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How does the Jewish way of mourning assist in the grieving process?

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(21) Janet Beeching, June 1, 2010 5:27 PM

What's not to like?

Shiva is explained in the video, the teenagers are dismayed by the length of time they would have to devote to their elder who passed, who seems to have survived the Holocast, and therefore deserves respect to be shown. The visitor gave an apprpriate token for the event, identifying himself with his business card. Funny how different people see different things. In Japan, it is very customary to present a business card when meeting. And I too like the tradition of withdrawing for a week to grieve. Sittling Shiva is only part of a months long mourning period.

(20) Anonymous, May 31, 2010 3:32 PM

Get it straight...

If these young boys are the grandchildren of the deceased they do not sit shivah at all according to Jewish law. They just come to comfort as they please.

(19) Beri, May 30, 2010 9:08 AM

Spot on.

The other commenters are offended or don't like this video. I think it's exactly right. I grew up in a family exactly like the one in the video. This is how Jewish tradition was presented to us, and we reacted the same way as those kids in the video. We didn't get it; it made no sense. To everyone who is offended by this, consider that this is actually the state of most Jewish homes today, and feel bad about *that.* I'm grateful that I came back to Torah Judaism on my own, and ironically, my parents think it's the biggest mistake I ever made. So good work, Aish.com. You have your finger on the pulse of the Jewish people.

(18) Vashra, May 27, 2010 3:10 PM

A gentile's perspective

I am somewhat familiar with the importance of the shiva period, and I have more than once wished my own religion (and secular culture) had an accepted set period of time where people were allowed to withdraw from society to mourn. I found the reactions of the boys fairly natural. It is very hard to instill in youth a respect or even an understanding of tradition. I did not however, find it terribly funny. I could sympathize with the boys (who clearly didn't know the woman who had passed well enough to really require any sort of mourning period). I was left wondering if they completed the week, and if they spent that time learning anything about the late woman that allowed them to genuinely miss her passing. Personally, I think seeing youth who clearly have little to no love of their own cultural heritage is an example of one of the purest forms of tragedy -- especially juxtaposed against a woman who apparently suffered great persecution for that very same heritage. As for the real estate agent...why do several assume he was a Gentile? A money-grubbing Gentile would likely show up at the house at random, have no understanding of what was going on, and probably wouldn't have a gift in hand. That real estate agent *knew* they were sitting shiva (and to bring food etc.) The *average* Gentile has no idea what shiva is (seeing it in print, I suspect most would at best say "sheeva?" and think you were referring to the Hindu "deity"). Watching it as a Gentile (and *I* only know what shiva is because a Jewish friend's grandmother died when I was a kid and it was explained to me why she was out of school for a week), I figured the guy was a "secular Jew" -- might have had the blood in his veins, and a technical knowledge of the ritual, but no genuine respect for the tradition (or the family, or the person being remembered). I found him distasteful in the extreme, and it really saddens me to think there's anyone on earth who is like that, Jew or Gentile.

(17) moshe, May 27, 2010 1:21 AM


(16) Anonymous, May 26, 2010 7:53 PM

After watching this, in the future if something happens that is out of place from the outside instead of getting ticked like " how rude could they be" can instead realize that unexpected guest may just not know.

(15) Bruce, May 26, 2010 2:26 PM

Albert Brooks is and always will be a moron.

(14) Anonymous, May 25, 2010 8:52 PM

Lighten Up

While we might not all find the same things funny, humor does come at unsuspected times... including the funeral and shiva periods. In fact some truly hilarious family moments came from times around deaths, bringing some levity to some very stressful times. IIt is also not strange that young boys might be unfamiliar with the mourning process, as were the boys in this clip. How many people would they truly have had a chance to mourn?

(13) chavi, May 25, 2010 7:17 PM

'Pathetic' is the new 'funny'.

(12) Anonymous, May 25, 2010 7:13 PM

Not funny

I agree with the others, that it is disrespectful and just not funny. I am jewish and not religious and think that the jewish way of mourning is wonderful like so many other aspects of judaism. Indeed, what was the point?

(11) opensoc, May 25, 2010 6:11 PM

It's a cautionary tale.

Unless we teach the newer generation the meaning of Judaism, they will react like aliens . In fact, they will be as allienated as the stranger at the door

(10) John, May 25, 2010 2:49 PM

Great from a boys perspective

Anyone who has been a teenage boy in the last 20 years, has teenage sons or has the fortunate contact with them, can appreciate this. It is an honest perspective, and the last scene is funnier as an adult.

(9) Leah, May 25, 2010 1:36 PM

Not funny

(8) Anonymous, May 25, 2010 1:30 PM

sitting shiuva

Disgusting and disrespectful. No redeeming qualites at all. I am NOT orthodox, but Jewish, and I would hate for a Genrile to see that video. Was it supposed to be funny? What was the point?

(7) Anonymous, May 25, 2010 1:07 PM

Just had stone setting for my late husband recently. What are you trying to say?

(6) asa, May 24, 2010 11:02 PM

totaly agree with #1

(5) Anonymous, May 24, 2010 7:46 PM

Come on, Aish, really?

I am usually very delighted by the numerous videos I've seen over the last couple of years, but this one was really not entertaining at all. Sorry.

(4) Daniella Ashkenazy, May 24, 2010 3:39 PM

INot funny. f you want something funny about the dead? Check out Chelm-on-the-Med's 'demo' for television on YouTube (key in "Chelm-on-the-Med" under search at www.yourtube.com.

(3) Anonymous, May 24, 2010 2:57 PM

Pathetic attempt at humor

Stereotypical affront to all Jews--In addition to trivializing the 'shiva' period--It additionally showed the only person paying a shiva call as a non-Jew real estate broker.The only other comment regarding the will was very insensitive...

(2) Ziporah, May 24, 2010 2:38 PM

Sad Commentary

How does this give the impression we're money hungry? It shows a family that, obviously, doesn't normally adhere to the letter of the law, but at least they respect the deceased enough to observe shiva for her. The process of sitting shiva, having friends and family come by to pay their respects, is very healing. One can learn a lot about the deceased, things they did in private for others, what they meant to others, that you may never know otherwise. The real estate agent was cheesy and didn't really come to pay his respects (obviously a goy), but that doesn't mean the family is greedy - just that the first "guest" was an opportunist and came at an inappropriate time.

(1) Anonymous, May 24, 2010 5:22 AM

I did not find this funny at all. I feel like it was made by non Jews who believe in the stereotype that we are nothing but money hungry. That is not us and this clip does not do any good, in my opinion, to bring respect to the Jewish nation.


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