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July 18, 2012 6:07 PM
conficted feelings on this issue
I agree with age being just a number when you feel like your life has passed you by and your dreams seem out of reach. I disagree with this when used as an excuse for men to remain juveniles and are unwilling to take on family responsibilities. When its used as "reason" for playing the field in their 30's-40's and even 50's. When they "aren't ready for a commitment" when they are old enough to be grandparents already and they still think they have all the time in the world to sow their wild oats and deprive themselves of the blessings that come with having family and stepping up to be a man.
Reuven B. Frank,
July 17, 2012 7:17 PM
No. It's a state of being.
Aside from those who say, "You're as young as you feel," who seem to me to be talking about a shallow physicality; age, like all else in Jewish thought, is a state of being.
The Teaching in "Ethics of Our Fathers," delineates various ages as times to reach peaks of states of mind or, what I am calling: "States of Being."
A person, as he or she "goes through" life is considered to be fitting to fulfill various characteristics, character traits, dimensions of his or her personality, when he or she reaches a certain age. Amongst them are strength, satisfaction, wisdom, and understanding.
It's not a "given" though that, having reached a certain age one automatically reaches fulfillment of character.
What the Teaching says to me is: Now, having been through all the other stages, it's time to strive, endeavor, and endure to reach the next one.
I, for one, am glad that at THIS stage of my life (age 55), I am given ten years to work to acheive each one.
July 16, 2012 7:27 PM
To each his own!
My idea of accomplishment doesn't have to be anyone else's. I've spent my life playing the piano as a serious musician and still love it. I'd rather play than eat!
July 21, 2012 8:39 PM
I can not play the piano unless I eat!
If I have had a good piano practice on a Beethoven Sonata or Chopin Etude, I've had a good day. But, even though music is my passion, unless one is a hermit, I believe people need to continually strive and work to improve their character and be a help and a blessing to others. In my 65 years, I have observed no person perfect in maturity, problem solving and character at Bar/Bat Mitzvah age, 18, 21 or at any age. We always have these things to work on. And anyway, as my Rabbi (reform) pointed out to me: It is the connection we have with each other that makes our lives worthwhile. So, in as much as I join you in your love for playing the piano, I hope you don't forget the rest of the world out there. You can have both! I do!
Aside from Richard's comment, as for age being a state of mind. It is important that one knows their own limitations, what is expected of you at whatever age you are, and that you find peace and happiness in your life at whatever age you are. Carelessness and stupidity are just that at any age.
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