During these days between Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur, when we strive to live with a heightened awareness, it's important to be clear on your priorities in life and not get caught up with endless distractions. Here's a simple exercise to help you stay focused.
Write down 10 of the most important principles you believe in that shape your life priorities. What are the big-picture fundamentals that you know deep down should be guiding your decisions and that you all too often forget about in the daily grind? It doesn't matter if they're obvious or simple; you're not trying to impress anyone with your list. This is your private reminder of the principles you ultimately want to be living with.
It doesn't matter how well it's written, and whether or not you're a philosopher. Just write, and later you can hone your list down, and perhaps share with others.
Here's my list, in no particular order:
1. This world is a corridor to the Next World. My life -- right here, right now -- is to create eternity by choosing wisely, to connect to God and become more and more like God. Get moving; this opportunity is quickly evaporating.
2. I have free will and can choose to wage battle against my yetzer hara, my lower self. I am responsible for my actions. There are no excuses, only eternal consequences. God is filming everything, and isn't going to turn a blind eye. He expects the most from me. Choose life!
3. The only real failure in life is not trying. Don't be afraid to take on new challenges and risks. I never know what good will come from my focused efforts, but I do know what will come from not trying.
4. I have an obligation to learn and know the entire Torah. What is my plan to accomplish this? What am I doing about it?
5. Am I making God welcomed and comfortable to be with me in my day to day life? Am I thinking inappropriate things? Am I viewing in appropriate things? Am I wasting time? Losing my temper? Being critical and judgmental? Am I even thinking about God?
6. Am I taking care of my health?
7. Am I nurturing my most important relationships? Be affirming, positive, giving to others.
8. It doesn't matter what others think of me. My self esteem comes from recognizing that I am a pure soul, loved by God, striving to do my best.
9. I am responsible for the Jewish people. With the majority of Jews intermarrying and assimilating, there is a grave spiritual crisis, as well as a serious physical threat to Jews everywhere. What am I doing about this? What else can I do?
10. If I'm not pushing myself beyond my comfort zone, I'm not really living. Life in this world is for growth and struggle.
11. (I know I said ten, but how can I not include this one?) God is the ultimate reality, the transcendent source of all existence. There are no accidents; everything happens for a reason and is somehow for my good.
That's my list. What's yours? Please share some of your core principles in the comment section below. Shana tova!







(10) Anonymous , September 29, 2006
I found your 11 guiding principles helpful in organizing my thoughts.
(9) Yoshe:) , September 28, 2006
Ten Principles
1. God exists and loves us.
2. When I make a mistake, admit it out loud.
3. People, including me, are basically good and want to do the right thing.
4. Speak and do what is right calmly.
5. Consider the effects of present actions on the 10th generation.
6. Lead by example. Be the first to do what is right.
7. Do the words I tell others to do.
8. Let tears out.
9. Be equally kind to strangers, family and friends.
10. Say 'no' and 'yes' firmly.
(8) RobertMarr , September 26, 2006
core principles for this year
1. be consistent in the little things.
2. show mercy instead of pride
3. be health conscious
4. share different perspectives with all people.
5. pray for my enemies as i pray for the ones i love.
6. talk about G-d and his ways all the time.
7. put myself in challenging situations
8. love myself thoroughly
9. serve people with joy and kindness
10. never give in to the easy way of life; never conform
(7) esther , September 26, 2006
guiding principle
I believe that every letter of the tanakh as well as every tiniest design element in creation and every smallest detail of each situation in which I find myself is designed specifically to teach me about God, his love for man, and how I am to relate to him. May I pay close attention and be blessed by learning more of God and of His plan for me. May it teach me how to relate to him and to others.
(6) HelenGarrels , September 26, 2006
I loved your list it is very well done, I could not improve on it. thanks