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Alvin and the Chipmunks

Alvin and the Chipmunks

Do we give our children too many rules?

by Jewlarious.com Staff

Published: December 20, 2008


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Visitor Comments: 11

(11) Dvirrah, January 3, 2009 1:19 PM

Understanding Rules

The most important point about rules is not how many but how clear. Rules should never be arbitrary. If a child understands the reason for a rule, it will probably be followed voluntarily. (This at least was my experience as a child. I also learned when bending or braking was legitimate.) Furthermore, the rules should change appropriately as the situation changes (that is, as the child matures). If the child is old enough, he/she can share in the rule-making process. This eliminates the power-struggle as the child now feels that he/she is following his/her "own" rules rather than rules imposed upon him/her.

(10) JågJåth van Krüppelhmeiher-Stadt, December 30, 2008 6:35 PM

Cute!

I love these "chipmunks"!

(9) Scarlett, December 24, 2008 8:49 PM

Too much rules

I believe we (as in adults) make to many rules for kids. If there are alot of rules kids are most likely to rebel than listen. Yes, it is true that we do need rules in our scociety but sometimes you need a break. Kids should be more free!FREEDOM TO THE KIDS!!!

(8) Anonymous, December 24, 2008 6:33 PM

Kids crave discipline

The Torah gives us guidelines on almost everything but there are no clear directives regarding raising children. We're told "al pi darco" Each child needs to be treated according to their needs. All kids needs rules, some more then others. How else can a child please a parent if they don't know what is expected of them? I've always noticed that the teachers that are the strictest and have the most rules are usually the ones my kids end up liking the most. Kids really crave rules, even if they don't know it. Additionally, If you give your kids lots of love and tell them how special they are to you, they won't resent the rules. It's all a matter of how you do it. Raising kids is a work in progress that needs a lot of siyata d'shmaya. Good Luck!

(7) LVSteveo1, December 24, 2008 1:15 PM

Rules-Shmules!

Kids r not the problem! It's their self-centered anything goes (no limits) parents who r reponsible 4 the way kids behave these days. Look @ our so-called leadership - no matter what area, i.e. academic, entertainment, finance, government, sports - their behavior being horrible examples/role models 4 our children. It's the parents' responsible behavior that untimately produces children who will become compansionate, thoughtful, mature adults and leaders in the future.

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