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Five Ways to Turn Off a Guy

Five Ways to Turn Off a Guy

Mistakes that make a man quickly lose interest.


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January 4, 2014

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Visitor Comments: 7

(6) Sarah, March 24, 2014 12:36 PM

good advice in my book

Dunno, maybe it's my age, but I was turned off by the same things in my dating days: guys that dressed like slobs and didn't shave (message: you're not worth my effort); guys who incessantly talked about themselves (message: I'm a narcissist and you're just my audience/accessory); guys who were heavy into their career-talk/business-talk (message: no room for intimacy in my life); guys who told me the blow-by-blow of every break-up or past divorce (message: I'm too traumatized by other women to trust you or relate to you). I'm not sure that the Aish article -- to the extent it addressed these things -- was really out of line.

(5) Anonymous, January 16, 2014 11:01 PM

great resourse beyond

I think that the Mars & Venus books By Dr. Gray haven't been ussered - sometimes they seem to be made reference too (also the 5 Love Languages; another great book about relationships & how we give & receive love, but practical. It doesn't dive into psychology.) The Men are from Mars & women are from venus series has one entitled just that "... on a date" I think. Baruch H' I'm happily married; it's hard work as is life bH', but his main book was very informative & changes my understanding of how men & women differ in a very positive way.

(4) hindy, January 15, 2014 12:39 PM

Great advice

I heard this article was criticized for being sexist. The only mistake was addressing this very good advice to women, instead of both men and women.
What's so sexist about saying a woman (or a man, for that matter, I don't know why this was addressed to only one sex) should
a) not be overly argumentative or bombastic
b) try to look attractive and put-together
c) not brag about professional accomplishments
d) not share too much personal info inappropriately
e) chase after a date in a way that seems desperate, clingy or creepy?

(3) Emmanuella leon, January 6, 2014 12:25 AM


Wow! I've really learn a lesson here. Thanks a lot!

(2) Rivka, January 5, 2014 10:13 PM

Excellent Article!

Really insightful article! Definitely gave me a new and different perspective on dating and how men view things.
Thank you!
Please keep these topics coming!

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