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How can we teach our children to "seize the day"?

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Published: January 26, 2013

How can we teach our children to "seize the day"?

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Visitor Comments: 11

(7) MORDI, January 31, 2013 8:47 AM

GREAT !

Thank you for replaying one of the most memorable lines in Latin and understood by most in the English translation.

(6) Anonymous, January 31, 2013 2:36 AM

So far, no success

My son is a mature 15 yrs. old. He is blessed - he has a good head. He is however chronically lazy, hates school and often walks around aimlessly - has no interest in exploring ways to becoming productive and all together to strive to be a more interesting person. This morning, I said to him 'you are 15 and before you realize, in a snap you'll be 20. I don't see any indication from you of plans for the future.' He thinks life is just one big party. I am also distraught because I don't see any curiosity on his part: a desire to learn about other cultures; history; different ideologies and philosophies - anyhting which will contribute toward a well rounded character and serve him well inthe future. Any suggestions?

Anonymous, January 31, 2013 10:48 PM

Compelling goals!

Do not be distraught. but have only positive thoughts.

Avraham, February 1, 2013 2:01 AM

Life is cruel to slackers.

I had a similar experience with my now 16 year old. At the end of 9th grade he had earned 2 Ds in the English studies program(math and science) . For various reasons I told him he could not return to the same High school, where he was very popular and somewhat happy. 3 High schools refused to even interview him, partly because of his grades and because I came to my decision during the last week of the school year. After an agonizing 2 weeks of trying to contact all of his references, one school finallly accepted him. I believe he was awakened by this begging experience that he put us through, and decided to get better grades. This year so far we are seeing excellent grades, he is writing for the school newspaper and occasionally reading from the torah at a teen minyian.

Sarah C, March 16, 2013 12:48 PM

I'm curious, Anonymous. Are cultures, history, ideologies, philosophies necessarily the only factors that would contribute to character? Speaking from personal experience, the lack of obvious curiosity on the part of your child may not be all there is. Growing up, the more curious, mature, outwardly more sparkly, intelligent child was my elder sister. As it turned out later in life, the one that appears to, for the moment, stand out from the crowd in some way is me. I don't know if you have other children. But maybe a more positive approach other than to tell him you see him as going nowhere, would be more effective in achieving your goals. Changing your own perspective might be a good way to start. Are you aware of how many lives out there who had the same advantages as your son who mess up WAY worse than he has so far, if at all. Way I see it, since at times there may seem to be no solid reasons for the things life can throw at a person, the least we can do is to adjust ourselves, look at the positives as well as the negatives, pray for open eyes to catch the gems God may have been throwing our way all along which we fail to see, adjust our own views to better reach out to others and not let good opportunities pass us by, be that teachable, reachable child to God before you require it of your own etc. And above all, someone'd taught that God only has children, no grandchildren. Wouldn't the One who fashioned us in that "reverential" way ( Psalm 139 ) know best the deposits He'd already placed within each of His creation? You could be in for a surprise if you only know how to look.

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