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Submitting Your Annual Report

Submitting Your Annual Report

This Rosh Hashana, celebrate your spiritual accomplishments.

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The latest issue of my Brandeis alumni magazine devoted two thirds of a page to the success of one graduate of the Class of '87. Her stunning achievement? She is Hollywood's only female sword-master and has become director of theatrical combat at the Beverly Hills Fencers' Club.

How does the magazine editor decide which graduate's career is worthy of highlighting? What criteria of success qualify to make one's alma mater proud? Wealth? Fame? Contribution to society? Uniqueness of profession?

The alumni themselves are invited to write in to describe their own recent accomplishments. This latest issue, for example, lists these truly noteworthy and hard-won accomplishments:

  • A.L., class of '91, received her doctor of veterinary medicine degree from Washington State University
  • J.H., class of '76, was named 2005 Psychologist of the Year by the Florida Psychological Association.
  • K.P., class of '73, was appointed executive vice president for strategy and ministry development at Catholic Health East.
  • A.S., class of '82, published a book, Mac Design Out of the Box.

Reading of my fellow alumni's various achievements, I wondered what a spiritual version of the magazine would look like. After all, a person can be justly proud of getting a degree, a promotion, or an award, but are spiritual achievements any less important? If B.G. is feted because he got a promotion up the corporate ladder, shouldn't he be feted for becoming a kinder person this year? If N.H. is congratulated for getting a post-doc degree, shouldn't she be congratulated that she stopped yelling at her kids?

From a Jewish standpoint, the measuring rod of significance in life is a spiritual barometer.

According to Judaism, the measuring rod of significance in life is a spiritual barometer. Thus, when N.H. gets that post-doc degree, from a Jewish standpoint she deserves congratulations because she exhibited the qualities of industriousness and perseverance to earn the degree. And if these qualities did not come naturally to her, she deserves even more accolades.

Contrary to popular perception, wealth, fame, and success are gifts from God, Who endows people with talent, intelligence, and specific aptitudes.

My book Holy Woman, which was published in May, just went into its fourth printing. Recently someone asked me, "You must be really proud to have written a bestselling book."

I replied, "Not really. Most of the ingredients of the bestseller -- my writing talent, my becoming acquainted such an amazing woman to write about, my access to the right people to interview [three of whom died a few months after the interview] -- all that came from God. My response is less pride than gratitude. But when I exercise enough self-discipline to get to bed on time, then I feel really proud."

THE YEARLY ISSUE

My alumni magazine comes out four times a year. Its spiritual counterpart, which really does exist, has only one issue per year: the Rosh Hashana/Yom Kippur issue. This is the time for all of us to reflect on and assess our spiritual accomplishments and failures. This is the time for our annual report.

While my alumni magazine prints only those reports submitted by proud alumni, its spiritual counterpart features a report by every one of us without exception. As the High Holy Day liturgy puts it: "The signature of every person's hand is in it."

And if, as Rosh Hashana draws near, we realize to our chagrin that we have few spiritual achievements to report, it's still not too late. The ten days between Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur, called "The Ten Days of Repentance," are an ideal time to score some spiritual goals. The deadline for submissions to our spiritual alum magazine is Yom Kippur.

PROGRESS REPORT

From an alumni magazine, we can learn two important spiritual lessons. The first is: Idealize upward movement.

alumni generally report new jobs, promotions, recently awarded distinctions, etc. Similarly, in our spiritual lives we should strive to constantly reach new levels. V.N. would be embarrassed to report: "I'm working at the same mid-level job I've had for the last 15 years." So why shouldn't V.N. be embarrassed to admit, "The same things that ticked me off 15 years ago still make me ballistic"?

J.H. would be loathe to submit for the 2006 issue, "I was named the 1995 Psychologist of the Year by the Florida Psychological Association." Yet how often when we search for our spiritual accomplishments do we revert to, "I started eating kosher 11 years ago." When we stand before God on the High Holy Days, God wants to hear about how we grew, changed, and progressed this year.

The key word here is "progressed." Spiritual achievement means that you're better in a particular character trait or mitzvah than you were last year. "More of the same" doesn't cut it.

God is interested only in progress reports.

So, if you are by nature and habit generous, reporting, "I gave $10,000 to Yad Eliezer for food distribution in Northern Israeli bomb shelters during the recent war," may not be at all impressive, because God is interested only in progress reports.

Let's say, on the other hand, you are by nature tight-fisted, never give to charity, and always throw out all your junk mail charity solicitations without even opening them. One day this August on your way between your mailbox and the trash basket, you noticed that one envelope was from Yad Eliezer and emblazoned on it were the words, "HELP ISRAEL'S NORTHERN RESIDENTS." You opened the envelope, read the appeal, and battled with yourself about whether to donate money. Finally, you decided to help, and wrote a check for $25. That's a spiritual victory!

Here's where the spiritual sword master comes in. All spiritual progress is a victory of one's higher inclinations (the soul) over one's lower inclinations (called the yetzer hara). Where there is no duel between these two rivals, there is no victory. Doing what comes naturally or what you do habitually is not a spiritual achievement. It doesn't qualify for the spiritual alum magazine.

That's why I feel prouder about getting to bed on time (in order not to be cranky the next day) than about writing a bestselling book. Writing comes easily to me. There's no battle involved, and therefore no victory. Getting to bed early enough to get a good night's sleep (a key to spiritual success), however, is a nightly fencing match with my yetzer hara. In collusion with my addiction to "getting one more thing done," it seduces me with temptations such as, "Just unload the dishwasher, so you can wake up to a clean sink." When I exercise enough self discipline to overcome its blandishments, I achieve a hard-won victory. I have to keep my sword to the yetzer's throat until the moment I turn out the light.

VALIDATING VICTORY

The second profound lesson we can learn from an alumni magazine is: Validate every accomplishment.

One of the greatest detriments to spiritual growth is our minimizing of our spiritual victories. K.W. is proud to report that she got her M.D. from Middlesex School of Medicine. So what that it wasn't Harvard Med! Yet most of us downplay our spiritual accomplishments: "So, I didn't yell at the kids this time, but I yelled at them twice yesterday." "So I let someone into the supermarket line ahead of me, even though I was also pressed for time. What's the big deal?"

We know that the best way to educate our children is with positive reinforcement. If we want our child to sit still when eating, we have to reinforce every three minutes she sits still, heaping on her attention and praise. Why, then, are we so remiss with reinforcing our own desirable behaviors?

There is no such thing as an insignificant spiritual victory.

When we face off with our yetzer hara, we have to be the home team. When a home team football player scores five yards, the fans cheer wildly. They don't pooh-pooh it, saying, "It was only five yards. It wasn't a touchdown." The more we cheer for our spiritual victories, the more victories we'll score.

Your mother pushed your button and you didn't snap back at her? Hurray! Bring out the band! Your co-worker at the water cooler started to gossip, and you changed the subject? Bravo! Give yourself a mental bouquet of roses!

These feats deserve at least as much recognition as becoming the first female sword-master in Hollywood.

As Rosh Hashana approaches, sit down and make a list of all the ways you've grown and improved this year. Don't consider any accomplishment too small. Then resolve to make new strides in the new year -- not giant leaps, but small, consistent steps.

There is no such thing as an insignificant spiritual victory. Emblazon that motto on your desk and start cheering!

For Sara Yoheved Rigler's FREE WEBINAR FOR SINGLE WOMEN on Sunday, Nov. 30, click here: http://www.sararigler.com/ie/ladder8242014.php.

Published: September 16, 2006


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Visitor Comments: 26

(26) Zahavah, September 22, 2014 4:47 PM

A Wonderfully Inspiring Article

There are many people who accomplish great feats. A Mom who does so much each day and manages to do it with a smile. (Also a Mom who manages to do much without yelling)
A quiet co-worker who gets little recognition who rarely or never gossips or shares unhappiness. A smiling neighbor who walks his dog who always has a kind , understanding
word for a shy child. The man who bags groceries who always remembers your name. The small things add up as much as the big things that somehow always get noticed.
And what about those among the tribe who have overcome
hardships of many kinds and have come out victors by never giving up and just pushing on. We will never know the stories these people have to share. Maybe Aish should publish something like this. They have my email if they want to use it. I'd be so honored to hear from them.

(25) Anonymous, September 2, 2014 12:07 PM

Who Gets Awarded?

I have yet to hear of a synagogue or Jewish organization that gives anybody recognition or awards to everyday normal people for speaking nicely to their kids or being a mensch on the road or being thoughtful to their spouses. Those who get honored either raised a lot of money or did a lot of work for the organization, or have wealthy friends that the organization wants to tap when they honor the honoree. So I'm sure you're right that God looks for the private acts of spiritual greatness, but Jewish organizations, alas, honor the big shots.

(24) Rachel, September 2, 2014 1:49 AM

Newsworthy is supposed to be interesting

It wouldn't make very interesting reading to read about classmates who lovingly gave their children breakfast and then kissed them goodbye when they went to school. The world is full of all sorts of good and kind deeds done every day by millions of people, who aren't looking for awards, articles or any other special notice outside their families and friends. So I wouldn't expect an alumni journal to sing the praises of some relatively unknown alumna who was as good and kind as one of her classmates. I don't need or want journals to extol motherhood; I expect them to talk about more unusual people and events. And if they have any practical advice (recipes, health, investing, buying a car, etc), that's good, too!
Also, I think that fame and professional success are related to the effort that most people put into their work, not just a matter of wining God's lottery. Meryl Streep was blessed by God in many ways but she also certainly has worked at her craft. I know people who are brilliant and have no accomplishments because they haven't done the work.
This article frankly annoyed me. If the author is as modest as she claims why doesn't she publish her books and blogs anonymously?
I didn't go to Brandeis, either - usually the schools with the bragging rights behave shamefully, as Brandeis did when it dis-invited Ayaan Hirsi Ali.

(23) Frida, August 31, 2014 6:48 PM

Thank you for forth is amazing article. Your writing is always inspiring!

(22) Lisa, August 31, 2014 11:38 AM

Thanks for the spiritual " wake up" call !!

Once again, a phenomenal positive Dvar Torah!!

The " mother who pushes your buttons" said it all!! That's what I'm working on.....day by day....hour by hour...minute by minute....!!

Wishing a hearty Shana Tova to you & your whole mishpacha !!

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