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The Shabbos Goy

The Shabbos Goy

"Get the Spanish boy, and hurry." That was me.

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Snow came early in the winter of 1933 when our extended Cuban family moved into the Williamsburg section of Brooklyn. I was ten years old. We were the first Spanish speakers to arrive, yet we fit more or less easily into that crowded, multicultural neighborhood. Soon we began learning a little Italian, a few Greek and Polish words, lots of Yiddish and some heavily accented English.

I first heard the expression "Shabbos is falling" when Mr. Rosenthal refused to open the door of his dry goods store on Bedford Avenue. My mother had sent me with a dime to buy a pair of black socks for my father. In those days, men wore mostly black and Navy blue. Brown and gray were somehow special and cost more. Mr. Rosenthal stood inside the locked door, arms folded, glaring at me through the thick glass while a heavy snow and darkness began to fall on a Friday evening. "We're closed, already," Mr. Rosenthal had said, shaking his head, "can't you see that Shabbos is falling? Don't be a nudnik! Go home." I could feel the cold wetness covering my head and thought that Shabbos was the Jewish word for snow.

My misperception of Shabbos didn't last long, however, as the area's dominant culture soon became apparent; Gentiles were the minority. From then on, as Shabbos fell with its immutable regularity and Jewish lore took over the life of the neighborhood, I came to realize that so many human activities, ordinarily mundane at any other time, ceased, and a palpable silence, a pleasant tranquility, fell over all of us. It was then that a family with an urgent need would dispatch a youngster to "get the Spanish boy, and hurry."

That was me. In time, I stopped being nameless and became Yussel, sometimes Yuss or Yusseleh. And so began my life as a Shabbos Goy, voluntarily doing chores for my neighbors on Friday nights and Saturdays: lighting stoves, running errands, getting a prescription for an old tante, stoking coal furnaces, putting lights on or out, clearing snow and ice from slippery sidewalks and stoops. Doing just about anything that was forbidden to the devout by their religious code.

Thanks to me, my entire family had become Jewish pastry junkies.

Friday afternoons were special. I'd walk home from school assailed by the rich aroma emanating from Jewish kitchens preparing that evening's special menu. By now, I had developed a list of steady "clients," Jewish families who depended on me. Furnaces, in particular, demanded frequent tending during Brooklyn's many freezing winters. I shudder remembering brutally cold winds blowing off the East River. Anticipation ran high as I thought of the warm home-baked treats I'd bring home that night after my Shabbos rounds were over. Thanks to me, my entire family had become Jewish pastry junkies. Moi? I'm still addicted to checkerboard cake, halvah and Egg Creams (made only with Fox's Ubet chocolate syrup).

I remember as if it were yesterday how I discovered that Jews were the smartest people in the world. You see, in our Cuban household we all loved the ends of bread loaves and, to keep peace, my father always decided who would get them. One harsh winter night I was rewarded for my Shabbos ministrations with a loaf of warm challah (we pronounced it "holly") and I knew I was witnessing genius! Who else could have invented a bread that had wonderfully crusted ends all over it -- enough for everyone in a large family?

There was an "International" aspect to my teen years in Williamsburg. The Sternberg family had two sons who had fought with the Abraham Lincoln Brigade in Spain. Whenever we kids could get their attention, they'd spellbind us with tales of hazardous adventures in the Spanish Civil War. These 20-something war veterans also introduced us to a novel way of thinking, one that embraced such humane ideas as 'From each according to his means and to each according to his needs.' In retrospect, this innocent exposure to a different philosophy was the starting point of a journey that would also incorporate the concept of Tzedakah in my personal guide to the world.

In what historians would later call The Great Depression, a nickel was a lot of mazuma and its economic power could buy a brand new Spaldeen, our local name for the pink-colored rubber ball then produced by the Spalding Company.

The famous Spaldeen was central to our endless street games: stickball and punchball or the simpler stoopball. One balmy summer evening our youthful fantasies converted South Tenth Street into Ebbets Field with the Dodgers' Dolph Camilli swinging a broom handle at a viciously curving Spaldeen thrown by the Giants' great lefty, Carl Hubbell. We really thought it curved, I swear.

Our neighbors, magically transformed into spectators kibitzing from their brownstone stoops and windows, were treated to a unique version of major league baseball. My tenure as the resident Shabbos Goy came to an abrupt end after Pearl Harbor Day, December 7, 1941. I withdrew from Brooklyn College the following day and joined the U.S. Army. In June of 1944, the Army Air Corps shipped me home after flying sixty combat missions over Italy and the Balkans. I was overwhelmed to find that several of my Jewish friends and neighbors had set a place for me at their supper tables every Shabbos throughout my absence, including me in their prayers. What mitzvot! My homecoming was highlighted by wonderful invitations to dinner. Can you imagine the effect after 22 months of Army field rations?

I had learned the meaning of friendship, of loyalty, and of honor and respect.

As my post-World War II life developed, the nature of the association I'd had with Jewish families during my formative years became clearer. I had learned the meaning of friendship, of loyalty, and of honor and respect. I discovered obedience without subservience. And caring about all living things had become as natural as breathing. The worth of a strong work ethic and of purposeful dedication was manifest. Love of learning blossomed and I began to set higher standards for my developing skills, and loftier goals for future activities and dreams. Mind, none of this was the result of any sort of formal instruction; my yeshiva had been the neighborhood. I learned these things, absorbed them actually says it better, by association and role modeling, by pursuing curious inquiry, and by what educators called "incidental learning" in the crucible that was pre-World War II Williamsburg. It seems many of life's most elemental lessons are learned this way.

While my parents' Cuban home sheltered me with warm, intimate affection and provided for my well-being and self esteem, the group of Jewish families I came to know and help in the Williamsburg of the 1930s was a surrogate tribe that abetted my teenage rite of passage to adulthood. One might even say we had experienced a special kind of Bar Mitzvah. I couldn't explain then the concept of tikkun olam, but I realized as I matured how well I had been oriented by the Jewish experience to live it and to apply it. What a truly uplifting outlook on life it is to be genuinely motivated "to repair the world."

In these twilight years when my good wife is occasionally told, "Your husband is a funny man," I'm aware that my humor has its roots in the shticks of Second Avenue Yiddish Theater, entertainers at Catskill summer resorts, and their many imitators. And, when I argue issues of human or civil rights and am cautioned about showing too much zeal, I recall how chutzpah first flourished on Williamsburg sidewalks, competing for filberts (hazelnuts) with tough kids wearing payes (sidelocks) and yarmulkes. Along the way I played chess and one-wall handball, learned to fence, listened to Rimsky-Korsakov, ate roasted chestnuts, read Maimonides and studied Saul Alinsky.

I am ever grateful for having had the opportunity to be a Shabbos Goy.

Published: June 16, 2007


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Visitor Comments: 76

(69) David Ben Mendez, October 20, 2014 11:54 PM

Jewish Boy to 'The Shabbos Goy'

Joe Verlarde my Cuban Jewish family would not have asked you to do anything on Shabbat: It is not considered appropriate--not Kosher.

(68) Jim Maloney, June 4, 2013 2:41 AM

"Hymie's Life on the Streets of Brooklyn"

I had a very similar upbringing in the Boro Park section of Brooklyn. The neighborhood, in my mind, was 90% Yiddish, 9% Siciliano (people from Sicily) and 1% Maloney. At the age of about ten, I had a regular routine on Friday evenings. "Hymie" would light the stoves for 30 Jewish families. I would receive 1 cent at each household. Saturday morning I would take my two sisters to the Lowes theater and see two features with a serial in between for ten cents each.

After I graduated from West Point, I was sent to Austria as part of the occupation forces. The meat we bought in the commissary was all frozen. We were informed not to buy anything on the economy (the locals) because of the threat of disease. When my wife and I got to the point of being tired of consuming defrosted meat, we went downtown to the local butcher shop. When we went in, there were two women customers talking to the two women behind the counter (there were no men left after the war). After a few minutes, I turned to my wife and said that "I think I know what they're saying." When it was our turn, I spoke my best Yiddish greeting them and asked if we could purchase some meat. The looks on their faces was something to behold. The said to me in their Alpen Deutsch that "we don't say it that way," I responded, How do you say it?" Here was an American Lieutenant trying to speak German. (Unfortunately, their experience had been Americans wanting them to speak English.) [I learned later that Alpen Deutsch and Ghetto Deutsch (Yiddish) were very similar, but also with noticeable differences.] To make a long story short, from then on we received the finest cuts in the shop. COL James W. Maloney, USA (Ret)

(67) Anonymous, December 25, 2012 4:07 PM

Shocked by Joe Velarde's embrace of Marxist ideas

Like Suzanne (18 Dec. comment), I was shocked and appalled that a man whose native country (Cuba) has been ravaged by its Communist government over the last 55 years would consider as a "humane idea" the notion "From each according to his means and to each according to his needs" mouthed by Americans who fought in the Abraham Lincoln Brigade in the Spanish civil war. Marx's slogan "From each according to his ability, to each according to his needs" has been shown to be utterly unworkable and those who have espoused it have been responsible for the deaths of tens of millions!

(66) Anonymous, December 24, 2012 6:36 AM

Sabbath customs for Jewish guests in hotels

When young, I worked for hotels in Florida, St Pete area. We had many diverse cultures to serve, as our hotel was popular in the vacation packages sold worldwide in the late 80's into the 1990's. Every bellboy was taught the basics of being Shabbos Goy, as well as desk staff. Even the receptionists knew to take a message & not ring the room, for important calls the bellboy would go to the room & dial the operator, then hand over the phone. It was an important issue when keycards worked the locks, the light coming on was forbidden (completing the circuit) so bellboys had to let guests in every Sabbath to their rooms. We also would remove things like clock radios for ultra orthodox families. The bellboys were often tipped for Shabbos Goy w food gifts, as I was pleased to learn. After helping a family who stayed a month, I was gifted the most amazing assortment of hazelnut treats I had ever seen. To a Midwestern girl, filberts were the strange small nuts in the Planters mix! They happily tipped me two days before leaving & I was able to get the location of the bodega they had shopped. It helped start me on my lifelong quest for small & interesting grocery stores! I love when I have to ask what something new tastes like. I considered it an honor to be asked & as an ecumenicalist, it was a fascinating view into Judiasm. I was young & exploring religion, before then I had only vaguely known one Jew personally. The idea of keeping a set time 'holy', free of all work & spending it in relaxation w family and friends was powerful, it has stuck w me. I was impressed at how relaxed they were, relaxation as frivolity! religion, to them, was a CONSTANT in life, moment to Always mindful. My views were that religion was something people did once or twice a week, the Midwestern view I was accustomed to then. My life has taught me much, thanks for the visit to my youth and the beaches.

Robert, March 5, 2013 8:14 AM

You're an ecumenicalist

I think you mean "ecumenist"-so what religion are you and what of that did you share with your Jewish friends-that is part and parcel of ecumenism-unless you were a shabbas goy on Sunday also.

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