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Brittany Maynard’s Tragic Death

Brittany Maynard’s Tragic Death

A Jewish perspective on assisted suicide.

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Brittany Maynard got her last wish. The beautiful 29-year-old who recently appeared on the cover of People magazine and has been featured in hundreds of news articles took her own life last week in order to avoid the slow deterioration and pain of the debilitating illness with which she had been diagnosed.

As a post on her website said, "Brittany chose to make a well thought out and informed choice to die with dignity in the face of such a terrible, painful, and incurable illness. She moved to Oregon to pass away in a little yellow house she picked out in the beautiful city of Portland." In a statement, Compassion & Choices, an end-of-life choice advocacy group that had been working closely with Maynard, said she "died as she intended – peacefully in her bedroom, in the arms of her loved ones."

Maynard was diagnosed with a malignant brain tumor last January, barely a year after she and her husband were married. After several surgeries, doctors said in April that her brain tumor had returned and gave her about six months to live. She moved from California to Oregon to take advantage of that state's law which allows assisted suicide – one of five states in which the practice is legal.

Maynard is survived by her husband and his family, her mother and stepfather. And in the aftermath of her death the media have reported the remarkable support her life-ending decision seems to have garnered from the public.

It is hard not to feel compassion for this young woman who movingly explained her resolution on CNN.com: “I do not want to die. But I am dying. And I want to die on my own terms. Having this choice at the end of my life has become incredibly important. It has given me a sense of peace during a tumultuous time that otherwise would be dominated by fear, uncertainty and pain.”

Only the One who has given you the gift of life has the right to end it.

Addressing the issue of choice last month in an opinion piece, she qualified her decision:

"I would not tell anyone else that he or she should choose death with dignity," she said. "My question is: Who has the right to tell me that I don't deserve this choice? That I deserve to suffer for weeks or months in tremendous amounts of physical and emotional pain? Why should anyone have the right to make that choice for me?"

But her reasoning has now, after her death, made her the indisputable spokesperson for a movement – the movement that seeks to legalize assisted suicide under the benevolent guise of “death with dignity,” Its credo is based not only on glorifying the choice of self-inflicted death but implicitly disparaging those who select to continue their battle for life in spite of its burdens as nothing less than “undignified.” Brittany Maynard has unwittingly become the face of Compassion & Choices, and for its advocates for legalizing suicide we need to respond with a voice that merges compassion with morality.

The Response of Faith

Let me be clear. Had Brittany Maynard come to me while weighing her decision to ask for my input I would’ve shared with her my ambivalence between faith and feelings. I could understand her fear of facing an unbearable future. I could empathize to the best of my ability with her desire to avoid seemingly certain horrors. Yet to her question – who has the right to tell me that I don’t deserve this choice? – I would have to answer: “Only the One who has given you the gift of life has the right to end it.” Taking the life of another is called murder. It is not because we have no right to take someone else’s life. It is because we have no right to take away life. So too, we have no right to take away our own existence from this earth.

But shouldn’t we have compassion for those forced to endure future pain? My feelings beg me to consider the hardships; my faith reminds me that my concern is assuredly not greater than God’s, who is all merciful, all kind, and all loving and yet has still not decreed death.

Suicide is disagreeing with a Divine verdict for life.

Suicide in the simplest sense is disagreeing with a Divine verdict for life. To the question of why? – Why should I continue to live when I am in so much pain? Why should I go on when I am only a burden to others? Why should I stay the course when the end I desire is in any event inevitable? – we can only find comfort in God’s response to Moses when asked to “show me your glory – let me understand your ways”: “Man cannot see Me and live… I will pass before you and you will see my back, but my face you shall not see” (Exodus 33:18 – 23). As mortals we can never fully grasp the why of God’s management of the universe. Yet there is one truth that often serves to give us a glimpse of His wisdom. We can never see His face; as life unfolds in its mysterious ways we are often perplexed by its seeming cruelties, bewildered by its inexplicable hardships. Yet oft times we can see “his back”; in retrospect, events take on meaning, difficulties recognizable as having had purpose.

It was Kierkegaard who profoundly remarked “The greatest tragedy of life is that it must be lived forwards and can only be understood backwards.” For those who cannot understand the why of their suffering the response of faith asks to withhold judgment. Divine wisdom is greater than ours. And for people of faith it endows even years of pain and anguish with deeper meaning – both for our own souls as well as opportunities for others to express noblest acts of self-sacrifice and devotion.

Defining the Additional Danger

What needs still to be said is the danger of confusing compassion for Brittany Maynard with the kind of approval for her decision that has already made itself manifest in many circles. Assisted suicide poses a real danger to people with disabilities. Who is to say when multiple sclerosis or ALS are classified as “terminal”? Who will make the determination whether disabilities deserve death as ideal option? In the Netherlands, for instance, doctors are free to decide whether a child born with a disability should live. The government has come up with a guideline of standards and if the medical team believes that the child – or the parents – would face significant suffering, then that infant can be euthanized.

More worrisome still, Marilyn Golden of the Disability Rights Education & Defense Fund in Berkeley is concerned that Maynard's story distorts the larger picture. "For every individual with a happy family who's not at risk for abuse, there are many other individuals who may be subtly steered toward assisted suicide by their insurance company or pressured by their family." Golden worries lest "profit-driven managed health care" subtly steer the sick in the direction of – what's the word? – Dignity. Miller wonders whether in the new world of choice, there still will be a place for "people who are sick and beyond their utilitarian function."

Suicide does not end suffering; it ends hope.

People in this country have bought into the premise that one really is better off dead than disabled. There is a powerful slippery slope when legitimizing pain and disability as sufficient warrant for suicide. It is but another way of defining people with certain infirmities as unworthy of life – and those of us old enough to remember can recall that Nazi Germany began by exterminating what we today call the mentally challenged and eventually moved on to genocide of a “racially inferior” people.

On a Personal Note

Readers of my articles on Aish.com may recollect my sharing with you the diagnosis I received in which my doctor informed me that I had a fatal illness for which there is no cure. Research on the Internet informed me that from the time of diagnosis I would have no more than six months to live. That happened almost three years ago. With great thanks to God and in almost all certainty as response to my prayers and the prayers of countless others, I feel fine today and hopefully look forward to the proverbial 120 years of life.

All that is but another way of saying that suicide is wrong for yet another reason: It does not end suffering; it ends hope. It fails to admit the possibility for recovery, for medical miracles, for divine intervention.

Suicide today is the 10th leading cause of death in the United States. I mourn for Brittany Maynard and all those who have opted for her solution to pain and suffering. My purpose is not to condemn them for their decision but to pray that all those contemplating taking their own lives choose the way of hope over despair, the way of faith over the feeling of abandonment by a loving God.

November 8, 2014

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Visitor Comments: 159

(90) dovid halevi, June 14, 2017 2:19 PM

Is there a solution?

Without stepping into the slippery slope. Without condemning or condoning. What is indeed the solution.

It is the doctors that have created the nightmare, not the disease. Medicine for profit without empathy? Lack of palliative solutions? Lack of information? The unavailability of new treatment approaches?

The cancer pandemic. The Alzheimers pandemic. I mince no words. ALS? Hawking is a living miracle who denies G-d (we have a religious person like him here in Israel who has outlived all his doctors).

I can sympathize with her decision. When the Creator deals such bad (in her eyes but who-else's are there here?), there is a great empowerment in such a decision. I'll do it MY WAY!

(89) Toby Weitzman, January 13, 2016 1:22 AM

Ending one's life is brave

Rabbi,
In a perfect world, when a disease is treatable with hopes of a cure in the future, I would hope one would choose life.
However, this is far from a perfect world. My son suffered for more than 15 years with the debilitating , horrific disease of schizophrenia. There was not a doctor, hospital, or medication that would take his DAILY nightmares away, and we visited hundreds of professionals and hospitals. The sad fact is there is no cure for schizophrenia. Imagine this. Degrading, paranoid, scary thoughts going through your mind 24/7. Telling you awful things about yourself. Even causing physical pain with excruciating headaches. My son was a brilliant, loving, honest man, who decided at age 36 he just could not live like this anymore. Who could? I have been to enough symposiums, research centers and have read hundreds of books and articles to know there was no cure to be had, at least in the next 15 years.
I miss my son every minute, and the pain of him not being here is excruciating. But I know Hashem did not want him to suffer anymore and wanted him to be with him in peace. And that is my peace. My son is the bravest man I have ever known, for living a nightmare for 15 years, and then deciding to have peace in his life, which he so deserved.

valerie, August 21, 2016 11:52 PM

to toby weitzman

know this goes against all Jewish thought, but at least your son made peace with G-d, himself.

Maybe G-d gave certain people the compassion and intellect to assist those who choose not to suffer excruciating pain for themselves and their families, as unG-dly as this might sound?

years ago, much too early, when my mom was supposedly dying, she looked at me and that look was 'no way.' so when the hospital was giving her pain shots so often, i chased after the doctor and told him it's ridiculous -- why can't he put her on a drip, why should she keep suffering. i guess i'm in the same boat as your son - but to me, the Jewish heart will do anything to lessen a loved one's suffering. a drip might have hastened things slightly, BUT my mother loved G-d and honored her life as much as i did. the most difficult thing to do in life is let go of the person you love the most. unforgivable?

(88) Eravon, January 10, 2016 6:29 PM

Relativism

I totally agree with the Rabbi. To say that everyone is different and has the right to do what is right for themselves is to deny that there is a G_d. There is a G_d. We are not G_d. He has given us His commandments. He is the ultimate definer of what is right and good for us to do while we live. Yes, at times, we will suffer pain and perhaps, loss of dignity to obey his commandments.

(87) Rachel, February 19, 2015 3:16 AM

Unfortunately, this has a lot to do with economics. While doctors continue to make money by treating their terminally ill patients, the hospitals and insurance companies don't and therefore, they push for termination of treatment. If terminally ill patients would be profitable the healthcare scene would be very different.

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