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Our Christian Friends

Being a friend to another person or to a group of people is different from using them, however amiably.

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Graciousness is a virtue the American Jewish establishment has learned a lot about recently, but we can stand to learn more.

For years, the Christian Right supported Israel with more passion than many Jews could muster. But rather than thank Christians and seek to deepen that support, groups like the Anti-Defamation League, the American Jewish Congress, and the Simon Wiesenthal Center acted as private police agencies, rooting out any hints of Christian "intolerance." Intolerance was defined as expressing certainty either about moral matters (homosexuality, abortion) or about certain theological questions (like, "Who goes to Heaven?" or "Who killed Jesus?").

When Christian leaders committed "intolerance" they could count on being publicly humiliated by the likes of Abraham Foxman of the ADL or Rabbi Marvin Hier of the Wiesenthal Center.

This pattern persisted even into the recent crisis in Israel, when pro-Israel sentiments among Christians were clearly what was behind the pro-Israel tilt among congressional Republicans and in the White House.

Christian-Jewish cooperation is suddenly the idea of the moment.

Then, amazingly, something changed. You began to see media report after media report about Jews, in the establishment and at the grassroots level, who had been, simply, overwhelmed by the feeling of gratitude. Apart from America, the whole world was against Israel. And here were these customary bogeymen, these Christian right-wingers, for whom even an Abe Foxman couldn't help feeling a certain warmth. In New York's Jewish Week, it was reported that Foxman approached and thanked -- yes, thanked -- pro-Israel Christian politico Gary Bauer, though he stipulated that he would continue to oppose Bauer's conservative domestic agenda.

Now we have the latest development. Yechiel Eckstein is a Chicago rabbi whose group, International Fellowship of Christians and Jews, raises money from Christians for Israel and for impoverished Jews elsewhere in the world. (Last year, more than $22 million.) With fanfare from the New York Times and a full-page ad in the Washington Post, Rabbi Eckstein has retained the services of political consultant Ralph Reed to be the Christian cochairman of "Stand for Israel," a new group for Christian Zionists.

Christian-Jewish cooperation is suddenly the idea of the moment. All of which is a most welcome improvement on the previous state of affairs.

Yet something further needs to be learned about graciousness, and about friendship. It's wonderful that Abe Foxman is now Gary Bauer's pal. But what does friendship really mean?

To be a friend is by definition to feel obliged.

Being a friend to another person or to a group of people is different from using them, however amiably. This fact, often overlooked, is stamped into the language of the Jewish soul: etymologically, the Hebrew word for friend, chaver, is a variation on the root that means "obligation." That is, to be a friend is by definition to feel obliged. It means you have to give as well as take.

This should be of interest to Jews, but also to Christians, who may feel emboldened to start asking for something back.

At a minimum, Christians can reasonably ask that groups like the ADL, the American Jewish Congress, and Wiesenthal Center lay off a bit. In exchange for their vital support of Israel, at least until the Mideast crisis has subsided, let Foxman et al. declare a moratorium on bashing Christians.

If they're feeling bolder, let Christian conservatives ask that the Jewish establishment reconsider its programmed loyalty to every whim and prejudice of the Democratic party. They might mention that the Jewish religion itself lines up naturally with a conservative way of thinking about politics -- emphasizing individual rather than state moral responsibility, giving a prominent place to religious values and symbols in public institutions, two themes that are in evidence on almost every page of the Hebrew Bible.

All this is a matter of learning and expressing graciousness. That's the ethical reason Jews might want to consider giving to Christians just as we receive from them.

For a lengthier treatment of the moral grounds for transforming the way the Jewish community deals with Christians, in the form of a free pamphlet, call up the organization I work for, Toward Tradition, at 800-591-7579, or send us an e-mail with your address at pamphlet@towardtradition.org.

Our pamphlet deals as well with a more pragmatic consideration, which I'll mention here just because it's amazing that the Jewish community, so devoted to Israel, is also so unaware of its own self-interest.

American Christians love Israel because they revere the Hebrew Bible. So far they haven't been deterred by the experience of being kicked around by some members of the Jewish establishment. So far! But could there be a limit to Christian patience? That is a question to which, for the sake of Israel, a nation dependent on American favor, let's hope we never have to find out the answer.

Published: June 29, 2002

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Visitor Comments: 58

(53) Zehava, August 23, 2015 5:51 PM

May G-d bless all Christian friends of Israel

This is a very thoughtful article, and we need more of this kind of thinking.

I am a convert to Judaism, whose feet were put on the path to Judaism by a Southern Baptist initiative to convert Jews. This engendered written back-and-forth on religious topics in the local paper, which provided a glimpse of the beauty that is Judaism. Judaism is beautiful, beautiful, beautiful. Why should we be suspicious of Christians who see and feel this also? Why should we question them and their motives so suspiciously? They come to us with love, support and affection, and we mutter under our breaths about what their great-great-great grandfathers may have felt generations ago? The Christians of today are not responsible for the actions of some of their great-great-great-grandfathers. I am proud to be a Jew, and it seems entirely natural and right to me that Christians who read the Bible should love Israel and the Jewish people.

I have met many people in CUFI over the years and they are genuine people whose love for Israel is luminous. We could not ask for better friends.

I am glad the author of this article called out Jewish democrats (as a group...of course there are exceptions) for their non-support or even hostility for Israel. This is not introducing politics into the situation, the politics are already there. He is simply stating what is fact, and in the face of a soon-to-be nuclear Iran, and the rising tide of virulent Islam, we better get comfortable with speaking the truth, and seeing things as they are. i used to think that there were few things worse than politics from the bimah, but I was wrong. Silence from the bimah when Israel's enemies in the Islamic world call for her nuclear destruction, and the American government is complicit, is worse. May G-d bless all the Christians who stand and speak out in support of Israel.

(52) Boca Mom, June 29, 2015 5:37 PM

the enemy of my enemy is my friend

More and more lately you will see Jews and Christians band together because of the islamic terrorists attacking both of our people. This has already led many christians with anti-semitic leanings to re-think thir position and notice that we Jews are not so bad in comparison.

(51) Barbara Cizek, March 24, 2015 11:04 PM

Many Jews must love Christians because they are always marrying them so what does that say.

Men love beautiful women no matter what race or religion she is.
Men always assume they will automatically convert anyway so they do not care what religion she is.
I think the parents are the ones who may have problems with what religion a potential partner for their sons is but he sons generally go for looks, personality and other things.

One day everyone no matter the race will see Jesus and the problem will be solved.....

(50) John B, November 6, 2013 10:35 AM

Thank you David....

Really Good well thought out article David,.....thank you for stating the blatantly obvious...that Christians,..for some years now,..are the Jews best friends. Hollywood will get it,...and start broadcasting far more centre-right programs,....thank G-d

(49) Anna, September 12, 2013 6:56 PM

Encouraged

It is encouraging to see this thought written out so eloquently by another. I have often wondered why Jews are known to lean Left politically when their faith leans so far Right. With politics so far removed from personal beliefs, how can you remain honestly true to your faith? Doesn't living one way and voting the other mean you are continually fighting against yourself?
Having grown up as a Christian with a great admiration for devout Jews, I am somewhat concerned by some of the comments here that say we have motives to halt conversion to Judaism. I have not heard anyone I know even hint at such a purpose. Also, I have occasionally pondered the implications of making such a conversion myself. Still curious about the possibility.
Israel is established, yet still faces danger from all borders; Israel needs to notice their ally and be glad to have one. Unfortunately, the current administration here in the USA is obviously against decency, true freedom and all those seeking the One True God. If those in charge now really wanted Israel to be free and to grow, they would not condemn defensive actions taken, but would encourage your efforts to secure your people from attacks.
Live long and prosper in the blessings He has promised you.

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