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Jtube: The Three Coolers

Jtube: The Three Coolers

How does the Jewish way of mourning assist in the grieving process?

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Published: May 23, 2010


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Visitor Comments: 21

(21) Janet Beeching, June 1, 2010 5:27 PM

What's not to like?

Shiva is explained in the video, the teenagers are dismayed by the length of time they would have to devote to their elder who passed, who seems to have survived the Holocast, and therefore deserves respect to be shown. The visitor gave an apprpriate token for the event, identifying himself with his business card. Funny how different people see different things. In Japan, it is very customary to present a business card when meeting. And I too like the tradition of withdrawing for a week to grieve. Sittling Shiva is only part of a months long mourning period.

(20) Anonymous, May 31, 2010 3:32 PM

Get it straight...

If these young boys are the grandchildren of the deceased they do not sit shivah at all according to Jewish law. They just come to comfort as they please.

(19) Beri, May 30, 2010 9:08 AM

Spot on.

The other commenters are offended or don't like this video. I think it's exactly right. I grew up in a family exactly like the one in the video. This is how Jewish tradition was presented to us, and we reacted the same way as those kids in the video. We didn't get it; it made no sense. To everyone who is offended by this, consider that this is actually the state of most Jewish homes today, and feel bad about *that.* I'm grateful that I came back to Torah Judaism on my own, and ironically, my parents think it's the biggest mistake I ever made. So good work, Aish.com. You have your finger on the pulse of the Jewish people.

(18) Vashra, May 27, 2010 3:10 PM

A gentile's perspective

I am somewhat familiar with the importance of the shiva period, and I have more than once wished my own religion (and secular culture) had an accepted set period of time where people were allowed to withdraw from society to mourn. I found the reactions of the boys fairly natural. It is very hard to instill in youth a respect or even an understanding of tradition. I did not however, find it terribly funny. I could sympathize with the boys (who clearly didn't know the woman who had passed well enough to really require any sort of mourning period). I was left wondering if they completed the week, and if they spent that time learning anything about the late woman that allowed them to genuinely miss her passing. Personally, I think seeing youth who clearly have little to no love of their own cultural heritage is an example of one of the purest forms of tragedy -- especially juxtaposed against a woman who apparently suffered great persecution for that very same heritage. As for the real estate agent...why do several assume he was a Gentile? A money-grubbing Gentile would likely show up at the house at random, have no understanding of what was going on, and probably wouldn't have a gift in hand. That real estate agent *knew* they were sitting shiva (and to bring food etc.) The *average* Gentile has no idea what shiva is (seeing it in print, I suspect most would at best say "sheeva?" and think you were referring to the Hindu "deity"). Watching it as a Gentile (and *I* only know what shiva is because a Jewish friend's grandmother died when I was a kid and it was explained to me why she was out of school for a week), I figured the guy was a "secular Jew" -- might have had the blood in his veins, and a technical knowledge of the ritual, but no genuine respect for the tradition (or the family, or the person being remembered). I found him distasteful in the extreme, and it really saddens me to think there's anyone on earth who is like that, Jew or Gentile.

(17) moshe, May 27, 2010 1:21 AM

hillarious!!!!

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