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The Marshmallow Test

A child's ability to delay gratification is a key indicator for future success.

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Published: March 12, 2011

How do you develop self-discipline in your children?

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Visitor Comments: 5

(4) Yocheved, March 17, 2011 6:14 PM

I agree with his philosophy 100%

That's exactly what theTorah is all about - Self control!!

(3) Jewish Mom, March 16, 2011 8:21 AM

Why not link this to Yaakov Salomon's blog?

Yaakov Salomon's blog this week is about the happiest person - an unusual combination of characteristic, two of which are being an Orthodox Jew! He asks why that might be. This video has the answer. Orthodox Jews are well-trained in self-control and delaying gratification (for FFBs, from infancy on). You'll have young children denying themselves tempting treats offered to them, not just for 15 minutes, but forever, because the candy isn't kosher - they first ask their parent if it is or isn't and accept the answer. Or they'll deny themselves a dairy treat because the requisite time hasn't gone by since they last ate meat. Or they'll face the dark rather than switch a light on in their bedroom on Shabbos if it wasn't set on a timer before Shabbos to switch on and off at appropriate times. The laws for Jewish married couples preserve the excitement and promote the freshness of their relationship, but are impossible without well-developed self-control. The examples are endless, but the rewards are great in this world and the next!

(2) Iris Moskovitz, March 14, 2011 3:00 PM

Brilliant

I winder how many adults would be able to hold off on bigger and better things, knowing they would be repaid with double goody?! Good question to think about, no?

(1) Saul, March 13, 2011 5:48 PM

Marshmallow test

Saying no is important.

Julius, March 14, 2011 1:17 PM

He hit the nail on the head.

I hate seeing a parent "cave in" after saying no, and then REWARDING a child for screaming and throwing a tantrum or being disobient to the parent.

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