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Rejected Gifts The World's First Murder, Part 1

Rejected Gifts The World's First Murder, Part 1

Why does God reject Cain's gift? Doesn't He know that favoritism can lead to sibling rivalry?


We are reading the Book of Genesis these days. Every Shabbat in synagogue, we listen dutifully to the weekly parasha. But somehow, it all seems to fly by so fast. Occasionally, while listening to the Torah reading in shul, we’ll stop to read a perplexing story more carefully. But before we know it, the person reading the Torah is up to the next aliyah. So we shelve our thoughts, and follow along -- with a vague hope that maybe we’ll remember the idea next year and get to explore it some more.

If you’ve ever wanted to “stop the train”, and get off and look around at the sights a little -- consider this the invitation you’ve been waiting for. I invite you to come with me on a on a little adventure. Spend ten minutes a week with me over the next two months or so -- and we’ll take a fascinating journey into the heart of one of the Torah’s most basic, primal stories: The tale of the World’s First Murder, the story of Cain’s killing of Abel. It is a story that has much hidden meaning, awaiting our discovery. We’ll read it slowly and take our time – even as the scenery of the rest of Genesis flashes by our weekly window.

There are lots of legitimate questions we can ask about the Biblical story of Cain and Abel. But I'm going to begin this discussion of the episode by asking you a question that I consider to be wrong-headed and misleading. The question, I think, is based on a fundamental misreading of the text. But I'm going to ask it anyway.

Why would I do such a thing? To be perfectly frank, if I thought I could get away with ignoring the question, I would. But I don't think I can. The question is too obvious and too troubling. My guess is that most people who look at the Cain and Abel story are immediately bothered by some shape or form of this question. So we might as well talk about it. If we don't, you'll just think I'm avoiding it.

To see the question, we need to briefly summarize the story we are looking at. Here's a 30 second snapshot of the narrative -- followed by my best, devil's-advocate-style rendition of a question I don't really believe in:

Cain and Abel, children of Adam and Eve, each bring offerings to the Lord. The Almighty expresses pleasure with the offering brought by Abel, but not with that brought by his older brother Cain. Cain becomes very upset. Shortly afterwards, he kills his brother Abel.

Well class, there's more to the story than that, but why don't we stop here for the time being. Let's go around the room: Is everyone here happy with this story?

I see a lot of shaking heads.

OK. What's wrong with this picture?

What's really jarring is the pattern of behavior embarked upon by the Almighty.

To be sure, the story doesn't leave you with that warm and fuzzy feeling inside. But what's really jarring though, is not Cain's act of murder. We know from experience that human beings are capable of doing really bad things. What's really jarring -- at least at first glance -- is the pattern of behavior embarked upon by the Almighty.

Cain brings an offering and God turns away from it to favor Abel's gift instead. Abel's gift was nicer and prettier perhaps than Cain's. The text suggests as much, telling us that Abel brought, "from the first of his flocks and from their choicest," while we hear no such detail about Cain's offering. But a little voice inside us asks insistently: Why does God have to reject one and accept the other?

Imagine for a moment the scene: You're the mommy, and Bobby and Debbie, your sparkling, wonderful children, are both working on some surprise homemade birthday presents for you. They've got their colored pencils out, and are busy creating custom art projects for you. Soon enough they are done, and each comes over to display their work. Debbie walks over first. She proudly shows you her colorful, detailed drawing. She points to the hills, to the sunset, to the little cabin by the stream next to the trees. And she presents the picture to you with a gleam in her eyes: "Here, Mommy ... its your birthday present!".

Next it's Bobby's turn. Bobby's drawing isn't as detailed. It hardly has much color, and the people who inhabit its landscape are mostly stick figures. Bobby looks at you expectantly, and now it's your turn to speak.

What do you do?

Every parent in the world knows what to do. You smile, you look at Bobby, you look at Debbie, and then you say: "My, what beautiful pictures you children have made for me!" And you smother them with love and appreciation.

And what happens if the kids are insistent? "No, Mommy, really!" they squeal, "Tell us which painting you like better!" What do you do then?

Well, you know the drill, "I think they are both wonderful," you say, as convincingly as possible, as you shoo them off to bed, "They are each beautiful in their own way!"

"Come on, Bobby, look at what Debbie made for me. Now there's the way to use your crayons!"

And what do we think of the parent who doesn't take this approach? Imagine a parent who gently praises Debbie for her meticulously drawn houses, for the carefully chosen hues of green she used for the grass and flowers. But then she turns to Bobby and her expression changes as she surveys the choppy lines and scribbles. She exclaims, "Oh, Bobby! What kind of drawing is this? You call these people? They are barely stick figures. And that's a sunset? Please, I can barely see the sun. Come on, Bobby, look at what Debbie made for me. Now there's the way to use your crayons!"

This is not what most of us would call good parenting. It's the kind of thing, we would worry, that's going to put Bobby on the psychiatrist's couch for many years later down the road.

So now let's look at the Cain and Abel story. Both Cain and Abel offer their "presents" to God. And God doesn't smile and say "My, they're both so wonderful!" Instead God rejects Cain's offering and accepts Abel's.

But I thought parents aren't supposed to do that.

What's going on here? In the story of Cain and Abel, don't we have a classic case of Bobby and Debbie on our hands? What are we to make of the fact that God dismisses our intuitive parenting advice? Is the Bible trying to disabuse us of our "modern" notions of parenting in favor of something more stern and unforgiving?

Bobby and Debbie Redux

Before giving you my solution to this problem, allow me to make matters worse for a brief few minutes. Let's get back to Bobby and Debbie and ask: What happens next?

Imagine you were Bobby and Debbie's mother, and when your two children had each presented their respective gifts to you, you had inexplicably disregarded that basic rule of parenting, and had favored Debbie's gift over Bobbie's. Now a half hour later you walk by Bobby's room and find him weeping softly into his pillow. You ask him what's the matter and he turns to you and whimpers, "You told me you didn't like my present..." and then comes the kicker, something my child has tried on me one or two times. He says, "Mommies aren't supposed to say things like that to their kids."

How would you react to Bobby's plaintive cries?

Instinctively, most parents -- even those who had initially favored Debby's gift -- would be unable to resist the sight of a weeping Bobby. Most of us would recognize the error of our ways, would scoop Bobby into their arms and apologize for having turned our back on his gift. "You're right," we'd tell him, "Mommy loves you and I'm so sorry for not accepting your gift the way I should have." We'd apologize; we'd tell Bobby we'd had a hard day at work, we weren't paying enough attention; we'd tell him it won't happen again; we'd tell him just about anything in our desperate attempt to make things right.

But that's not how it happens in the Cain and Abel story.

God does not tell Cain that everything will be just fine. Instead God challenges Cain, asking him whether he really has a right to be angry.

Just after God rejects Cain's offering, and immediately before Cain murders his brother, the Almighty speaks to Cain. But God does not soothingly tell Cain that everything will be just fine, that his offering really was pretty good after all. Instead God challenges Cain, asking him whether he really has a right to be angry:

Why are you angry and why has your face fallen? Is it not the case that if you do well, then lift up! And if you don't do well, then, sin lies crouching at the door. (Genesis 4:6-7)

What if the parent who had accepted Debbie's gift but not Bobby's had told the weeping Bobby that if he had done better everything would be just fine; that he should just get over it. Most of us would be ready to pick up the phone and call Social Services. But, how then, are we supposed to come to grips with the Almighty's words to Cain?

And now, dear reader, the ball is in your court. I mentioned before that I felt that the questions I am asking here are not really legitimate. It is my view that the analogy to Bobby and Debbie is faulty and misleading. If you re-read the story of Cain and Abel carefully, I think you should be able to spot the flaw; you should be able to see why Bobby and Debby's sorry plight actually has little indeed to do with the story of Cain and Abel.

We'll compare notes next week.

This series is excerpted from Rabbi Fohrman's book, "The Beast that Crouches at the Door: Adam and Eve, Cain and Abel, and Beyond." To purchase a copy visit or visit

November 3, 2007

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(17) Rav Avrohom J. Wachs, February 14, 2017 7:40 PM



(16) Giu, December 17, 2015 4:35 PM


God created man with free will, that means that he is responsible to himself. You and Cain both express the same expectation of equality in all things, the responsibility is not on the Almighty.. or the parent to make Cain happy that his brother was praised rather than unhappy that Cain himself was not. Would Cain not then have murdered when some act of the world made him feel unequal? It has nothing to do with god's action and everything to do with Cain's response. It is his responsibility to endeavor come what may, not to lash out in sin when he is disappointed.

(15) wendy, February 16, 2008 7:29 PM

who did cain have children with

incest is wrong and beastiality is wrong so where did the human race start because it wasnt cain as far as i can telunless he sinned against gods word

(14) Pepe, November 18, 2007 10:15 AM

Not accetable to God?

Why should He accept one thing and not the other? Imagine what could have happened if God accepted Cain's offering and not Abels'?What would have been Abel's reaction?Why did God kill Abel and blamed Cain? Is G-D a human that He should act/react like one of them? Are His choices like one of ours? Art we to say(continuing saying) that the God of the Bible is unexplainable?

(13) lisa, November 13, 2007 1:02 PM

Cain's Offering?

The story of Cain and Abel is about personal growth. The story tells us, one day, Cain has a brilliant idea to "give a gift" to God. So, both brothers go to God with an offering. Cain shows up with fruit from the ground. God loves Cain and wants Cain to learn two lessons and he does this by ignoring Cain until he makes a more appropriate effort which the story shows he never chooses this direction for his life. First, its not enough to have a great idea, one must see it to "fruition." Cain's offering/work for God must be equal to or more challenging than his personal ability for the gift to have any meaning, or for Cain to learn hard work/self-sacrifice leads to pride and growth of a person. Secondly,it must actually be a gift. Cain did not give anything from himself really, the fruit was on the ground which means it did not belong to anyone. Meanwhile, Abel shows up with his, emphasizing "his", best calves and work in animal husbandry. Its a big sacrifice. Its easy to assume that one brother is toiling the soil as a farmer and the other tending livestock, but really only Abel is productivey working, so God blesses him by turning toward him and acknowledges his offering. Instead of focusing on how he could be productive, Cain chooses to be vindictive, jealous and destructive and murders his brother. He not only stops his own moral growth toward goodness, Cain moves in the other direction toward evilness. The story is so much deeper/darker and filled with pain and sorrow and corruption when one takes into account that Cain's soul was lost in the insanity of coveting and immaturity and slothfulness...he took God fruit from the ground. Fruit from the ground is spoiled, and it was no gift. It was a message of anger and hostility and a clue that Cain was resisting God's gifts that would help him reach his own personal growth in life. Cain can only offer spoiled fruit, because he is spoiled, and that is all he could offer.

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