a husband/father.
Her confidence in men is destroyed. Is she doomed to a life of loneliness?
They're both divorced with children, and living in distant cities. Can this work?
She's never met her fiance, and he refused to say hello to her parents on the telephone. Anyone detect a problem?!
Already well into her 30s, she's now looking for her first serious courtship. And she's terrified.
When it rains, it pours. He's got 3 women lined up ready to get married. Which one should he choose?
The crash-and-burn of his first long-term courtship is full of important lessons for the future.
She's trying to put the confusion of divorce behind her, manage the kids, and start dating again. Will it work?
At age 31, she wants to finish her education before getting married. Is that a mistake?
He's got a promising medical career, but is lost in the dating maze.
He lied about his age in the dating profile, and has yet to fess up. Should she call him on it?
Is it better to keep score, or just to give freely with no expectation of return?
He's still friends with a woman he used to date, and it's making his new date batty.
He's infatuated with a woman at work. She'd rather ignore him. Now what?
He's terminally cheap. Could that have anything to do with his lack of success in dating?
She traveled 7 hours for a date, and he didn't show up. Or maybe he did...
Her date has a lot of problems, but she is determined to make this work, no matter whatever it takes.
With the wedding one week away, she's having doubts.
His parents are convinced the wedding should be cancelled, and they're going to war to prove it.
Her boyfriend doesn't listen carefully enough, and she loses her cool. How can she keep control while getting her needs met?
Projecting an image that is too cool and successful, may send your dates running away.
He may be a narcissist, or a control freak. In the meantime, he treats her like a queen and she doesn't want it to end. What's the long-term prognosis?
When someone is pre-occupied with an outside relationship, is there room for dating to fit in?
The guy acted like a boor and now she wants to know: Is he a diamond in the rough, or just too selfish to care.
She's lonely, but can't imagine getting married since it will mean leaving her parents alone. How can she deal with this guilt-trip?
She is the Super-Woman, but can't find the Super-Man. The clock is ticking and she's getting impatient...