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Charlie and the Chocolate Factory

Charlie and the Chocolate Factory

How do we give to our kids without spoiling them?

by Jewlarious.com Staff

Published: April 12, 2008


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Visitor Comments: 12

(12) sherry, May 28, 2008 2:26 PM

They want to be taught

I and my husband raised 7 children and now have 10 grandchildren. 3 of whom live close enough that I get to see them often. The ice-cream truch comes by a couple times a day and the girls wanted some soft ice-cream, I went to get them money and they all said no..they wanted to earn it and asked for chores. So I gave a list of chores to them. They did them all and joyously accepted the money they earned. They''re very normal kids. I think the children that have everything handed to them are sad and empty inside.

(11) r, April 29, 2008 11:35 AM

True parental love is helping the kids to learn what is right

I had seen snippets of this movie while on a plane about 18 mos ago and was horrified by what I saw, esp since it was listed as a kids movie. What a relief to have it brought up here for discussion. Those spoiled brats did not deserve their sadistic punishments so much as their misguided parents did!
The scariest part, however, is that so much of Western society is being raised like this: the future citizens have no idea --much less training in -- "delayed gratification," or much less, foregoing a whim or desire. Or sharing. Parents dont realize that often they cave in to the kids' pestering out of laziness, not love. How can such parents be role models for sticking to principles; setting up priorities according to values not impulses; WORKING towards EARNING an object that one desires; etc etc etc What a sick, sick selfish society is being created! SCARY, REAL SCARY!

(10) Ron, April 15, 2008 6:27 PM

Comment on (2) Amanda 4/15/2008 9:57:00 AM

I agree with Amanda. It's true. Children not only need structure, they _want_ structure. There's a time in life when parents and children develope friend relationships; however, these friend relationships should be reserved for later in adult life. Have you see those child-parent relationships that seemingly are based on friendship? Where's the heirarchy. A parent can lose a child's respect fast by not acting/being the parent. Children look for structure, demand structure, require structure. Without structure, they fall apart. It's like that you know. So in relation to Amanda's post, again, I agree. Amanda was only able to say it more concise than me. Here I go typing an essay on the topic. :-)

(9) Anonymous, April 15, 2008 2:39 PM

spooooooooooiled

yet how is it that so much of our society to whom it is so obvious in the movie, doesn't realize what they are doing to their children by overindulging them, and not allowing them to experience frustration.
it is called spoiled for a reason. ew.

(8) Amanda, April 15, 2008 9:57 AM

Strange, but true

Children really don't like being given everything they ask for. They think they do. But the reality is that a loving parent who sets firm, but fair boundaries is what them really want. That is why even if a spoiled child gets everything they demand they continue to act out.

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