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What scares you more: fear of failure or fear of success? Why?
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(6) Gershon, August 17, 2018 5:21 AM

Success seems to be more frightful.

I believe people grow comfortable with failure. It's non-demanding and frees you of of expectations from yourself as well as others. Success may put you in a spotlight which can be frustrating while you constantly attempt to justify it and maintain it.

Gershom, August 17, 2018 9:43 AM

Your somewhat right

From a counseling perspective - your somewhat right - as growing comfortable with failure - depending on how quick and how severe. Many - adjust to it slowly - and use the cliche - Mah La'Asot - what can I do? As in most cases - they see no way - to get resolution - in the near future - and hopefully - this too - will pass quickly.
However - I don't think your correct -in that - as in most cases - failure - is far from - non-demanding - and does not free one - necessarily from self expectation(s) - or that of others.
What it does subliminally - is - that it can cause from moderate - to severe - spiritual - mental - emotional physical - and financial destruction - in what is seemingly - a pervasive continual numbing - of the senses.
Your right in feeling that - success - puts you in the spotlight - but a different process is active here.
Your ego is being fed. Which - makes you feel good.
And - which frequenty - softens the perceived pressure felt.
And depending on the person - yes - having to find ways - to justify it - and maintain it - especially if - your a hardcore success addict/perfectionist. It can bring on - not only the subliminal pressure to justify and maintain.
It can also bring on - deteriorating - poor moral choices - enabling the bending of G-D's Torah moral rules - etc., - to maintain success.

(5) Sheila Silver Halet, August 16, 2018 6:02 PM

My death

I am turning 75 on Friday.

Raymond, August 16, 2018 7:23 PM

Answering the Question

So how does your telling us your age, answer the question?

(4) Gershom, August 16, 2018 5:22 PM

I think fear of failure - predominates. Especially - when/as we realize that - we - may not be expending the spiritual and or physical energy - to accomplish the task(s) - G-D - has given us to do. And - we feel - that subconscious guilt proding us.
Especially when - we subconsciously know that - we are rationalizing and justifying - our actions - and failure to perform our duties - responsibly with G-D.
For some - failure/success can be a combination of feelings. Success can become fear of failure - as soon as - the spiritual and or ego accolades - diminish. And when it means - I will have nothing left to work toward. How - will I get my continuing spiritual - and or ego accolades and sense of accomplishment - fulfilled?

(3) Anonymous, August 16, 2018 4:04 PM

Neither! No failure - no learning and no possible success...

(2) Merle Molofsky, August 16, 2018 3:49 PM

Why be afraid at all?

Both fear of failure and fear of success will inhibit people from being true to themselves. Why be afraid at all? If people find themselves feeling afraid, they need to go within, and focus more specifically on what they fear. Fear of rejection? Fear of loss of love? Fear of being ridiculed? Fear of looking foolish? Fear of being thought of as a show-off, a know-it-all? Be true to yourself. Success and failure matter less than the endeavor itself. Trust your soul to guide you.

Nancy, August 16, 2018 8:51 PM

I love what commenters #2 & #3 said

Sometimes failing at something can be a priceless lesson in and of itself.

(1) Annie Adda, August 16, 2018 3:22 PM

A good service

I fear failure and Success, maybe success is more scary
Annie

 

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