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Rosh Hashanah and Alcoholics Anonymous

Rosh Hashanah and Alcoholics Anonymous

Members of AA can teach us what it means to confront a bad habit, stare down a relentless temptation, and persevere.


Someone with whom I am close invited me to attend a celebration of a major milestone in his life: the anniversary of another year of sobriety. My friend is an alcoholic and a member of Alcoholics Anonymous.  Each year, to celebrate the anniversary of sobriety, members are presented with a medallion at the beginning of an AA meeting that is open to the public.

It was a life-transforming hour for me. Attending the meeting were men and women, young and old, people covered in tattoos and piercings, and others in expensive suits. It is hard to imagine a more eclectic and diverse group assembled in one room, and yet, for all their differences, I don’t know that I have ever been in the presence of people who felt so united, so together, and so much like family with one another.

The members of AA are part of a special fraternity, a group united by a common battle and therefore they can relate to one another in ways nobody else in their lives can. The loyalty, kinship and extraordinary displays of support are something truly special.

I listened attentively as the meeting opened with a reading of the 12 steps followed by the 12 promises the program makes to those who steadfastly follow them. Before the powerful sharing portion began, the medallions were awarded to the evening’s celebrants. The first celebrant was a woman who was marking her two-year anniversary of being clean from alcohol. In her remarks she said something that gave me great pause. She noted that being an alcoholic makes her feel like “damaged goods” and in some ways “inferior.” She said that overcoming her struggles with alcohol and being clean is such a source of blessing that it far overshadows those other negative feelings.

We are all addicts of some sort.

“Damaged goods.” “Inferior.” I was struck by those words and couldn’t help but think that both she and all the others in that room were anything but. If we were honest with ourselves we would recognize that everyone has a vice, a poor habit, or an addiction. Some are workaholics who never see their families. Others are shopaholics who spend beyond what they have or buy things beyond what they could possibly need. Some struggle with gossip, others are challenged not to gaze at lewd images. Some lead sedentary lives in which they never exercise and others have eating habits that leave much to be desired. Some are quick to anger and others seem to never have learned how to speak nicely. Some drive too quickly and others text while driving. Some procrastinate while others are perfectionists to a fault. Some can’t disconnect from their technology and others can’t live without the latest gadget.

While society may label all of these “bad habits,” for some reason we put them in a different category than other addictions like alcohol or drugs, even though they share similar patterns, cravings, and compulsions, and also have devastating consequences. While alcoholics and drug addicts have programs and support groups, most of the other practices are not only not addressed, we often excuse their behavior at best and encourage it at worst. The workaholic impresses us and we may even be jealous of the shopaholic. We dismiss, or sometimes even glorify the tech junkie as “quirky” or “hip” and actually identify with junk food addict. The procrastinator says they can’t find inspiration unless it is the last minute and the person obsessed with clothing and style is considered really put together.

The members of AA have an incredible amount to teach the rest of us, their fellow addicts who can’t live without our vices, what it means to confront a bad habit, to stare down a relentless temptation, and to persevere. Indeed, not only are they not damaged or inferior, those successfully overcoming alcoholism are heroic warriors worthy of both our admiration and emulation. After all, the famous mishna in Ethics of our Fathers teaches: Who is a mighty warrior? One who conquers his or her inclination (4:1).

Let’s confront our vices and imperfections the way alcoholics in recovery do, every single day.

In a few days we will encounter Rosh Hashanah and be evaluated for our lifestyles, our habits, and our behaviors. We are running out of time to perform an intervention on ourselves and to finally admit that we have a problem or in some cases, multiple problems. Everyone who shares at an AA meeting begins by saying his or her name following by the courageous admission “and I am an alcoholic.” What participants say only has credibility and meaning if it begins with an admission and acknowledgement that there is a problem. Similarly, our teshuva (repentance) process begins with confession, the verbalized, articulated statement: I made a mistake, I have a problem, and I want to correct my ways.

“In the place that someone who has conquered his or her flaws stands, a purely righteous person is not worthy to stand.” The recovering addict, no matter the addiction, is in fact superior, say our Sages.

Let’s not wait to hit rock bottom to be motivated to change our ways. Let’s take advantage of this special time of year to take honest accountings of our lives and to confront our vices and imperfections the way alcoholics in recovery do, every single day. May we be worthy to stand alongside with them.

September 20, 2014

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(7) Elizabeth, September 17, 2015 8:36 AM

AA is from HaShem and I'm so grateful

I;ve just celebrated my 25th year of sobriety in AA, and my husband turned 27 in July. Although we're both chronologically over 60 years old, we are really young at heart, because our lives began when we stopped drinking. I am convinced this program comes from HaShem. My spouse and I met each other at an AA meeting when he was 4 years sober, and I was 2! Before this time we would not have been capable of truly loving another person, so HaShem's timing was absolutely spot on! We both now sponsor other AA members and we trained to become professional drug and alcohol counsellors, so we've had the privilege of seeing hundreds of lives turned around by this wonderful, heaven-inspired program. We both thank Him every single day of our lives for our sobriety and our marriage.

(6) Kerry, September 25, 2014 5:30 PM

Great article

I have a lot of respect for anyone has come out of addictions.

(5) shira, September 24, 2014 9:02 PM

thank you

Thank you for the article.Inspiring and very real way of portraying people being able to overcome what ever is hard for them.

(4) clark, September 23, 2014 6:11 PM

The AA way are HaShems ways

Rabbi Efrem Goldberg's article on AA: I have 2.5 years in the lifestyle, which is HaShem's ways of doing things as well! I appreciate what the Rabbi said about learning from people in AA. with my shul I tried to share these principles with them, and they were very non responsive. I thought, "did I present it in a gentle, kind, and patient manner"? the answer was a resounding "yes"! even my rabbi wanted me to teach a class which wasn't my goal, but rather to set it up as an AA meeting keeping anonymity. The elders are the ones who knocked it down and didn't want any part of it. Which I later found out the reason why. every elder there is dealing with their dysfunctional issues their own way, not in the AA way, HaShem's way. I believe this whole program did come. from HaShem through Bill W. Some of the elders got divorced because of their alcoholism, and the behaviors associated with it like Rabbi Goldberg was saying.Others were caught stealing from the shul, while others were not walking in the way that is outlined in the Tanakh, as our Rabbi was teaching it, and still don't as they keep rejecting this way. Keep in mind that you see the wind and the effects of it but you don't know where comes from or where it goes, or " who" HaShem will use to give you the answer you need. so it is with the program of AA that Hashem uses to the lives of people who are willing, humble, walking in meekness, who are my life I nearly lost everything including my family because I was an alcoholic, drug addict, sex addict. my wife just wanted to walk away , and my daughter didn't really want to be around me. Today, I celebrate 30 years of marriage, my daughter just got married, and my step son just re-entered our lives. This Rosh Hashanah I can truly say that I am better than I was last year at this time, and the promises of AA have come true in my life. Todah Rabbah Rabbi Goldberg for going to the meeting with your friend and being willing to have an open mind and heart.

(3) Anonymous, September 23, 2014 9:16 AM

As members of AA often say "rock bottom is when you decide to stop digging". Some may have only dug a few inches into the earth before seeing the mistake, and some can no longer see the sun they have dug so deep, but in the end it is all the same. We all choose to drop the shovel and step out of the hole. Shanah tova u'metukah to all!

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