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Bill Bennett's Vice

Bill Bennett's Vice

Accusations of hypocrisy leveled at the author of "The Book of Virtues" teach us an important lesson about how we instill values in our children.

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Is William Bennett a hypocrite?

Turns out the best-selling author of "The Book of Virtues" has a vice: he likes to gamble. A lot.

According to recent reports in Newsweek and The Washington Monthly, the former drug czar and moral crusader lost millions of dollars in Las Vegas and Atlanta City since the early 90s. And the commentators sure are having a field day.

Michael Kinsley writes in Slate, "Sinners have long cherished the fantasy that William Bennett, the virtue magnate, might be among our number. The news over the weekend -- that Bennett's $50,000 sermons and best-selling moral instruction manuals have financed a multimillion dollar gambling habit -- has lit a lamp of happiness in even the darkest hearts."

Hypocrisy is saying one thing and doing another -- while justifying it with a double standard.

Personally, I don’t know what all the fuss is about. Bennett never claimed to be the perfect role model of virtue and morality. Nor is he a hypocrite. Hypocrisy is saying one thing and doing another -- while justifying it with a double standard. "You should quit smoking! But I don’t have to."

Saying something and not succeeding to live up to the standard one has set for himself and others is not hypocrisy. It’s inconsistency.

Every one of us is inconsistent to some degree. We tell our kids to eat healthy foods, and then lose ourselves in a pint of Ben and Jerry’s once they're in bed, safely tucked away. We yell at our kids, "Don’t yell at each other!"

The hypocrite can do no wrong. We take offense to his arrogant preaching that is directed at everyone but himself.

An inconsistent person doesn't apply a double standard. He's not perfect. He recognizes his flaws and often berates himself for succumbing to his weakness.

Bill Bennett never said, "Americans should not gamble. But I? No problem!" The only scoop here is that -- surprise, surprise -- Bennett isn't the embodiment of all the virtues that he believes are important to instill in today's youth.

IMPERFECT PARENTS

Perfection is not the prerequisite to teach values to others. If it were, what right would we have to teach our children?

Perhaps part of the reason for the vociferous attack on Bennett stems from the prevalent but misguided notion that the only way to teach morality is by being a role model.

Don't get me wrong. "Do as I say, not as I do" is obviously an ineffective tactic. If you want to instill the trait of humility in your kids, being a role model is extremely important. But it is just as important to actively teach and articulate the ins and outs of developing this trait. Why is it important to be humble? How does it differ from meekness?

"You shall repeat them to your children and speak of them" Deut. 6:7.

Teaching any important subject requires comprehensive understanding and lucid instruction. The same goes with teaching values. Just being a role model leaves far too much unstated and fuzzy. It reinforces what a child learns, but it doesn't replace the actual education of values.

Even if parents don't model the value they're teaching, the lesson can still be inculcated, albeit not as effectively. My six-year-old son brought this lesson home to me. A few weeks ago we were walking by one of his favorite local spots -- an enclosed yard that housed two ducks. That day, a few kids from the neighborhood were lobbing pebbles at the ducks, taunting them. My son was completely flabbergasted at their behavior and exclaimed, "What -- didn't they go to heder [religious school] and learn about tzaar baalei chaim [the Torah prohibition against causing needless pain to animals]?!"

For my son, it was a just a given that he and his peers should live according the ethics they are taught in heder. It wasn't my role modeling that taught him this value (we don't happen to have any animals around the house). It was something he was taught as part of his Jewish education.

For the same reason, my ten-year-old daughter, who spent the recent spring break running a small "camp" for a group of kids, decided on her own to give ten percent of her earnings to charity. She didn't pick this mitzvah up from watching her parents write checks (which maybe we should be doing in front of the children), we had discussed it with her around the Shabbat table.

My kids are not angels. But seeing that their Jewish education is actually being internalized and informing their personal decisions gave me an appreciation of an aspect of Torah's genius that I previously knew only in theory. It takes a whole lot of clarity and curriculum to raise moral children. The Almighty didn't leave anything up in the air, vague and non-descript. He gave us a Torah that explicitly defines and delineates the values to teach our children, the first "Book of Virtues."

Bill Bennett may not be the perfect model of ethical living -- who is? But his flaws do not forfeit his ability -- and responsibility -- to teach values. If they did, none of us could be effective teachers or parents.

I am struggling to become a role model for my children. I realize the more congruent I am with Torah, the deeper the impact I will make.

But my kids can't wait that long. They need to be taught Jewish values now.

Published: May 10, 2003


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Visitor Comments: 16

(16) Hal, August 10, 2007 1:36 PM

Bill Bennett is still a great teacher

Mosheh Rabeinu committed sins. Does this invalidate the Torah? Should we throw it out, G-d forbid? Of course not. We still need to live by the Torah's lessons. G-d has not created a perfect man. But at least we have standards to live up to. The world would be a better place if people tried to live up to the standards embodied in the Torah and Dr. Bennett's "Book of Virtues".

I am surprised that the editors chose to print the vicious libel from Anonymous on 10/6/2005. Dr. Bennett was praised by Coretta Scott King, widow of Martin Luther King, for consistently referring to her late husband as "Reverend King", an appellation that makes the mainstream media uncomfortable. Unlike his political opponents, Dr. Bennett's life has been about opening up educational opportunities for all people regardless of race. Anonymous should be ashamed of committing lashon hara against this righteous Gentile.

(15) Anonymous, October 6, 2005 12:00 AM

I think MR. Bennet is a racial hyporcrite.Just about everthing he says or does race always has to be an option or play a major role.

(14) Anonymous, May 24, 2003 12:00 AM

disagree

your basic concept is fine; however, Mr. Bennett's preaching has another side, and that is the political one, legislating HIS ideas - punishing those who HE considers immoral and without virtue. This disqualifies him from merely being inconsistent. This makes him truly dangerous. That is why his flaws, while nothing to rejoice about - they engender sympathy in me - are welcome to so many, to see how those who tell others what is right and wrong, are or can be themselves, imperfect.

(13) Anonymous, May 20, 2003 12:00 AM

BILL BENNETT'S VICE

I was disappointed with the news about Bill Bennett but am more appalled with the amount of time, energy and money his attackers spent looking for dirt on him. I still admire Mr. Bennett and his work. Fortunately, I too, am a sinner that needs forgiveness. I too, am not perfect. I too, hold stongly held opinions. But I would much rather have my son read Bill Bennett's writings than those of his attackers. He is a wonderful role model, flaws and all.

(12) Annette L-S, May 16, 2003 12:00 AM

I'll bring this one for Shabbat learning!

With 2 lovely teenaged daughters aged 17 & 14 this is a common topic with the 14 year old!: "how come you wont let me wear a spaghetti strap short tanktop and you even have a photo of you at my age with a skimpy little top?" aaahhh! the "how come you did, but you wont let me..." syndrome is what we call it! My response is always: My parents didnt teach me Torah, YOUR mother does! as much as I can. And thank you so much for mentioning the difference between hypocrisy and inconsistency...
Moses wasnt perfect either, and BOY! did he EVER pay for his mistakes.
But did I continue to wear "skimpy little tops"? Ofcourse NOT. I figured it out myself, not through parental guidance; I remind my daughter "the intelligent person must learn from their mistakes, the wise from the mistakes of others. And as an active and involved parent, I'm saving you a lot of time so you can make this a better world quicker"

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