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Three-Month-Old Baby’s Funeral

Three-Month-Old Baby’s Funeral

My thoughts and feelings after attending the heart-rending funeral of the baby brutally killed by an Arab terrorist.


I just got back from the funeral of the three-month-old baby that was killed in the terror attack and I feel a need to write. It may be a ramble so I apologize.

Unfortunately I've been to funerals before, way too many to count. I've been to funerals of people who passed away of old age, of sickness, of accidents, of suicide and drug overdose. I've been to funerals of old people, middle aged and teenagers. But I’ve never been to the funeral of a baby. A little three-month-old baby. A healthy baby, brutally killed in broad daylight.

It hit me hard. Real hard.

I'm crying now, I’ve been crying for hours already.

I got to the funeral and made my way to the front. I saw the little baby wrapped up in shrouds, placed in front of everyone. It was so small, a little package on a huge slab of marble. The mother was right there, sobbing – wailing – screaming for her little baby girl.

There was a great sadness in the air, as well as this tension. No one was comfortable. It shouldn't be like this. The parents are so young – they look like children themselves. It shouldn't be that a 90-year-old rabbi eulogizes a little baby. The father spoke, it brought wails up from everyone in the crowd. They waited years to have this baby and had taken her that day to the Kotel for the first time.

What can we say? What can we do?

God has his plans and we aren't privy to the details. It’s painful and I could only imagine what that mother and father are going through. Losing their only child, right in front of their eyes.

I feel guilty in a way. The whole thing happened right outside my house. I heard the entire commotion but I didn't see exactly what happened. My son was watching and said he heard someone say a baby was hurt. I calmed him down. He asked me about the baby before he went to sleep but I didn’t' have the heart to tell him that she died.

I didn't cry at first. I didn't know the identity of the couple. It was sad but..,

Then I heard who it was and I cracked. I cried like a baby and I am still crying. I don't even know them that well, but they are family friends. My sister had a baby the same time as them and shared a hospital room with the mother. The grandmother is one of my mother’s really close friends. I don't know what it was but it hit me. They lost their baby, a little sweet pretty girl.

We went on a trip during Sukkot together just last week. I sat behind that sweet little baby, she wore a pink bow.

Hashem help us.

I now understand clearly, like never before, why our sages tell us that it’s better to go to a funeral than to a wedding.

We need to do something different. I don't know what but I am different because of tonight.

May Hashem send us only good things and he send comfort to the family and all of klal Yisrael.

Her name was Zissel. Chaya Zissel z"l bas Shmuel Elimelech n''y

October 23, 2014

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Visitor Comments: 37

(33) Joan Michel, October 28, 2014 4:24 PM

Memo from U.S. Consulate refers to Obama's speech calling that Jerusalem terror attack a "traffic accident."

(32) Anonymous, October 26, 2014 7:51 AM

"Words spoken from the heart..."

It is said that words spoken from the heart, reach the heart. The anguish in this author's honest, unedited words was palpable and heart wrenching. Tears flowed freely, somehow connecting me directly to the family and their loss, transforming this tragedy into a unifying link for the Jewish people. May every heart opened by this recount of the family's loss be a merit to the author, the neshama of little Chaya Zissel bas Shmuel Elimelech z"l, and a comfort to her entire family.

(31) Baruch, October 25, 2014 8:56 PM

G-d's will? Really?

I watched the video of this pure couple in their joy less than 10 seconds before this tragedy struck. As my heart breaks, I know so does G-d’s.

That is why I cannot understand the comments here that talk about "the will of G-d" in the context of this tragedy. G-d's will is for us to protect ourselves from such evil, to prevent it, to fight it. That's why G-d gifted the State of Israel and the Jewish people a country, a powerful army, a world-class economy, great legal minds, and control over the TV, electricity, phones, gasoline and cars of every person in Israel. The Torah does not only demand faithfulness - it also calls for responsibility and accountability. The Garden of Eden only remains ours as long as we avoid mistakes.

Today's level of hate, terror and barbarism are unprecedented and it is a result of OUR will, or lack of it. G-d has done so many miracles for the Jewish people, given us so many gifts - land, power, technology, a world-class health system and independent wealth. When will we stop patting ourselves on the back for putting up with inhumanities that no other country in the world would put up with, and instead, STOP putting up with it?

When will we stop crying that we do not understand G-d's will, and instead THANK G-d by using the strength and intelligence he has given us to exercise our G-d-given will to survive?

G-d gave us a thousand ways to respond to any and every terror attack. I hear compassionate Jews explain why we should shun a military response. I have heard so many "human rights" excuses to explain why we do not shut off the electricity Israel generates and supplies to places firing missiles at us. OK, so shut off the cell phones of anyone associated with terror against Jews. Do SOMETHING with the gifts G-d gave us.

If we take action with the gifts G-d gave Israel, there will be fewer tragedies. Then, we will understand G-d's will much better.

ER, October 27, 2014 1:14 AM

Yes, G-d's Will

All the technology and counter-terrorism planning in the world cannot divert G-d's plan. G-d's master plan, for some reason that will only be revealed to us when Eliyahu ushers in the era of Mashiach, includes children dying.
Every time I read about Chaya Zissel's death I cry...real tears actually stream down my face and my nose runs.
A better way to prevent babies' murders, and other attacks on our people, is to improve ourselves. We must work on our midot, strengthen our Torah observance, AND BE NICE TO AND ACCEPTING OF ALL JEWS.
We may not directly see the tragedies that are avoided but know that this is the only way to improve/alter the world and give G-d a reason to have mercy on us.

Baruch, October 28, 2014 10:45 AM

King David had it right...

I agree, almost.

King David is in many ways the root and foundation of the Mashiach.

King David ALSO clearly agreed that we need to, as you said, "improve ourselves. We must work on our midot, strengthen our Torah observance, AND BE NICE TO AND ACCEPTING OF ALL JEWS."

With all that said, King David ALSO spent LOTS of time and resources on "technology and counter-terrorism planning".

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