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In Praise of Painless Childbirth
by Emuna Braverman
"I'm in favor of anesthesia during childbirth. If we take advantage of modern medicine for other problems, why not childbirth?"

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"Mazel Tov," I said to a friend the other day. "Congratulations on your new baby daughter."

"Thank you," he answered beaming.

"And how was the delivery?"

"Natural," he said proudly, "not even an aspirin."

Now I'm very happy they had a healthy baby. I'm very happy that the mother had a (relatively) easy delivery. But (please don't hurl things at me) what is so great about doing it naturally? Whoever said childbirth was supposed to be an endurance test?

I know this isn't PC, but I'm all in favor of drugs during childbirth. I think there's a good reason for modern medicine. If you have headache, you don't say I want to get through it the natural way. You take Tylenol. If you have an infection you don't say I want to get through it the natural way (it's called death). You take penicillin. So why should childbirth be any different?

Jews see the doctor not as the enemy but as the Almighty's messenger.

Aren't we grateful to live in a new era? Unlike some other religions, Jews take full advantage of the benefits of modern medicine, seeing the doctor not as the enemy but as the Almighty's messenger.

I've heard the argument that an anesthetic may affect the baby or the mother adversely. However, if it is administered properly -- I'm talking about that wonderful invention called an "epidural" -- the mother should be fine and the side-effects for the baby minimal.

I've heard the argument that contractions will stop or slow down and you will have to have more drugs to induce labor. All my deliveries had to be induced so that argument does not hold water with me.

I've heard the argument that you won't know when to push -- you'll know, and if not, the doctor will tell you. Unless there are complications, babies don't stay in -- they come out.

I've heard the argument that anesthesia is a sexist tool to make labor and delivery easier for the (male) doctors.

I say the opposite is true: only a real woman-hater would promote an idea as painful and unpleasant as natural childbirth.

Yes, I know that natural methods are supposed to make childbirth a beautiful experience. The birth is beautiful. It's the labor leading up to it that's torture -- a disappearance into a numbed state where you alternate between breathing and screaming while staring mindlessly at the wall waiting to take the head off the next nurse who says "find your focal point."

A MOTHER OF NINE

Let me pause for a moment to establish my credibility. I had seven children without an epidural and only two with. So I've had the experience. (Everyone, men included should try it at least once.)

Let me state unequivocally that doing it without drugs (okay, they gave me Demerol which only causes you to slur your words between contractions) does nothing to enhance the birth experience. It is (very!) painful and frightening. Okay, maybe it enhances your joy when the baby's born, because you're just so glad it's over!

But it's much more pleasurable, dramatically more pleasurable, to give birth without the pain. What are we, masochists?

The only reason most of my children were born without the assistance of anesthesia was because of the HMO we belonged to refused to provide it.

They finally gave the go-ahead for my eighth child. I was so thrilled when the anesthesiologist walked into the room. "I've been dreaming of you," I said. "Not the baby?" he asked, surprised. "No, you," I affirmed. And it was wonderful. Thank God, I had a delicious baby girl without the torment.

Thank God that the childbirth experience can be without pain and terror.

Some people stoop to the argument "If God had wanted us to have epidurals..." I say: Thank God that man was given the wisdom to create them. Thank God that the childbirth experience can be without pain and terror. Thank God the prospective parents can be free to focus on the upcoming miracle.

In Torah times, women had to bring a guilt offering after childbirth. One of the explanations for this is that during their moments of intense pain, they might have vowed never to let their husbands touch them again! Therefore one could even argue that epidurals promote shalom bayit, "peace in the home"!

I may not be espousing the politically correct viewpoint but one thing I do know: delivery with drugs is a lot more fun for mom and dad. And what's good for mom and dad is good for the baby.

Next time ... why I like Caesareans!


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VISITORS COMMENTS: 30

(30) Anonymous, 22/8/2008
there is no right or wrong!!
for me i deal with pain very well for the most part, alot of times i do not take medicine for even a headache. some people do not like the use of medication, and that is our own right! and you have the right to use meds! there shoul not be judging on either side everyone is diffrent! during the birth of my son i did not use any medicine or epidural because i was very calm during the labor and that helps ease the pain, far as the delivery goes, i want to feel and know whats goin on and use my maternal instincts. there is no right or wrong. some people have a high tolerance for pain and some have a low tolerance.

(29) Rivka Lawther, 10/8/2008
Talk about disempowering Jewish women!
Wow, what a dreadful article, I'm so sorry!

When you learn about true physiological normal birth, there is no need to be frightened or overwhelmed by the sensations of labour.

Modern Natural birth advocates are teaching us what the Torah gaves us clues to all along (as seems to be with most other things!).

Firstly, Chava wasnt cursed with pain in childbirth, she was cursed with sorrow - and when you look at the hebrew, Adam's curse was actually double that sorrow! We don't see farmers dying en masse in their fields because pulling weeds is so dangerous and painful!

Then we have the example of the Jewish women in Egypt. They were so expert in their knowledge of childbirth, they managed to birth their babies before the midwives got there! What an amazing potential within all of us! 'Chayot' is interpretted to mean experts, like midwives - so the first clue to an easy birth is to educate yourself on the physiological process. It is also interpretted to mean lively/active. So the second clue is not to be a passive participant in your birth - danger occurs when you hold the belief that you need someone else to deliver your baby! The third clue comes from Rashi's interpretation of being like 'beasts of the field' - modern Natural birth experts such as Michel Odent teach about Mammalianising birth, and Ina May Gaskin talks about 'letting your monkey do it'...advice that worked for our Jewish foremothers!!


Tznius is also the key to optimal natural oxytocin production

(28) Anonymous, 21/6/2007
BECAUSE CHILDBIRTH IS NOT A "PROBLEM"
"If we take advantage of modern medicine for other problems, why not childbirth?"

BECAUSE CHILDBIRTH IS NOT A "PROBLEM!!"


Suffering is not a mitzvah. But childbirth does not have to be equated with suffering.

I did not suffer through the births of my eight children. I looked forward for months to this amazing experience, to the elation I would experience, the "high" that Hashem provides with the natural opiate-like endorphins He created that "kick in" when a woman is truly relaxed, joyous, and not terrified of childbirth.
Childless for years, challenged with infertility issues, I looked forward for years to the privilege of being granted the opportunity to daven and birth our children in a normal, uncomplicated, "natural" way....
Already considered "high risk" because of the difficulty of becoming pregnant, I wanted to avoid hospital birth, and chose to birth our children at home, as is usual in Western European countries (unlike USA and Israel).

Though we needed the assistance of modern medical miraculous treatment, I did not want the birth experience to be considered a "medical emergency" ; it was not an illness that required medication and intervention.

We had enough with the fertility drugs and high tech procedures!


There does not need to be suffering. I wish I could have been your doula Emuna... that we could have met and spoken years ago. That you did not have to feel alone and afraid.

Please don't begin a mission to convert women to your way of thinking. Please respect that everyone is very very different and I would not want to be laughed at because of my enormous respect and appreciation for how Hashem created my body with the ability to birth babies without hospital practices that can also cause unnecessary suffering, complications and death, G-d forbid.

No women needs to suffer. If an epidural will alleviate her suffering, she should use it, b'simcha. There is no "right way" to birth.

But please don't put down those who do not want intervention, including those who are afraid to even enter a hospital because of the risks involved there, or because of the horrendous violation they experienced at a previous birth, G-d forbid.

May all women give birth swiftly, speedily, joyously, without complications, to healthy, wholesome children who will give nachas to our Benevelant Creator!

(27) Anonymous, 21/6/2007
Childbirth Without Fear
Emuna writes: " Thank God that the childbirth experience can be without pain and terror. Thank God the prospective parents can be free to focus on the upcoming miracle."
I suggest she read "Childbirth Without Fear."
No woman, whether or not she uses an epidural, should face childbirth with fear and terror. How sad. G-d has granted us so many miracles, including the phenomenal way He designed women's bodies for giving birth. We are very sadly out of touch with our own inner strenth.
Childbirth can be an empowering, intensively growth promoting experience of devakus Hashem.... of closeness to G-d.

I am very very sorry to read that without an epidural, childbirth was "Pain and terror" for you. That you were not able to focus on the miracle of the birth, that it was not a time of holiness and closeness to G-d.

Humor in medicine is very helpful. Humor in life is essential for positive living. However, it is hard for me to separate the "humor" of this article, from the seriousness of the subject. Advocating epidurals as though they are G-d's gift to humanity.... how sad. Maybe the readers should check out Michelle Thaler's article on Aish.com "Just Doing."

Yes, no one should judge another for the decisions they make. But to advocate epidurals.... when Hashem created our bodies so magnificently.... how sad. How tragic.





About the author:

Emuna Braverman

Emuna Braverman has a law degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters in Psychology from Pepperdine University. She lives with her husband and nine children in Los Angeles where they both work for Aish HaTorah. When she isn''''t writing for the Internet **or** taking care of her family, Emuna teaches classes on Judaism, organizes gourmet kosher cooking groups and hosts many Shabbos guests.


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