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Harvey Weinstein and the #MeToo Phenomenon

Harvey Weinstein and the #MeToo Phenomenon

A silent epidemic is silent no more.

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The precipitous fall of disgraced movie producer Harvey Weinstein has unexpectedly pulled back the curtain on the epidemic of sexual harassment and abuse in our culture. This is no longer a problem that can be considered to happen only to “other people.” It is happening all around us, including to people whom we know well.

When the New York Times published its story detailing sordid revelations about Weinstein’s history of harassing and assaulting women in the entertainment industry, the movie mogul was instantly booted from his job at The Weinstein Company, the studio he co-led with his brother, Bob Weinstein. His ignominy grows daily as a steady stream of other women continue to speak out with specific instances of Weinstein’s creepy and disgusting behaviors with them, including accusations of rape. Weinstein is now under police investigation in New York and London.

This week a #metoo hashtag ignited like wildfire on social media, with women (and also some men) from all walks of life posting the phrase to declare that they had also experienced sexual harassment or abuse. Women were encouraged to copy the meme in solidarity with the victims, even if they had not been abused personally. As of this writing, several million women have posted the hashtag.

I was stunned by how many women I know who were posting the hashtag, not in solidarity but as a rising, painful chorus.

I was stunned by how many women I know who were posting the hashtag, not in solidarity but as a rising, painful chorus. The message was unmistakable: exploitation of women through sexual harassment or worse has been a silent epidemic. Perpetrators were boyfriends, relatives, strangers, dates, supervisors, clients, colleagues, clergymen, teachers. Some women spoke out (anonymously in some cases) about chronic, longstanding and traumatic sexual abuse by relatives, who like Harvey Weinstein, had enablers cover for them.

Later in the day, I had a sudden recollection of two frightening experiences of my own involving unwanted physical contact: one when I was 13 and two when I was 16. An eighth-grade teacher, for whom I had been a sort of “teacher’s pet,” tried to kiss me after class. He fled the room as I stood quaking in shock and revulsion. He later apologized but I could never look him in the eye again. The incidents when I was 16 were more frightening, but like so many of the other #metoo women, I never mentioned these incidents to anyone. They were so repugnant I hoped to bury the memories.

Naturally, the #metoo campaign sparked its own controversy. Some warned that widespread use of the hashtag would trivialize the issue, creating a victimhood bandwagon. The trauma of sexual abuse cannot be reduced to a hashtag. But Meira Schneider-Atik, a New York-based writer, wrote, “Please understand that the point of these ‘me too’ posts has nothing to do with any ‘King of Pain’ competition. I feel that the benefit of knowing you are not alone is priceless, whether you experienced harassment, abuse or rape.”

In response to concerns the campaign was devolving into male-bashing, one woman retorted with an “I love men!” meme, saluting the outstanding and kind natures of her husband, father, brothers, and other men who have nurtured her, loved her and protected her. I “liked” her post, feeling it was a necessary counterbalance to the heaviness and one-sidedness of the social media posts.

Society has failed in epic fashion to teach proper respect for women and appropriate boundaries for how men interact with women.

I hope that some lasting good will come of this #metoo awareness campaign, and that women who have been injured and exploited by men will find a measure of peace and the comfort of solidarity with the millions of others who have responded. The enormity of the rush of #metoo posts reveals that that our society has failed in epic fashion to teach proper respect for women and appropriate boundaries for how men interact with women. Harassment, power plays where intimate contact is demanded by men for any reason, and of course, any form of actual assault are outrages and should never happen.

It’s time to make self-defense more widely available to girls so they can safely stand up for themselves with greater confidence. We need to teach girls and women that if, God forbid, they are ever hurt by a man, it will not have been their fault. We need to teach our sons and husbands the importance of valuing and respecting women as individuals. Women are not toys for them to play with at their whim. We need to do a much better job of instilling a sense of self-control and discipline, and it sure would help if families did not allow degrading entertainment materials that objectify women. This is necessary education in every community, including Jewish communities, where modest clothing and behavior are not adequate protection against a man determined to do evil.

Jewish law recognizes that the sexual drive is so powerful that we dare not trust ourselves to manage it without necessary safeguards that create protective boundaries.

Jewish law recognizes that the sexual drive is so powerful and pervasive, especially within men, that we dare not trust ourselves to manage it without necessary safeguards that create protective boundaries against our baser instincts. These include limitations on the social mingling of men and women, and prohibiting a man and a woman who are not married or closely related from being in seclusion together. (As a counter-story to Harvey Weinstein, film critic Nell Minow described how actor David Schwimmer, whom she was set to interview in a hotel room, suggested having a third person in the room in order to make her feel more comfortable.) Professional meetings between a man and a woman should not be in hotel rooms. There are semi-private spaces available and women need to insist on them for their own protection. The laws of modesty – not only in how we dress but also in how we speak and act –apply equally to men as they do to women. Discretion is called for in all instances.

Of course, no set of rules or standards can fully protect against every attempt to subjugate or abuse women. A twisted or terrible person determined on a course of harm will find a way. But rules and standards are an effective deterrent when a community as a whole adopts them and makes them standard practice.

In an ideal Jewish home, parents will instill our time-honored values that celebrate and honor what is holy, and separate ourselves from the profane. Physical intimacy is meant to be holy, never an instrument of power or intimidation. Judaism teaches respect for women as equal partners with men in the family and in society, as well as a high level of personal responsibility for all our actions wherever we are. It’s time to reinforce these lessons in our own homes and in the greater society around us.

October 19, 2017

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Visitor Comments: 32

(24) Jay, October 25, 2017 7:41 PM

Morally Bankrupt Hollywood

Most of what comes out of Hollywood objectifies women - that is their industry and that is how they make money. The only thing that surprises me is how long it took for a story like this to come out; no doubt there are dozens more Harvey Weinsteins out there.

(23) Anonymous, October 24, 2017 7:39 PM

EVERY Woman Has Experienced This Many Times

I'm not sure what the surprise is. EVERY woman has experienced sexual harassment whether it be a glance, a comment, or gesture. One doesn't need to be alone with a man to experience this. She can sit in a Boardroom with a dozen other people and get the unwanted hand on the shoulder; she can be walking down the street and get groped in a crowd; she could be sitting on a bus waiting for it to leave while a man unzips and fondles himself standing outside her window.

(22) Rachel, October 22, 2017 4:41 PM

Its not about sex

When men degrade, objectify, harass, or assault women, it's not about the "powerful sex drive". It's about who has power and who does not. I'm surprised there are people who are surprised.

(21) nyj, October 22, 2017 3:53 PM

look at Mike Pence

MIke Pence and his wife created their own safeguards. Remember how the liberals were aghast!?? Quote from AOL.com

"A profile of the vice president's wife in the Washington Post reveals the couple adheres to strict rules to preserve the sanctity of their relationship.

According to the article, Mike told the Hill in 2002 that he never eats alone with a woman other than his wife. He also will not attend events featuring alcohol without her by his side."

Anonymous, October 23, 2017 1:21 PM

It's true that having a third party around can prevent a lot of things, but it doesn't prevent everything. First, what if the woman is alone with two men? Second, many instances of harassment and abuse involve family members, even parents (yes, really), where you wouldn't expect to need a third party. Third, there are other instances of abuse involving men doing it to boys, again where you wouldn't expect to need a third party. I'm not saying that having an extra person around won't help in many situations. It's just that the issues of harassment, rape, and abuse are not that simple.

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