Jtube: 18 to Life

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That was a great little film, with superb acting! My brother and his wife married at 19, and they even let me move in with them after they had only been married three months! (Don´t worry. I no longer live with them!) That was nearly 39 years ago, and even though they had to start off with menial jobs and NO financial support from either family, they made it, and are happily married today. It all boils down to committment. One saying i read at Aish that I love is; "The most difficult three words to say in a marriage are not I Love You, but, I Was Wrong." Our surroundings are a product of the kinds of words we speak around us. What goes around comes around. If parents are doubtful of their kids´ readiness to get married, a calm and wise discussion with them is a lot better than a "chew-out".

As a parent who has married off a few kids, boys and girls, I feel that emotional maturity is imperative before a successful marriage can even begin. Age is irrelavent. One girl I married of at age 17, and for another I didn't want to hear for him shidduchum before age 23. It is the job of the parent to send off the kid in a mature way, with the best chance to meet the challenges of marriage and life, with success.

I agree with #1, who says age has anything to do with maturity? i was told "i am mature for my age" in 8th grade, so what? when you're ready to make decisions on your own, whether it be about the outfit you wear, or the person you decide to marry, you make those decisions, and if they are wrong? hey everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and we all hail from the human species that tend to make mistakes. granted major decisions shouldn't be made without consulting someone who's opinion you honour and trust, but when its all said and done, just be honest with yourself, no one knows you better. if its right, its right!

Age is not the important thing. When a couple can support themselves financially and emotionally, they are adult enough to get married. I know some 40 year olds who have several kids but werenot ready financially for marriage and they are charity cases. I think it is wrong to set up a life where a family can not pay their own way. Marriage should wait until financial and emotional adulthood.

I was wise enough to know that I wasn't ready until I could support a family. So I didn't look until I was 23 and solidly employed. Married at age 24 and now approaching 30 years of love.

I am a hypocrite when it comes to this, I got engaged at 19 and married at 20 but I don't necessariy wish the same for my daughters. On the one hand some people are mature and ready and Mr. Right is right there. On the other hand, most good jobs take years more of schooling. There is also maturity that comes with life experience. As a parent, I would prefer they waited a bit.

I was secretly engaged at 17, officially engaged at 18, married at 20. The only thing I regret is not getting married at 18 - we were both ready then. Am now 28 and everything is brilliant!!!!

Hilarious=)

The video was very well done but... what? What happened? BTW I was engaged at 16 and married at 17; I'm now 18 with a 5 month old girl :)

Maturity isn't always age related. I know a couple where the husband got his maters degree by age 20, his wife her accounting degree by 21, (both studied at university). He had his own catering business from age 14, and later traveled around the world studying for 2 years in various Yeshivot. They got married shortly after turning 19. There are few 40 year old people who are as mature as they are, and serve their community as strongly. The appropriate age to get married is when God gives you your bashert, and that doesn't necessarily come at a number that we may randomly pick. Currently the husband (21) is trying to get sponsorship to go study to get Smicha at YU in New York,while getting his Phd at the same time.