In these unstable and scary times, the sukkah gives us a reassuring message.

by Batsheva Hirschman Frankel

My three-year-old son has a new game he loves to play with me. It started during Rosh Hashana. He would call out an emotion and then we would both act out that feeling. He'd say, "Ima, let's be angry!" and we would make "angry" faces and say, "Grrrrr." Or "Ima, let's be surprised!" and we would both open our eyes and mouths wide with a deer-in-the-headlights expression.

But I noticed something curious that both warmed my heart and made me think about this holiday season. When my son wanted to enact "sad," he would ask only me to be sad, "Ima, you be sad." And then, when I would make my saddest face and pretend to cry (and as a drama school graduate from NYU, let me tell you I can act sad), my son would wrap his arms around me in the sweetest hug and say, "Don't be sad, I'm with you." And then if I'd continue to cry, he'd say, "Don't worry, I'm here. Everything will be fine."

We've been playing this game a lot between Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur, and it touches me deeply. It's not just that I am thrilled that my son can show such sweet empathy toward another person at this young age, although that is wonderful. But I was thinking that I was, in fact, truly sad in this season, mulling over all of the mistakes I've made and the people I've hurt over the year. Would I be truly forgiven by those people? Would I be truly forgiven by God? That is the struggle of Yom Kippur and that can leave me sad. But at the end of Yom Kippur, if we've really done teshuva and changed, then God has another message for us. It's the message of the hug.

When my son hugged me and told me that he was with me and that everything would be fine, I really felt like that's just what God would probably like me to know, too. And then I realized that God does let us know just that -- it's called Sukkot.

Sukkot is such an amazing holiday. We are commanded to dwell in a temporary hut outside of our warm, cozy homes, and our warm, cozy internal comfort zones, and be happy. Yes, we are commanded to be happy. How can that be?

A sukkah is that hug of forgiveness from God.

It's easy, actually. We have just been forgiven by God, and as Rabbi Shlomo Carlebach teaches, to be forgiven is very nice, but to be forgiven and then get a big hug let's us know that the forgiveness is deep and real. A sukkah is that hug of forgiveness from God.

A sukkah is also a hug of reassurance. We are surrounded by a mitzvah that connects us with God, our past and our future. We know that Jews all over the world and throughout all of time have built sukkahs to remind us that although much in life is temporary, God is always there. As we sit with family and friends in our sukkahs, we can feel that God is telling us, especially in these very unstable and scary times, "Don't be sad, I'm with you. Don't worry, I'm here and everything will be fine."

Published: Friday, October 10, 2008

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Visitor Comments: 6

  • (6) Lisa Moad , October 17, 2008

    Sukkot blessings

    Nice article...thanks for the good thoughts. I know G-d is there always and this time of year is a great reminder to us all

  • (5) Anonymous , October 14, 2008

    Great Article

    Great article. I'm a soldier and am far from home. I'm currently in training so I wasn't able to go to high holy days services. As we go into Sukkot, I am missing my family more and more-- as this is personally my favorite festival. I just wish I could go home and hug my wife, toddler, and my 12 week old daughter whom I've only spent four weeks with since she was born. I just like the reassurance of G-d "Don't worry, I'm here and everything will be fine."

  • (4) ruth housman , October 14, 2008

    the beauty and truth within children

    I love this little game your child played with you and how he comforted. There is this notion of being succored in the word Sukkot itself. We suck from the tree of life, enjoying its bounty and surely the Sukka itself is so filled with fruit. It's a reminder of the beauty of the harvest and it's such a beautiful place to be present, to feel the divine presence. This is a beautiful article and its truth is surely the sensitivity and love that permeates the notion of LOVE itself, divine Love that embraces us all.

  • (3) Janet , October 12, 2008

    Oh so special-todah

    Am loving articles I read on "Aish",& please continue the good,uplifting work you do.

  • (2) Anonymous , October 12, 2008

    Thoughts on this article

    Thank you for such a wonderful article. During this season of the High Holy Days it puts into perspective a most important aspect of our following the commandments: and that is the aspect of relationship with the Creator. Thank you again.

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Batsheva Hirschman Frankel

Batsheva Frankel is a Jewish educator and speaker, and is working on her book entitled, “The Other Side of the Tapestry: Life’s Really Weird, That’s Why I Know There’s a God.”

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