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23 Things I’ve Learned in 23 Years of Marriage

23 Things I’ve Learned in 23 Years of Marriage

For starters, my wife is awesome.

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1. My wife, Liat, is awesome.

2. Common goals are the key to a successful relationship. Not common interests.

3. It’s not good to be alone.

4. Men are from earth, women are from earth. Deal with it.

5. Relationships require constant work and effort.

6. Keep making "love lists". Identify positive virtues of your partner and appreciate those attributes in your spouse.

7. What’s important to you is important to me.

8. Don't make a fuss for your spouse’s birthday just because you'd like that.

9. Listen.

10. Don't force Liat to like sports.

11. "I’m sorry."

12. Give.

13. No jealousy.

14. We are two parts of same soul.

15. Learn to juggle different methods of connecting- intellectual, emotional, physical.

16. Talk. Handwrite. Skype. Phone. (Each is a different communication skill that enhances the relationship.)

17. Don't whatsapp.

18. Not everyone likes flowers.

19. Everyone likes chocolate.

20. Make time.

21. Did I say make time?

22. No competition. We are partners, two halves of the same whole.

23. My grandfather shared with me the following advice. He said, "When your grandmother and I got married we agreed that she would make all the small decisions and I would make all the big decisions. Moshe dear, we've been married for over 60 years and there hasn't been a BIG decision yet!"

Happy Anniversary Liat Mayerfeld.
Looking forward to the list of 120 things!

PS: Try writing your own list and share with your spouse.

July 9, 2016

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Visitor Comments: 9

(9) Anonymous, July 15, 2016 10:02 PM

Gorgeous!! Amen to your 120!

(8) Ruth Berkovits, July 15, 2016 4:27 PM

Mazel Tov on your anniversary

Thank you! Thank you! I loved what you wrote.
Mazel tov on your anniversary til 120 and more.

(7) Lisa, July 15, 2016 9:44 AM

You could have stopped at #1

If you think your wife is awesome....then the rest is easy!! You both are so blessed!

(6) Shana Rabinowitz, July 14, 2016 6:12 PM

So sweet and beautiful! KeIn Yirbu!

So beautiful and sweet. Kein Yirbu!

(5) Bobbi, July 14, 2016 1:46 PM

No one should be alone, but what if you no choice in the matter?

Beautiful article. Unfortunately, my husband passed away very early in the marriage. He was a good soul. I have been alone for 37 years , I was 30 , and left with with 3 small children. I wanted to remarry, however no such luck. And believe me I tried to find a partner. I'm in my 60s now and have given up. So some of us end up alone and not but choice.

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