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The #1 Tip to Change Your Marriage Instantly

Appreciation is the most common item missing in marriages. And the easiest way to improve your relationship.


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(3) Scott, July 23, 2016 9:46 PM

A woman of valor.

You know sometimes I disagree with stuff here but in this case you guys are right on.

Lemmie tell you about something I do that has changed my marriage. We actually treat the woman of valor like a real thing. I don't sing it like a camp song. I say it to my wife. Our family actually sees that my wife does all those things. its a statement of appreciation to her and a reminder to us of how blessed we are to have her. When you think about it that way it's pretty amazing.

My daughter rises and acclaims her mother when it says to and I stop and give her honest praise when it says to do so. I actually think about the thing she's done that week that meant the most to me. The only hard part is limiting it to one thing now that I set a time to give my gratitude some thought.

Try it. See how it feels. See the look in your wife's eyes when you show her sincere appreciation for the things she does. See how it feels to make it a habit. And as public as men shaking each other hands and patting each other on the back for the big job of reading the blessing for aliyah from the card on the bimah.

And oh yeah. You start looking for the good in your wife and praising her and funny thing is shell do the same for you.

And then things change.

(2) Zvika, July 18, 2016 10:19 AM

"Thank you" (even listening) shows appreciation

Good idea, and some examples were ok, but focusing on the simple things is also important ... like REALLY listening to each other and not interrupting in the middle of a sentence; and acknowledging a comment (that you were listening) instead of mere silence.
Appreciation is a big thing, and it doesn't take much to show it. Dinners are nice, but you can't do that 2 times a day.

(1) Anonymous, July 18, 2016 6:41 AM

Great video and great tip! Thanks for posting!

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