Video: Validation

Published: August 21, 2010

Could we change the world with kindness?

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(32) Anonymous, April 19, 2012 9:03 PM

This is fantastic, i love it. I try to give out keep smiling cards, and people love them, especially if they're not expecting them, same thiing with compliments. The best compliments are genuine ones and should be more meaningful than, you have a great mustache!

(31) Anonymous, November 5, 2010 3:37 PM

i really enjoyed it

this is really amazing!!! this is also very true. a lot of people crave love and need it but are not getting it. a little love and appreciation go a long way. thank you for this.

(30) Scott, September 30, 2010 3:07 AM

I need to take this thought to heart

Every day I have opportunities to "validate" individuals who coud really use some validation. Thanks

(29) Anonymous, September 15, 2010 12:23 AM

I am a teacher and I realized many years ago that you teach students,not subjects. Confidence and passion go a long way.

(28) Mary Beth, September 13, 2010 9:03 PM

Love it :)

Thought this was adorable...I'm a Psychiatric Nurse, and it never ceases to amaze me that no matter how down in the dumps my patients are, it's only a matter of time before they realize that a simple smile is absolutely contagious.

(27) Anonymous, September 8, 2010 9:30 PM

daniel

grate

(26) Abby, September 3, 2010 4:04 AM

Kindness

In this troubled world, it's refreshing to find, Someone who still has the time to be kind. Someone who still has faith to believe, That the more you give, the more you receive. Someone who's ready by thought, word, or deed. To reach out a hand in the hour of need. The unexpected kindness from an unexpected place, A hand outstretched in friendship, a smile on someone's face. A word of understanding, spoken in an hour of trial. Are unexpected miracles that make life more worthwhile. HSR

(25) Jane, September 2, 2010 1:27 AM

Like Mama sais, "if you cannot say something nice, don't say anything at all"

Thank you for reminding me to "validate"! It really shocks people...it seldom happens in the world in which we live now

(24) Anonymous, August 31, 2010 8:12 PM

Kindness is the essence of life... "don't do anything to anyone else that you don't want done to yourself." The rest is commentary. I do summarize what a great Sage has already said and that we do know. Kind words that are sincere are always a wonderful and fine way to deal with each other. A simple compliment that is heartfelt can make someone feel at ease, happy, comfortable and perhaps ease and otherwise difficult day. Just a few kind words in conversation can make all the difference in the world.

(23) Ra'anan, August 29, 2010 12:32 PM

Heart is a Lonely Hunter or...

If we validate another's greatness, then we are seeing the good in them & that's from...G-d. So we are seeing G-dliness in people. Or not. I can't make it fit w/Saddam's mustache (that doesn't mean it DOESN'T fit, I just don't see how).

(22) saraM, August 29, 2010 1:57 AM

to (16) Anonymous

Thats very nice! Thank you for sharing! I want to also be more like that, thank you for making m eaware of that!

(21) Andria, August 26, 2010 5:04 PM

important reminder

I think all too often we get caught up in our own world and forget about the people around us. We all need validation even if it comes simply from a smile. We need to let people know that they matter. Great video.

(20) Anonymous, August 26, 2010 3:18 AM

To Yechiel, #18....Something I forgot to tell you......

A very important lesson that I had learned in my younger days allowed me to do what I did at the psychiatric hospital where I worked. "There will always be change. So the question should be: Do I want change by design or by default?" I chose "design....my design". Think about it. Change yourself, change your environment.....your world. And remember, "It's a great day to be here!" God bless!!

(19) Anonymous, August 25, 2010 11:53 PM

Replying to Yechiel, Comment # 18

In reply to Comment # 18 by Yechiel. I am not Jewish. I was raised a Catholic, but am no longer associated with the Catholic Church since I was 14 years old. I am in my 60's, and I have learned a few things about life: #1. Most people are as happy as they make up their minds to be. #2. It is not always easy to find happiness within ourself, but it is impossible to find it any where else. #3. It is best to have both a goal and a purpose in life. My goal is to discover my talents, but my purpose is to share them. I trust you will have a great day!

(18) Yechiel, August 25, 2010 12:11 PM

@(16) Anonymous

Your story is as inspiring as this brilliant video. I am not amazed that these words are coming from a Jew. I think this is our purpose on this Earth to bring in light to a dark world. Amazing story I will try to do the same by your example!

(17) Anonymous, August 25, 2010 3:03 AM

why aren't we like that?

In the clip there is no one who dislikes this guy. How could they? Everyone here (at least I) would love to be this guy's friend and even more so- to be like him! So, why aren't we? what do you think the reason is? (well, I'm assuming you aren't already like him b/c there r ppl in the world who are) I think it might be because we are too insecure. And have too many fears holding us back. what do u think?

(16) Anonymous, August 25, 2010 3:01 AM

It's a great day to be here!

Several years ago, I went from working nights to working days in a psychiatric hospital. I soon regretted my shift change. 90% of the staff on my unit were grumpy, complained about each other, not very cooperative, clickish, smiled but not in a joyful manner, gossiped about each other, thought nothing of cutting each other down, etc. According to the rules, I could not request another transfer change of shift or unit until I'd been on this one for 6 months. I found myself hating to wake up in the mornings, found myself coming in late to work more and more often and worse, I found myself hating a job that I had loved. Then one day I realized, the only person I can change is myself. I decided I'd be happy as long as I was working there. I would wear a joyful smile, I would cooperate, ask if anyone needed my help, and ask others when I needed help, I would not criticize anyone, I would not participate in gossip, etc. On the many mornings when I gave report to the doctors, nurses, aides, social workers, students, dietician, recreation therapists, etc. I would always state, "Good morning everyone! Today is (Tuesday, February 10). We have (32) patients on the unit. AND IT'S A GREAT DAY TO BE HERE! " And I would give my biggest joyful smile, holding my thumbs up. Only after all this, would I start the report on the first patient. Needless to say, the staff were very shocked the first time I did this. But you know what?? They got used to it. They learned to appreciate hearing "It's a great day to be here!" And before long, I noticed more of them were truely smiling in a joyful way, they had become more cooperate, less clickish, more appreciative of each other's work, showed more kindness to the patients, etc. So, I can tell you from personal experience that "YES, one person can change the environment for the better". May there be more who believe as I do, and who put their beliefs into practice!! God bless!

(15) Gitty Markowitz, August 25, 2010 1:42 AM

Great!! Real food for thought!

Great Video! Real food for thought!! It's what our Torah teaches us to do.

(14) Anonymous, August 25, 2010 1:24 AM

LOVE IT!!! AND LOVE YOU ALL, BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT THE WORLD NEEDS THE MOST. TODAY, TOMORROW, NEXT YEAR ETC.

(13) menachem, August 24, 2010 8:22 PM

LOL! So funny but SO true

(12) Rabbi Yehudah Lowy, August 24, 2010 3:47 PM

Incredible

We all hear stories about great Rabbis who are careful to greet everyone with a smile. This shows how a normal person with the right attitude can change the world. We live in a world where bad news abounds. Just the idea that we can brighten someone's day is worth everything.

(11) Anonymous, August 24, 2010 2:53 PM

Wouldn't it be nice if we could all feel validated?...

(10) David K., August 24, 2010 2:21 PM

What the boss says

I think what the boss said was something like … “That’s so good to hear…. Most times I feel like people don’t recognize that. I am just the big bad man on the hill… You know, I think I know some people who would love to meet you.” Be well.

(9) KOKO, August 24, 2010 2:19 PM

Totally BRILLIANT

This is Totally BRILLIANT .......

(8) Ilana Rachel Wald, August 24, 2010 2:04 PM

Validation gives life

This video was well made and showed what a few kind words can do to change the world. I will try harder to follow the model.

(7) Natalie, August 24, 2010 1:19 PM

i LOVED this!!!!!

(6) Judith Abrams, August 24, 2010 2:06 AM

Just adorable

quite quirky but how true it is that we should recognize the positive in everyone.

(5) Anonymous, August 23, 2010 7:46 PM

So True

If only we could be like this guy the world would be a friendlier place. I watched it multiple times cuz it was so funny. I still couldn't catch what the boss was saying, though. Anyone catch what he said?

(4) Anonymous, August 23, 2010 5:09 PM

great video

i liked it a lot. it was great to see how one person could make a difference and have a huge impact on everybody.

(3) Anonymous, August 23, 2010 6:52 AM

haha love this!

i think that kindness can change the world. maybe not as far as the guy in the clip, but i think it can go pretty far. picture a place that holds about a hundred people daily. You are one of those people; you go there everyday from the morning until the late afternoon. now imagine being there every day and feeling loved and supported by every single person there. You could be yourself around every member, you felt like they all loved you and focused on your qualities...not your shortcomings. you can talk to them about anything. All in all, you felt totally comfortable around every person people. Now imagine the same place, same people but you didn't feel comfortable around anyone. no one had deep relationships with eachother. You were constantly watching your back, caring what people thought of you, and always felt pretty dumb and unlikeable, as did everybody else. Now picture one person in the group, complimenting people, smiling at people, listening to them, making them feel welcome and important. you didn't feel like she was judging you at all and you liked being around her. You start feeling better about yourself and start to treat other people the same way, knowing thats the way you like to be treated. Pretty soon, the entire place is treating eachother the way that one girl treated you. her kindness went a long way and now this place is identical to the first place we imagined.

(2) sarah, August 22, 2010 9:19 PM

amazing

that was so awesome man!!!!

(1) Sarah, August 22, 2010 2:41 PM

amazing

That was so awesome man!!!!

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