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Will Cosmetic Surgery Help?
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Will Cosmetic Surgery Help?

A facelift is not the solution to the real problem at hand.

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In 2010, Americans spent $10,677,415,674 on cosmetic surgery. That’s a lot of money. Apparently 84,685 of these were performed on patients 65 and older. I could probably stop writing here. These numbers seem to speak for themselves.

Let’s stipulate up front that there is a role, in fact, an important role, for cosmetic surgery. There are people who are born grossly disfigured. There are those who suffer trauma – accidents, burns – for whom cosmetic surgery is literally a life saver. When I was a teenager, my dog attacked me. It clamped onto my face and wouldn’t let go. I was cut in many places – down to the bone or the muscle. Fortunately for me, a plastic surgeon was in the emergency room and stitched me up. Because of his skill, he was able to keep the scarring minimal. So I am personally grateful to the profession.

26,635 were facelifts and 24,783 cosmetic eye lid operations were performed last year on patients 65 and up.

But we all know that there weren’t ten billion dollars worth of burn victims in 2010. And we all know that the over-65 crowd was not healing trauma wounds or dog bites. This isn’t speculation. Of the more than 84,000 procedures cited, 26,635 were facelifts and 24,783 were cosmetic eye lid operations (certainly not the result of being rushed out of a burning building).

So what do we do with this information (other than rethink our chosen professions)? I’ve heard (I have no statistical support for this) that in some circles, it is considered de rigueur for a girl to get a nose job for her 16th birthday. All those deviated septums…

I’m not going to bemoan our culture of youth. Been there, done that. And I find myself susceptible. I’m too afraid (and too broke) for any surgery (I think the Torah prohibits elective cosmetic surgery where the motivation is vanity rather than need – a complicated area requiring honesty and judgment; consult your local rabbi) but I’m not immune to the lures. I can be seduced by the promise of a really good anti-aging cream or that perfect eye serum.

I’m also not going to discuss what kind of message we are giving our adolescent daughters; that should be obvious.

I want to explore the root of this issue which I believe to be an underlying dissatisfaction with our lives coupled with the belief that this surgery, this new house, this piece of jewelry, this trip will change it. And we all know that it’s an illusion. When you wake up with your new nose, or lifted eyelids, you’re still you – with all your challenges and issues. Nothing has really changed – except for some black and blue spots and a dent in your bank balance.

In Ethics of Our Fathers, we are taught that the rich man is the one who is happy with his lot. The basic interpretation of this Mishnah is that we should be content with our level of material well-being and not constantly yearn for more. This is certainly a true point. But I think the advice of our sages is more far-reaching. We should be happy with every aspect of our lot – that we were born short and not tall, male rather than female, to this particular family with its unique set of challenges and opportunities and not to that idealized family down the street, with academic proficiency but with no musical inclinations or abilities, even with this nose.

And it continues – not just with out innate circumstances but with how our life evolves. We need to be happy with this spouse, this job, this home, this community – and these inevitable signs of aging.

The key to dissatisfaction to keep a constant list of "if only"s, or to harbor the mistaken belief that external circumstances are the key to happiness.

We need to stop staring in the mirror and start looking around us to see who needs our help.

The good news about these statistics (apparently compiled by the America Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery) is that at least one segment of the population continues to be fully employed! But the sad news is the level of dissatisfaction. It seems to reflect the level of illusion.

The reality is that only a life of purpose and meaning can lift us out of this focus on unfulfilled expectations or outright fantasy. We need to stop staring in the mirror, we need to stop behaving like adolescents who can’t see a mirror without fixing their hair, and start looking around us to see who needs our help. I don’t want to see any plastic surgeons lose their jobs but I certainly think that if we put our minds to it, we could probably find a better use for ten billion dollars. And I believe that after a day spent helping others, we will begin to find that elusive sense of satisfaction and even a taste of happiness.

Published: December 3, 2011


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Visitor Comments: 19

(17) Anonymous, February 1, 2012 3:05 PM

Even the Torah praises the appearance of youth and beauty.

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(16) Anonymous, December 11, 2011 11:08 PM

I am for it

If you had healthy confidence before you will after as well. If you were insecure before you will still be after. After having three beautiful children, my stomach was 'broken' so I fixed it. I couldnt be happier and I would encourage anybody who asked me to go for it.

(15) Sharon Langert, December 11, 2011 4:12 AM

So true!

I really loved this article it's so very true and we all need to not just know this but really absorb and integrate this hashkafa into our lives! Thanks, xo Sharon www.fashion-isha.com

(14) Anonymous, December 8, 2011 11:39 PM

Does this really have to be an either/or proposition? Opting to have cosmetic surgery does not mean one is not concerned with events in the outside world. I have a weakness for cosmetics, but that does not mean I don't care about my neighbor. I am the proud owner of 6 (or maybe 7, who can remember?!) tubes of expensive lipstick. I am also the loving mother of a special needs young adult. I am too afraid (and can't afford) to have cosmetic surgery, but I don't condemn anyone else for opting to go that route. With that said, my heart goes out to you Emuna for the pain you must have endured after being bitten by your dog.

(13) Heidi T., December 8, 2011 7:32 PM

Ironic?

Am I the only one who noticed the irony in some of the comments here, especially as Hanukkah approaches? Someone quoted Aristotle - a Greek philosopher. Correct me if I'm wrong, but weren't the Maccabees fighting to defend Judaism against the effects of Hellenism? I believe a focus on human beauty was part of Greek culture, so wouldn't plastic surgery for purely cosmetic reasons be more in line with Greek values, not Judaic values? I'm not Jewish, so I can't say for sure, but that's what it seems like to me. Why is looking like you're 40 *better* than looking like you're 65? Because society thinks so? Where did those values come from? Judaism? I don't think so. Again, sounds more like "Greek" values to me, which, again, was what the Maccabees were fighting against, weren't they? Granted, how people feel about themselves is important, but I think a lot of people who replied missed the point of the article, which to me was that time and money could be better spent on other, more important things - things that are important in Judaism, and therefore, should probably be more important to Jews?

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