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The Kippah Debate

The Kippah Debate

Wearing a yarmulke is no easy decision. It signifies to the world – and to its wearer – that it sits on top of a committed Jew.


The first time that I wore a kippah outside of synagogue in Canada, I was petrified. I had just got back from Israel, where I became religious and where kippahs are about as common as cellular phones. But when I came back to Vancouver, I didn't have the courage to start wearing a kippah.

My reasons were many: I didn't have the courage to stand up to the questioning of my friends and family. I didn't have the courage to be a "model Jew" and have all of my actions judged, because I was wearing a kippah. I simply didn't have the courage to make the statement that wearing a kippah makes.

However, my first Shabbat in Vancouver, I was informed that one is not allowed to carry anything on Shabbat (in the absence of an eruv, which didn't exist). That meant that after shul I couldn't put my kippah in my pocket!

What was I going to do? I had an hour walk home! What would people think of me? I didn’t have too many options.

I thought about sprinting home so people could only see a cat-like figure rushing by them.

I thought about sprinting home so people could only see a cat-like figure rushing by them which wouldn't give them time to make out my head covering. But I realized that I was not at all cat-like, and that I could probably sprint for about a block before I would fall to the ground in convulsions. So I decided to bite the bullet and walk all the way home wearing my kippah.

During that walk home, I must have looked like an escaped mental patient with a serious case of paranoia. When someone walked by me I would think to myself, "What are you looking at? Are you looking at my kippah? What's wrong with you? Haven't you ever seen a Jewish person before? RACIST PIG!"

Actually the person walking towards me was probably thinking to himself, "This man approaching me looks like he is addicted to crack. I hope he doesn't beat me up."


As the months and years went on I got more comfortable wearing my kippah and started wearing it almost all of the time.

But when I applied to summer internships at law firms in Vancouver I didn't wear my kippah to the interviews. "Who is going to hire me if I am wearing a kippah?" I asked myself. Despite the fact that Canada is probably the most multi-cultural, tolerant country in the world, I still couldn't do it.

But I discovered there were problems with not wearing a kippah at work.

My first day at the firm, they took me out for lunch to "The Spotted Prawn."

Since my co-workers had no reason to think that I was different, my first day at the firm, they took me out for lunch to a restaurant called "The Spotted Prawn."

While all of my co-workers ordered various shellfish dishes forbidden to me, I wanted to ask if the chef could make me a special dish -- like, perhaps, roasted water with a side dish of sliced water seasoned in water. Instead, I ended up ordering a salad, but I knew that I was still compromising my kashrut standards.

From then on, it was bag lunches for me.

For professional and spiritual reasons, I decided to move to Toronto. With my previous kippah-wearing difficulties under my belt, I was determined to go to my Toronto interviews wearing a kippah.


My first interview was in a downtown firm that I was really interested in. I got into the elevator, which was to take me to the 45th floor, a little nervous about the kippah thing but forging on courageously.

I noticed another guy in the elevator wearing a kippah as well. I felt immediately relieved. We struck up a conversation and I told him which law firm I was interviewing at.

"Oh, that is a great firm," he said. "Congratulations on getting an interview there." He paused for a second and then continued, "I should warn you. I've heard they don't really like it if people wear their yarmulkes to work."

I looked both ways as if I was going to set off the "kippah alert alarm."

My heart sank into the pit of my stomach. I am not sure if that was from hearing the news or because the elevator came to an abrupt landing on the 45th floor. I exited cautiously and looked both ways as if I was going to set off the "kippah alert alarm." I turned to the man in the elevator and thanked him for the advice.

"No problem," he said to me while he stepped out of the elevator as well.

"Good morning Mr. Rothstein," the receptionist said to my friend in the elevator. "Your 9:00 appointment is here to see you." My elevator buddy -- a partner at this firm -- winked at me and laughed. "Good luck in the interview. Come by my office when you are done if you get the chance."

My interview went well and I could see that my decision to wear a kippah was paying off already. Some of the lawyers told me, without me asking, that I would have no problem observing Shabbat at this firm, even in the winter months when Shabbat begins early.

The firm also wanted to take me out for dinner, but they offered to set up a get together in the office so that I could come without having to order roasted water. I didn't have to explain myself, my kippah did the explaining for me.

Once I put the kippah on they knew exactly where I stood. It was also a symbol for me to know where I stood, in that my internal "religious" thoughts and feelings had to be reflected by external actions.

You may think that I was overly neurotic about my kippah dilemma. But the fact is, that once someone puts on a kippah, he is making a statement.

For me, it is a statement to myself and to others of my commitment to Judaism and the Jewish people. After becoming more secure with my own Jewish identity, I have finally found the courage to make it.

Published: April 1, 2000

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Visitor Comments: 104

(102) Steve Wilson, December 11, 2012 4:42 PM

To wear or not to wear during an interview.

I always wear a kippah and it has prompted many wonderful conversations with strangers, some Jewish, others not, as I go about my day, especially on the city bus. My most recent employer was very supportive of my wearing a kippah as were my coworkers. Positive experience all around. However, I am now searching for a job, and the debate turns to the interview. Among the advice that I've been given, is not to wear it (or any religious emblem) during an interview. Because it does send a strong message but can mean different things to different people, it can be a distraction in the short time that you are in an interview. During that brief time there is insufficient opportunity to get a full understanding of a person other than as related to the job. In fact, most wouldn't or shouldn't ask which leaves them solely with their understanding and not the message I might wish to convey. It's a tough call, because Judaism is such a big part of my life, but during an interview we're also not talking about any other facet of my life outside of work. On the other hand, should they hire me, one day I'll show up wearing a kippah and they will be somewhat surprised, hopefully not in a bad way..

(101) Brian C, August 10, 2012 4:50 PM


This is something that I too have struggled with. My supervisor knows this too and has encouraged me to wear it to work, but mostly to see how others will react so I almost feel as though it would be just for him to see a bit of shock-value.

Antonia, May 13, 2014 10:16 AM

If not you, then who?

If you don't make a statement for your beliefs, who will? Unless you're in a place where such statement goes against your safety, there should be no doubt about it.

Cover your head so that the fear of heaven may be upon you. -Talmud Shabbat 156b

(100) Yitzhak Alexander, March 24, 2011 2:44 PM

Kosher in the South

I live in Charlotte, NC - the buckle of the "Bible Belt" and home of Billy Graham (and not far from where Jim and Tammy Faye Baker hung out). After hearing a Dvar Torah one year on Yom Kippur about publicly celebrating my Judaism, I decided to begin wearing a Kippah. In addition to living in the South, working in a university means I encounter a number of Muslim students. At first, I was concerned if I would get hassled. Quite the contrary! If people say anything, it's positive. I have even had pleasant conversations with Muslim students about things religious. Not only does it feel good to make a statement (that not everyone is Christian), but it helps me to remember to act in ways that honor Hashem, not dishonor H-m (thus allowing me to remember the 6 Constant Mitzvos). While I initially got flak from my then-fiancee for doing so, I feel as if I'm not dressed if I don't wear a yarmulke.

(99) Victoria, March 22, 2011 8:44 PM


I used to work for a company that is run by the mormons. In the interview, I told them I am Jewish. I was hired. The first few weeks, there was this talk about me not being one of them. So, I went to my boss, asked her what's the issue all about. She said, "I guess, it's to do with your religion. In this company" she added," we believe in god." I didn't know what to say. I thought for a while I should explain to her that I believe in G-d, not a human god. But something inside me just shut me up. I let it go. For more than 2 years, I was harassed, and bullied in every proportion. I prayed to HaShem to give me strength and courage to stand up to this human god-believers. I asked Him one day to give me a reason to leave this godly workplace. The next day, my car just don't want to start, and then I got sick, my doctor told me to have a rest for at least a month. A month went, and time to go back to the wholly(for holy!) place. I got sick again. I asked HaShem if it's Him telling me not to go back. And then I thought about the 'free will' thingy, just like that. Next thing, I was emailing my resignation, with no thanks but 'May G-d bless you' above my signature. I had a victory party a day later, and declared to everyone that 'hell is now behind me!'.

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