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Mayim Bialik on Divorce

How I handle being divorced and frame it so it works as best as it can for me, for my ex, for my kids.

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Visitor Comments: 35

(31) Elisabeth Stewart, January 11, 2018 5:48 AM

Good Advice

So simple to follow, so refreshing, and a huge help to anyone going through the devastation of divorce. Our children are our precious heritage. Love this. Thank you

(30) Bobby5000, December 29, 2017 6:04 AM

differences in divorce

Divorces differ. Some couples may just not get along and realize that divorce is the best course and after some legal wrangling work out something reasonably fair. Another group involved infidelity. If a husband leaves his 50 year old wife for his 25 year old secretary, working things out may be harder. Another group involves one spouse who still loves the other and particularly with men, that may manifest as anger, or court filings.

Advisers sometimes do not help. Lawyers are prized for being tough and nasty, yet understanding to their clients. Thus there becomes a ready market for telling clients what they want to hear. Psychologists may tell their female clients the husbands are borderline abusive or husbands that their wives are narcissistic and both can be told they are enablers.

Ultimately the entire group needs to try to get along and create a new life, and have emotional intelligence with their spouse though there can be barriers to doing so. A commitment to putting children first and realizing that having two parents is good is the first step.

(29) Anonymous, December 28, 2017 3:43 PM

beautiful

(28) Ron Ander, December 27, 2017 3:29 PM

Beautifully spoken!

Mayim. You just described my experience with divorce that happened 32 years ago. It does take two to make it work. It helps if both parties are menches.

(27) Phil Fisher, December 26, 2017 10:33 PM

Dear Mayim, how did you find words I wrote or spoke in 1985?

Now I am 77- former wife 75. Been divorced for 33 years. Why do 2 humans once deeply in love go from devotion to divorce as years/decades roll by? Each story is different, yet those who hold steadfast to love,respect,patience, understanding... as to family values which help to raise great kids, are those unto whom blessings of love will flow.....our 2 daughters and their children are the blessings of which I write. I, the fella, am blessed with a step-daughter as great as the 2 biological daughters—- and we are all part of ONE family...former wife gratefully included in family events....after all neither I nor former wife are former parents!

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