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A Motley Minyan

A Motley Minyan

They’re frustrating and sometimes broken, but the men in my shul make services divine.


The people we see at shul get into our bloodstream. But still, try as one might, you cannot learn what is on a man’s mind or know too much about him just by davening next to him. But a glimpse you can get: Here is a man geshikt (put together), here a man tzu’brochen (a little broken), here is a man at odds with himself.

A week before Passover, I saw a man bent over a book of Tehillim – the Psalms, often read on behalf of a sick person. I asked for whom he was saying Tehillim – for his mother, his father, a member of his family? “For my wife,” he said with reticence, his voice getting progressively less audible. “I have a rough ‘shalom bayis,’” a lack of peace at home, he continued. “She is an erupting volcano before the holidays. I pray that it won’t be too bad this year.”

I thought he was joking, but then I looked into his eyes and saw a ghost-ship listing in the dead calm of the ocean’s middle. I couldn’t even hear a mayday or S.O.S . – I could only see a single, erratic flickering light, a ner tamid inside him that seemed to be kept by the synagogue’s soothing rhythm of the liturgy, the prayers minted long ago by the rabbis of the Talmud.

After Passover, I asked him how things went at home. “Best Yom Tov in years,” he told me. “We had a very nice time.”

“She changed?” I asked.

“No,” he said. “Something changed in me so that I was able to be with her. A miracle.”

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The Talmud tells us that wherever there are 10 men, the divine presence appears. But this presence does not only appear after the minyan is assembled; by tradition, the divine presence appears before minyan and “waits” for people to come, alone in the empty synagogue’s vast, ornate emptiness.

Tradition urges everyone to arrive early to synagogue, although surprisingly few do, surprising because the Talmud tells us that the man who gets there first receives the greatest reward of all, alone with the divine presence. There is such a man in my shul, successful, yet humble. He is there half an hour before minyan, morning, noon, and night, alone in the dark synagogue with his hands folded in contemplation, accumulating all the riches of the world-to-come while he waits for services to begin.

There is something beautiful about this man, something beautiful about so many of the men in the minyan – in any minyan, if you look closely enough. And as long as I’ve been going to shul, I’ve been falling in love with these men, these beautiful men of shul, who combine the machismo of Jewish scholarship and the softness of maternal love.

The leader of our chabura – my shul’s study group – has a face that radiates the wisdom of Torah and also, improbably, the kindness of motherhood. He gently spoon-feeds us the complex matters of the Talmud, smiling indulgently as we struggle – sometimes with a good question and other times, with klutz-kashyas (questions that betray our ignorance). He comes to shul, face broadened by Torah knowledge, features that look as if they were brushed lightly with egg, a broad Russian back that I place as having come somewhere from the Pripyat Marsh in the Russian steppes, like a genetic hiccup echoing through the generations. In short, he has a yiddisher panim. How can you not be a better person just by looking at his face?

It is not only the scholars, the leaders, who are beautiful. Even these broken ones are part of a whole – a minyan.

But it is not only the scholars, the leaders, who are beautiful. There are the broken ones, as well, often good and pious, but too often empty. But even these broken ones are part of a whole – a minyan.

One man in our shul dresses like a hobo; his hair is wild and shoulder-length, and I would like to scream at him: Get a haircut! I cannot bear when he is called to the Torah for an aliyah – I am often the Torah reader and it is irritating in the extreme to stand next to him as he makes his blessings. He makes a spectacle of himself: He reads together with me loudly and in a way that is thoroughly distracting; his spittle often winds up on the letters of the holy parchment. It is a relief when he steps down from the bimah, but he too must get an aliyah once in a while like everyone else. Doesn’t the Torah say the entire nation is holy?

One man davens three times a day at the shul, standing in the back and faithfully answering amen with devotion. Tall and prosperous-looking, he is a well-heeled professional, yet inexplicably he refuses to make a single donation of any kind to the shul. “I wish I could afford to,” he says with a laugh, before he gallops away with his tallis and tefillin, and then rushes off, presumably to his office. Why? I believe this man is looking for something in shul, and I am pretty sure he doesn’t know what it is. But I have a feeling the shul won’t receive a donation until he finds it. This, I think, is going to take a very long time.

Another man I know can always be found in shul, but never in the sanctuary. Instead, he is near the coffee machine, a sad sack who is forever injuring himself in one accident or another. He is moderately overweight, with a large body shaped like an anjou pear. One gets the impression that there is something about him that is out of whack. To be near him is to experience all manner of psychological and spiritual imbalance and disequilibrium. He dresses in garish clothes, and the way he walks and his bearing looks as though he were about to topple like an old tree. He reminds me of the Sholem Aleichem-type of Jew who is unsuccessful at everything except the winning of an odd lawsuit here and there. He is the kind of man I would like to throw out of shul. And yet, shul would not be shul without him.

After all, what is the Yiddish saying? Nine rabbis cannot daven together, but 10 illiterate shoemakers – a minyan they make. Perhaps in shul we come to terms with the broken-ness in all of us: the part of us that is out of touch, out of step.

For better or worse (and I think for better) the shul is my home. In these sacred precincts where odd bits of humanity and sacredness commingle – bits of light and loss, hubris and humility, the hobo and the prince, the schlep and the schlepped – I watch myself and my contemporaries grow old as we say amens and chant verses and see people and things that alternately torture and touch us.

This article originally appeared on Tablet Magazine.

September 27, 2012

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(5) Anonymous, October 3, 2012 4:44 AM

Broken Schul

My Schul, the one I attend,as I DESPERATELY seek to sooner than later get on the conversion track, has a formidable Rabbi. The Schul is I suppose structural in not he best of shapes, and the mostly men, who attend, are a motley crew of neshamas, who vary tremendously in Spiritual elevation. Yet this brokenness, seems perfect for me - not just the convenience, but a profound reminder of the Grandeur of Torah, and its presence in daily life, and relevance even in the midst of abjectness, and hardship. Here there is no pretentiousness, not a hint of grandiosity, oftentimes associated with "religious elans". There are individuals perusing Torahs, authentically cantankarous, tired, upset, and deeply absorbed in Torah, as the Rabbi awaits many times for his Minyan. It is True Spirituality at work, shaping refining, teaching, learning, feeding the needy, not judging, healing. That is what G-d intends, for his human family, this is what Am Qadosh, Am Israel is charged with - by example, how to be Holy. I hope that BEFORE I decease, I also will be part of this Nation of Holy People.

(4) Anonymous, October 3, 2012 2:16 AM

As much as we can poke fun of our foibles...

I am a neighbor of Yisrael's, and daven at the same shul(s) as him. I greatly appreciate his humor and his wit. And while we're stopping to laugh about the oddities that arise in the religious community, let's also look at what our "normal" counterparts in the secularist Jewish world are up to: "leading ethicist Prof. Asa Kasher...who was a member of the committee that permitted anthrax experiments on Nahal Brigade soldiers" has issued a proclamation that it's okay to poison IDF personnel so long as it's all part of a scientific experiment that will further the greater good ( I'm so proud to be part of the religious community, because in spite of it's comical foibles, it's the one group that's actually connected to the definition of right and wrong, which is why it, as a whole, doesn't get it monumentally wrong like other communities do.

(3) Mike, October 2, 2012 12:39 AM

Pieces of a puzzle

We are all part of a puzzle with different sizes and shapes. If we were all the same, then the puzzle would not hold together. Each complete puzzle needs some odd shapes-appreciate them.

(2) Alan S., September 30, 2012 10:11 AM

A very enjoyable article. I too often sit in synagogue and "size" people up from a distance. This article makes me realize that I am not alone. I also wonder how close to the mark we are (when we size people up this way). Sadly, I do not take the time to know my fellow congregants -- this is my failing.

(1) YH, September 28, 2012 2:23 AM


Beautifully written.

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