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April 13, 2013
Reuven B. Frank,
April 28, 2013 3:25 PM
I am pretty subjective about this issue because I have been wearing a Kipa now for more 35 years. I have lived and in Israel for MOST of that time, but remember some problems when I wore my Kipa there in the 70’s, and none when I worked there in the first decade of the 21st century.So, I would DEFINITELY side with the perspective employee, and probably take the restaurant’s info. (name, address, manager’s name, is it a branch of a national chain?)I would probably pursue and follow-up on this, because of my perspective. But, like I wrote, I am FAR from objective about this issue.
April 25, 2013 1:24 AM
Is discrimination no matter what he is wearing,the religion does not make is bad employees this is America 2013 no America 1950 and yes is illegal I can't believe some people approve the manager opinion and decision
April 20, 2013 2:55 PM
The restaurant is run by an owner, not by God. If I don't want a Jew, a Baptist, a negro, a muslim or a blond working for me, I shouldn't be forced to hire them by some government. I should be able to make the rules I want. It is my business. If you don't like it, don't patronize my business. God as the ultimate authority will eventually deal with me.
April 21, 2013 11:39 PM
OK to discriminate in hiring?
I'm sure Hitler would have approved of your statements. Not to mention people in the South in the 1950's who would not let blacks even use the bathroom, and killed them just for being black.
April 25, 2013 5:53 AM
You dont no a thing you are talking about, have you lived in South Africa? For how long? Speak of what you know
August 26, 2013 10:52 AM
Read the comments correctly
Herman, Rivka did not mention South Africa, he/she said the South, meaning I am sure the Southern former slave states of USA. So perhaps he/she knows more about it than you do. And please attend a spelling class, you're lack of spelling skill points to a juvenile level of knowledge in that subject. So you also need to learn something. Shalom
April 25, 2013 12:54 AM
Actually you cannot refuse to hire a person based on religion, nationality or ethics background.
April 17, 2013 6:08 AM
I think the manager is right. Why would someone wear a kippa at a non-kosher restaurant?
It can also mislead Jewish customers who will assume the food is kosher. And in the case of a restaurant, they do have a right to enforce certain standards of appearance, regardless of religion What if they tell a Rastafarian waiter to get rid of his dreadlocks? I think they have that right too. What if it's a kosher restaurant and the waiter is Jewish, they might want him to wear a kippa in that case so religious diners may feel more comfortable.
April 15, 2013 11:50 PM
Twin Towers 97th floor
I worked for an observant Jew named Shimi at the world trade center. i can honestly say that in all my years as an employee, I never worked for a nicer guy. This man was sweet kind (good looking) and remarkably intelligent. What impressed me the most is that he always wore his yamaka and sometimes even adjusted it right in the middle of a meeting. More observant Jews should wear it proudly. When someone asks just say what it symbolizes and use it as an opener to glorify the Almighty period.
Participant in this study,
April 16, 2013 2:26 PM
what if the person insisted on wearing a necklace with a cross on it?
the 'actor' mgr.'s response is anti-semitism. A girl who visibly wears a cross should be asked to take that off as well under this policy, but would that happen? i have seen non-jewish women wearing the star of david @ the grocery store and complimented them. It is beautiful. Why any different with the yamaka?
April 16, 2013 11:31 PM
Response to "Participant in the study" comment.
Keeping one's head covered verses fashion is not the same thing. This (covering one's head) is something that is commanded in Judaism, not merely a fashion preference. An employer could no more expect/deny employment to a Christian if they refused (due to their religion) to pray to the devil, or what ever would be abhorrent in the eyes of their view of G... Jewelry, whether a Jewish star, or a cross, or what ever is not commanded in the Bible. And, in some industries (when working with certain machinery) is dangerous. For example, my husband was told not to wear a tie to work because of the machines he was occasionally working with. That was reasonable. To require one to do the opposite of their religious beliefs, for employment, is not, and is against the law in America.
April 15, 2013 7:22 PM
i stand with ISRAEL and their customs
i would try to see if the person would appreciate me stepping in ,where i was not invited and take a stand with this issue,if it were muslim,i would keep quiet.
April 16, 2013 7:07 PM
I would stick up for a Muslim or Hindu as well...
because their religion is irrelevant. I've worked w/Muslims in Jerusalem & it makes no difference in anyway that they are Muslims.
April 15, 2013 5:48 PM
Spread the word
I would definitely speak up and I would tell the manager that I will spread the word among all my Jewish and non-jewish friends that he discriminated against this guy for wearing a yarmulke. He would lose many patrons of the diner. (Let's face it, we Jews like to eat in diners!) I would tellhim and do it, that I will put it on my Facebook page. THen, I would walk out and never return. I would follow up by doing just what I said!
April 16, 2013 4:15 PM
But what if the person was a Muslim or a Sikh?
April 16, 2013 7:10 PM
Muslim or Sikh...
I'd stick up for them as well. I remember being "hunted" as a Jew by a group of high school Christians. This isn't as threatening, but it reminds me of that pain & fear & since I know of it first hand, there's no WAY I'd stand by & let it happen to someone else!
April 15, 2013 2:23 AM
We all need someone to step up to the plate for us
As someone who has become more observent over the years and is debating wearing a kippa to work I can say my heart goes out to this man. Unfortunately discrimination is usually more subtle. When we are in times of trouble we all want others looking out for us. When we show compassion for other human beings in situations like this and stand for principles over institutional rules and profits, I do believe that Hashem performs compassion for us when we need it the most. In this scenario, what would be the worst that could happen by speaking up? I think that we need to put our comfort levels aside in situations like these and speak up. It's better in my opinion to live a principled, challenging life than a comfortable but uneventful one.
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