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Is it okay for our children to see us afraid?

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Published: April 24, 2010


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Visitor Comments: 5

(5) Shoshana, July 13, 2011 5:54 PM

it all depends

When the Yom KIppur broke out, we had one child and I was expecting, I was pretty scared, especially since we had to have on the black-out curtains and keep the lghts in the house very dim. But we made sure to remain smiling and calm so our three year old felt nothing. (It was so different than the Six Day War, when I was still single and had no one to worry about but myself). But the Persian Gulf Was was diffeerent altogher. By this time we had a house full of children of all different ages and they were quite scared (and so was I). Whether or not my husband was frightened I have no idea, he stayed calm and strong and this helped me and in turn, the children. Also, it was different than the Yom Kippur War, which came on suddenly. Here we had two tension -filled weeks and then the war started. But we did hide our fear from the children, and that was the best thing.

(4) Naomi, May 2, 2010 10:13 PM

It's a tough call

I think it's very healthy to let your kids see you are human, with fears and anxieties. However, moderation is key. You wouldn't want your children to see you every time you are scared or nervous, as they need to stay children and not feel they have to take care of you. It may be better to let your kids know you are scared once in a while, when you could possibly see an opportunity for growth or bonding with your child. Letting your child see you scared once in a while, or fighting with your spouse once is a while teaches that it;s ok to not be perfect, and teached that tolerating frustration is an integral part of life.

(3) sara, April 29, 2010 3:43 AM

LOLOLOLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!! haha that was way to funny!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! makes you start thinking...

(2) Robert, April 27, 2010 5:10 PM

Fear

Thanks for the funny video but made me think seriously about father's and kids. I wanted to hide my fears from my kids so they could think I was great. It turns out spending time with them and letting them know I am human with problems too is better. Sometimes the kids can teach the parents something if you are open to it. Love means caring, and helping and as they grow older it becomes a two way street. Keep up the good work at Aish. Sincerely, Robert

(1) Susan, April 27, 2010 4:56 PM

LOL!

You nutcases! That was funny..I would've been extremely hesitant about going into that dark small place where spiders dwell as well...YUCK! Enjoyed the video..Thanx.

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