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Jtube: Mr. and Mrs. Smith

Jtube: Mr. and Mrs. Smith

Why is it so difficult to find time to talk?

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Published: August 18, 2007


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Visitor Comments: 13

(13) Lyone, November 21, 2011 7:47 PM

Getting to know each other

Did anyone else see this movie? Mr and Mrs Smith seem to have an ideal marriage, because they never talk to one another about what is really going on their lives.......Neither of them know the truth about their spouse's in-the-world identity.....or about their top secret jobs. So when Mrs Smith reveals that she has lightening speed reflexes, it is a tip-off that there is more to her than she has been telling Mr Smith. So it seems to me that the #1 issue is whether or not we are honest with our spouses about who we are, and what we do with our lives. Then #2 is the question of how we encourage openness. I like Dr. Kurtin's guidelines. We don't have TV at all in my house (who has the time?). We schedule our week to have empty spaces in it--like Saturday afternoons--when we know that there will be time to talk about things that come up. These are sacred family times--no other activities get scheduled in at those times for any of us. So we all know that we will be together--either to talk, or just to hang out.

(12) feig, January 8, 2008 11:26 AM

Gotta want to invest what it takes

It's not only the actual "talking" that's missing, it's the effort needed that our fast- moving generation is trying to omit. We gotta be prepared to invest hard but usually very good resulting work to accomplish what we wanna obtain. Good luck and the key-factor remember is "patience"!!

(11) Tzippy, November 25, 2007 12:36 PM

Life's too busy

We need to feed, bathe, and diaper children, while still finding time to talk to our spouses.Babaysitter, anyone?

(10) Michelle, September 17, 2007 4:49 PM

we spend ...

to much time jumping to conclusions and then reacting and trying to insulate ourselves. This is what I've gotten from dating!

(9) Steve Daniels, September 6, 2007 11:14 PM

making time

It's never difficult to find time to talk, what gets in the way are excuses. You can guarantee the reason why time can't be found would be because of 'excuses' if you really want to talk, you'd skip the excuses and make the time pronto. Let's face it, it isn't talking we can't schedule in its being together we want. Talking is easy we simply pick up the phone and call, but getting time together that's where we fall down. Jews have no problem finding time to talk, we can do it for hours, its the getting together we don't always do, and yet we get Shabbos at least once a week so what's the problem, psst someone please get my daughter to ring her father about Shabbos dinner next week please? She'll be the one on the cell phone talking to someone else

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