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You’re Not Listening!

Men want to fix, women want to be heard.


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Published: March 16, 2014


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Visitor Comments: 18

(12) Nancy, March 25, 2014 5:19 PM

I see we have attracted a few misogynists to this site. The anti woman comments made here are sickening and I feel sorry for your wives.

(11) Leonard Goff, March 23, 2014 6:07 PM

I must be a woman.

I must be a woman because the biggest turn off for me is when the woman (or man) doesn't LISTEN to what I said, but instead uses what I said to just launch into what she wants to say-- such as: "I saw a good movie today." "Oh, I don't like such movies." I call this narcissistic and it is the signals real relationship trouble to me.
Has anyone found that telling the 'friend' about her/his 'narcissism' changes this behavior?

(10) Anonymous, March 20, 2014 11:01 AM

I am shocked by some of the male comments

Some of you husbands who apparently 'love' and 'like' your wives, sound extremely arrogant, patronising and yes, contemptuous. You may not understand your wives' needs, and they may be very different from yours, you may not know how to deal with them, but DON'T belittle them. You may not realise, but I'm sure your arrogant, insensitive attitude comes across to your wives. Try and be a bit more humble, and repectful !

(9) judith Razieli, March 19, 2014 7:25 PM

on listening and fixing

absolutely right.
What is missing though is not only listening but repeating what
is heard. Also hmmm something like, boy that was really stressful
True, women don't need what to do. They already know what to do. Just want to know they are being listened to and that someone cares.

(8) Anonymous, March 19, 2014 4:06 PM

reinforcing sterotypical behavior validates continued practice

Advocating better listening skills is a step in the right direction. Promoting collaborative, solution seeking brainstorming sessions would be more helpful. Stereotyping "women" or "men" is not appropriate in this day and age, nor is validating or reinforcing unhelpful behaviors. Instead, the last part of your talk could be the first part. Go on from there to suggest how in a world where both men and women have responsibilities in and out of their homes, they can be each other's best support in working together, solidifying their relationship, and continually building their bayis ne'eman b'yisrael.

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