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Mama's Hands

Mama's Hands

Every wrinkle held a story.

by Brochi Rossen

I always knew there was something special about my grandmother. Mama, as we lovingly called her, was a unique individual. Her face shined with a warmth that was unique and almost other worldly.

Mama was a twin, born in Emden, Germany in 1904 to a warm European family; she was the 11th of 12 children. As a child, Mama was said to be spunky and full of life. She would tell us many stories of the pranks she pulled on her older brothers and sisters, all in jest and in good taste. Mama married my grandfather and together they braved the horrors of Nazi Germany and France, managing to survive like so many others, only by sheer miracles.

Mama was filled with the strength, dignity and courage that come from triumphing over adversity. She was fearless and bold. Once, later in life, when a burglar followed her into her Manhattan apartment throwing her down to the floor and demanding money, she picked herself right up, handed him some money, offered him a drink and ushered him out.

Despite the many challenges that Mama endured, her joie de vivre shined brightly throughout her life. Her handbag was always filled with treats to distribute to children and you could always find a warm smile on her face. Mama lived until 101 years old and her eyes twinkled with the sparkle and spunk of a child.

Even as a child I could sense that Mama was a woman of great character and strength, but what stood out most to me about Mama were her hands. When I was a little girl I would hold Mama's hands and marvel at the many creases and wrinkles. I would often wonder how my grandmother's hands got so many wrinkles. Those wrinkly hands glowed; they were warm and soft and would embrace my hand with love.

As I grew up and got to know more about my Mama’s life, I began to understand more about each fold and crease on Mama's hands. I discovered that each wrinkle held a story, each crease a lesson. There were the creases that told of kneading the challah dough for Shabbos and lovingly lighting the holy Shabbos candles each Friday evening.

There were wrinkles that spoke of the miracle of finally caressing her own babies after 15 years of marriage.

Then there were the creases that testified to my grandmother's harrowing arrest by the Nazi's and her experience in the infamous Gurs concentration camp in France.

There were the wrinkles that told of the many love letters that Mama wrote to her husband while he was imprisoned in a forced labor camp in Nazi occupied France, precious letters that we still posses today.

The creases that formed from lovingly stirring large pots of food for Jewish orphans in the French run OSE home for children. And the creases that stored the pain of comforting and hugging those small children bereft of parents in Nazi occupied France.

There were the wrinkles that spoke of the miracle of finally holding and caressing her own babies, the ones my grandmother waited so long for, after 15 years of marriage. Of course there were the wrinkles that told of the fear and courage of shielding and hiding her precious babies from the prowl of the evil Nazis. Finally, the creases also spoke of embracing each of her very beloved grandchildren and great grandchildren.

The many folds in Mama's hands each held a deep story. Some spoke of love and laughter, others of pain, struggle, grief, survival and hope. Mama's hands had a gentle glow, they were wrinkly and beautiful. They shined with a light borne of hard work, perseverance and unshakable faith.

The last time I held Mama's precious hands was right before she took her last breath at 101 years old. Mama's hands were still glowing and I can still feel the warmth they transmitted. Those hands, with their many folds, each telling a different tale, transmitted more than just warmth. Those hands holding mine transmitted the eternal flame of faith from my grandmother's holy soul to her future generations.

Published: November 14, 2009


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Visitor Comments: 20

(20) Isabelle, January 14, 2013 7:37 PM

Thank you for bringing up sweet memories. :)

Beautiful writing. It made me remember of the hands of my grand-mother, O"BM. She was also a survivor in WWII France after immigrating from Salonika . As a child, I remember being amazed by her long red nail-polished nails and long fingers, that I would spend hours touching.

(19) Iris Moskovitz, December 4, 2009 4:19 AM

So heartfelt,and sincere words.

Reading this article, made me remember all the wonderful times I spent with my bubby, O"BM. The one thing I remember the most about my grandmother was her beautiful soft white hair. I have a fond memory of combing her silky hair before Shabbos, at around 8 years old, or so.Now my own mother has that same beautiful white hair. Such lovely thoughts that you brought for me, from this article. Thank you.

(18) Anonymous, November 24, 2009 5:48 PM

A Cherished Memory

Throughout its history, the Jewish nation has flourished when it has been guided exclusively by the Torah’s moral principles, our Rabbis’ teachings, and our ancestors’ experiences and insights. It appears that “Mama” is an example of someone who understood this all and, quite successfully, transmitted it to future generations. May her example – together with her memory – serve her family, community, and all of Klal Yisroel as a blessing.

(17) Herbert, November 20, 2009 7:27 PM

Thank you Brochi for your beautiful write up of Oma Z'L. It truly represents what Oma stood for and sacrificed for all her life. May she be an example for all her descendents.

(16) Mom, November 19, 2009 7:23 PM

It was both very emotional and heartwarming for me to read your beautiful article about our "Mama" just before her fourth Yahrzeit. Although we all cherished her, it took a warm loving granddaughter like you to put it into words. Thank you!

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