Dating Advice #77 - Excess 'Ex' Baggage
by Rosie Einhorn, L.C.S.W. and Sherry Zimmerman, J.D., M.Sc.He says he loves her, but he still seems emotionally tied to his ex-wife. Is it worth sticking around?
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He says he loves her, but he still seems emotionally tied to his ex-wife. Is it worth sticking around?
After one date, the guys never call back. Is it her weight -- or some deeper message she's putting out?
It's the old problem of knowing when to take the leap. But with a new twist -- he's on the other side of the globe.
After one date, he's had enough. But what's the best way to let her know that?
She wants a Jewish family, but she's fallen for a non-Jewish guy. Now it's time to make the big decision.
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Now that she's married, she's thinking back how life was better as a single. Is there a way out of these doldrums?
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He's afraid that she'll stop dating him. What's the psychology behind this fear -- and how can he fix it?
She has two guys on her mind. One of them never calls. Should she take that as a hint?
He pushed hard for a breakthrough, but she backed off. The pattern repeats. Now he's burned out.
There's a lot lurking beneath the surface. The big question is: When do I let it all out?
He's a super-intellectual and she's not. Is this a deal-breaker?
Anger, flirting, irresponsibility. The warning signs are fast and furious. But she still wants to hang in there.
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She wants to marry a Jewish guy, but at this stage of frustration has turned to the Christian dating scene. Is something wrong here?
The pattern is not a good one. It stretches back to childhood. How does she climb out of this hole?
When she pursues, they run away. And when she's not interested, they fawn. Has someone got this backwards?
These newlyweds are trying to build emotional intensity. Do they have the same needs? How is it done?
The pickin's are slim enough as it is. And now that someone's finally interesting, her friend is giving her a guilt trip.
His poor track record leaves him wondering: Is there something fundamentally wrong? Therapy seems to be the answer.
He's tired of expensive dinners that lead nowhere. For the first date, isn't there a better way?
Things are going great, but there's a 5-year age difference. So what's the big deal?
On paper, he's a great guy. But he can't seem to break into the world of dating. What's the problem?
He's working 80 hours a week, and it shows on his face. No wonder he's having trouble meeting the right woman.
After so many rejections, he's basically given up hope of finding his match. Is there any way out of this rut?
He's stuck, and she wants to get on with life. What gauge should she use to know when it's time to move on?
She's overweight, feeling rejected, and is ready to give up the singles scene altogether. Is there a solution to this dating dilemma?
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