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Our Children are Listening

It’s how we speak and treat each other every day that makes the deepest impact on our children.


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Visitor Comments: 4

(3) Chavie, December 19, 2016 1:31 PM

Great video, Slovie!

What an important message and so true!! I noticed that my most challenging child on the cusp of adolescence was raising her voice with increasing frequency. My refrain has become, "I hear that you're upset but you can't talk to me that way." And then - wonder of wonders - I've been noticing that I also raise my voice on occasion. I'm not a major "yeller" so I wasn't aware of it until seeing the behavior in my daughter. It's made me realize that I need to be on my toes to model better ways of communicating. Our children are our mirrors - they reflect back to us where we need to improve!

(2) Anonymous, December 19, 2016 12:55 PM

Re: Rising above

Thank you for your kind words Slovie, My mother z"l had a lot of sechel and was also one of the most intelligent women I ever knew. Sadly, she also suffered from low level depression, which festered into anger and resentment. She took out her frustrations on her family members. I just wish she could have recognized just how gifted she was.

(1) Anonymous, December 18, 2016 12:39 PM

Relearning how to address my family members.

I am posting this anonymously because it is VERY painful. When my mother z'l wanted my father z'l to do something, I don't remember EVER hearing her say the words please and thank you. She sounded much more like a boss on the job. When I was in first or second grade, one of my teachers said that please and thank you are magic words. I am continuing to remind myself to use those words when communicating with my husband and son. My family members are not my employees! (I also use please and thank you when speaking to my employee, but that is a subject for another video.) Kol tuv Slovie.

slovie jungreis wolff, December 18, 2016 11:46 PM

you have risen above

Your words show how incredibly important this message is. Years go by but the impression remains. You have decided to create your own language of respectful communication. May your life be filled with joy and blessing.

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