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Tears on Tisha B'Av

Tears on Tisha B'Av

It's a dynamic that transcends generations: Tisha B'Av and the future of Jerusalem are inextricably linked.


If I forget you Jerusalem
May I forget my right hand
May my tongue cleave to the roof of my mouth
If I ever don't think of you
If I don't raise up Jerusalem above my highest joy

- Psalms 137:5,6

The first historic tragedy to occur on Tisha B'Av was when the Jews in the generation of Moses accepted the Spies' slanderous report, thereby squandering the chance to fulfill their destiny in Israel.

Upon realizing the gravity of their mistake, the people sat down to cry (Deut. 1:45). They realized that the land had been promised, but only their fears prevented them from going forward. At which point God responds: "Today you cried for nothing; in the future I'll give you a real reason to cry." (Talmud - Ta'anit 29a)

And we've been crying ever since. Both tears of sadness and tears of hope. The Western Wall in Jerusalem is also called the "Wailing Wall," because of all the Jewish tears Jews have shed there over the centuries.

During the 1900-year exile, Jews would travel to Jerusalem at great expense and danger, just to have the chance to pray at the Wall. There, they would pour their hearts out to God, beseeching him for Jewish redemption. They watered the Wall with their tears and melted the stones with their kisses.


The following story is told about the Chasam Sofer, the great 19th century Hungarian rabbi:

One afternoon before Tisha B'Av, the Chasam Sofer, a great 19th century European sage, would neither study Torah nor write responsa. He simply closed himself in a room.

One of his disciples could not restrain his curiosity and quietly opened the door of the room. He saw the Chasam Sofer weeping bitterly over the destruction of the Temple, his tears falling into a glass in front of him.

At the meal before the fast, the Chasam Sofer drank from the tears collected in the glass, in fulfillment of the verse (Psalms 80:6): "You fed them with the bread of tears, and gave them tears to drink in great measure."

When the Jewish people were slaves in Egypt, the redemption did not come about until they cried out to God (see Exodus 3:7). So too, the future redemption will follow the same pattern: When the Jewish people cry out to the Almighty, He will hear their cry and redeem them.

Do we appreciate the loss of the Temple to the extent that it brings us to tears? This is precisely the level we strive to achieve on Tisha B'Av.


We must feel the pain of exile if we have any hope of reversing it. Like orphans who never knew their parents, we go about our daily lives insensitive to the lack of a healthy spiritual world. On Tisha B'Av, we strive to understand what the loss of the Temple means -- and how we can connect with our destiny, our struggle, our mission and our identity as a people.

The story is told of Napoleon walking through the streets of Paris. As he passed by a synagogue, he heard the sound of people weeping inside. He turned to his assistant and asked, "What's going on in there?"

"Today is Tisha B'Av," came the reply, "and the Jews are mourning the loss of their Temple."

Napoleon looked toward the synagogue and said, "If the Jews are still crying after so many hundreds of years, then I am certain the Temple will one day be rebuilt!"

The Talmud (Brachot 32b) teaches that when the Temple was destroyed, all the Gates of Heaven were closed -- except for one. That is the Gate of Tears.

This Tisha B'Av, we must remember that the tears we shed for the destruction, are precisely those tears which will bring about redemption.

August 5, 2000

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Visitor Comments: 5

(5) Anonymous, July 20, 2010 7:16 PM

Very informative and inspiring. May we all be zocheh to see the geula. Amen

(4) Anonymous, August 7, 2003 12:00 AM

An informative article

Rabbi Simmons,

I hope to read more of your articles.

(3) Eva, September 10, 2001 12:00 AM

Penned -- for love of Eretz Yisrael...

"Soon, Jerusalem, Soon!"

From a distance, I watch as my mother continues to mourn the loss of her children. Though pained at heart and broken in spirit, she stands as the epitome of a virtuous woman, whose vestures were fashioned and designed in strength, honor, and holiness unto the L-rd. How I've longed to comfort her, to speak peace to her, yet I am so very far away, held fast to another time, another place. Again, I hear her groanings and muffled cries: "How long, O' L-rd, before You restore my children unto me?" "Soon", reassures my Father, Whose voice, a burning flame, rekindles her spirit anew. "Soon, Jerusalem, soon!"

(2) Sharril Sherwood, July 28, 2001 12:00 AM

A moving, inspiring, significant article.

While observing Tisha B'Av in Jerusalem in 1994, I, with a group of other Gentile lovers of the G-d of Isreal, His Land and His people, committed to praying through the night, with reading of the Book of Lamentations, etc. As people who were accustomed to being "Watchmen on the Wall" to pray for the peace and blessings of Israel and His people everywhere, and often shedding many, many tears., we are puzzled by our dry eyes.....Weeping as a prayer cannot come from our own selves, it must be brought forth by HaShem, Himself.
Finally, we realized why we had no tears that night, because, for the vast majority of Jewish people, they had no tears to shed. Many had no longing for the Glory of Israel, no sense of loss of the Temple, connection with the innumerable past tragedies of their history on this date, and no real awareness of the dangers of the present and future. This is because so many have lost their vision of who they are, and their destiny to be a "Light to the Gentiles". We prayed then, and now, for a rebirth of Zionism, that the spirit of Esau would vanish from the minds of His peole, and that multitudes would return, with weeping, to the G-d of their fathers. Truly you have suffered twice, and I pray for comfort, peace, and healing for all of you. Then, as the footnote in the Tehillim 56 notes regarding the tears in the bottle for verse 9 says, "be ever mindful of my suffering. See that I have already suffered greatly, record my travail, and grant me swift deliverance from my enemies."
And, HE WILL. Then, you can "Arise and shine, for the Glory of the L-rd has risen upon you."

(1) , August 9, 2000 12:00 AM


This is beautiful; as I was reading this; I started to shed some tears; then I realized that the name of the song playing in the background here at work contained the words "No Me Llores" in Spanish. Coincidence?

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