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Trump and Other Topics I Refuse to Talk About
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Trump and Other Topics I Refuse to Talk About

We are given only a certain number of words to use in our lifetime. Don’t waste them.


In America today, it's almost impossible to avoid talking about politics.

Doomsayers from both sides of the aisle are predicting the end of the country as we know it and screaming their thoughts from every available media outlet. Politics is always a hot topic in Israel. But I'm not sure what any of this conversation accomplishes other than create greater animosity and depression.

I, for one, have decided to bow out. I refuse to participate in conversations where the President is even hinted at, let alone named. Not only is it guaranteed not to be an enlightening discussion but I'm relying on the Jewish idea (whose source remains elusive) that we are given only a certain number of words to use in our lifetime. I don't want to waste mine on the current American political scene.

If we have to make an accounting for how we used our gift of speech, I want to say that this year, despite the temptations, I bowed out of all these hostile, unproductive conversations.

But it's more than politics. If I need to be careful how I use my words, if I am subject to some celestial rationing, then I think I want to take more topics off the table.

I don't want to talk about shopping (I like nice things but I have nothing to say about the process of acquiring them). I don't want to talk about the latest restaurant (although I'll go eat there if you recommend it) and I don't want to talk about food (except to share a good recipe). I don't want to talk about television shows or golf. I don't want to talk about sports in general (although I do have a certain weakness for football) and I don't want to talk about the weather (or anything else that I can't change).

I don't want to talk about my weight or my diet or my finances (they're not that interesting with a distinct lack of zeros). I don't want to reveal private information about those I love. I don't want to complain and of course I don't want to speak lashon hara, gossip.

Words are so precious, the ability to speak such a special present from God. I don't want to misuse it or treat them cavalierly. I want to constantly be grateful and I think the idea of trying my best to limit my conversation to holier purposes reflects that goal.

As I said we only have a limited number of words to use in this lifetime. I really don't want to waste them on any words that rhyme with bump.

June 24, 2017

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Visitor Comments: 27

(22) Cara Rosenburg, July 11, 2017 11:30 PM

I think that idea is like increasing the minimum wage: good in theory but it doesn't work

(21) Neria, July 7, 2017 6:01 PM

Thank you

Basicly I like your concept of saving life energy. How about taking it a step further into solution orientation? Talking about viable alternatives and options only bring light and inspiration into this world.

(20) Laura, July 6, 2017 7:35 AM

"We only have a limited number of words to use in this lifetime"

I would love to know the biblical/Talmudic source of that principle.

(19) Madeleine, July 5, 2017 4:12 AM

In the face of evil, to keep silent is death

Not enough spoke out about what Hitler was doing and saying. Too many like you kept silent. Wasn't too good an idea was it?

(18) Anonymous, July 3, 2017 11:33 AM

source that we are only given a certain number of words to say in our lifetime

I asked my Rav for the source that you said is elusive - that we are given only a certain number of words to say in our lifetime.
He said that the Gaon of Vilna (abbreviated as "the Gra") said it and that the Chafetz Chaim quotes it from the Gra. Perhaps the Gra got it from a medrash or the like. For words of Torah we have no limits, for words of nonsense/useless talk we do have a limit. Our life can continue until we use up our allotment of words so it is to our advantage to not waste our words.

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