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The Three Boys & the World
Rabbi Benjamin Blech

The Three Boys & the World

We are indeed one family. And one that dwells alone.


More than a week has passed. Naftali Frankel, 16, Gilad Shaar, 16, and Eyal Yifrach, 19 are still in captivity and all we can do is continue to pray – to pray that they are still alive and to pray that they will soon be reunited with their families, their friends and all those who love them.

Initially I thought my pain was greater than most. Naftali is a cousin. Just a few short weeks ago I celebrated the traditional Yom Ha-Atzmaut Bar-B-Q with him at his home, together with our family.

We’ve come together united by sorrow, hope and the profound conviction that all Jews are responsible one for another.

In the days since the news of his horrible kidnapping I discovered that my relationship with Naftali is no different than the one he shares with Jewish people around the world. It is literally no exaggeration to say that we are all one family. The pain of one parent missing a child is a pain shared by every Jew. Totally secular or devoutly religious, head covered with knitted skullcap or black hat, Israeli or citizen of any other country in the Diaspora – all have come together in the aftermath of this tragedy, united by sorrow, by hope and by the profound conviction that indeed all Jews are responsible one for another.

Dwelling Alone

But with all this there is another realization that has become starkly evident. It is a painful truth – and one that has an ancient biblical source. It was uttered by Balaam, a non-Jewish prophet who came to curse the Jewish people but ended up uttering words of blessing placed into his mouth by the Almighty. “Lo,” he said, “it is a people that shall dwell alone, and shall not be reckoned among the nations” (Numbers 23:9). Jewish destiny is defined by uniqueness. Alone among the nations, Jews will always be identified as those who march to the tune of a different drummer. Jews will be guided by the moral and ethical mission to which they subscribed at Sinai. And for this they will be hated.

“Conscience is a Jewish invention,” Hitler declared. “It is a blemish like circumcision. I am freeing man from the restraints of an intelligence that has taken charge, from the dirty and degrading self-mortification of a false vision called conscience and morality.”

It is not true that anti-Semitism is irrational. We are not reckoned among the nations precisely because we “dwell alone.” Our commitment to conscience, to the still small Divine voice within us that calls upon us to live up to having been created in God’s image, is an ongoing reproach to those who prefer the unfettered lifestyles of the immoral and the depraved.

So even when the indisputable evil of the kidnapping of innocent children is perpetrated against Jews, we find ourselves alone. So alone that the only response from the head of the United Nations is to question whether in fact a crime was committed.

Even the supposedly civilized world falls so short of an appropriate response when Jews are the victims. The President of the United States has so far remained silent. His wife Michelle, so troubled by the plight of the girls kidnapped in Nigeria that her hashtag sign pleading for the return of these endangered young women made headlines around the globe, does not seem to have been similarly moved to action by the plight of the Israeli teenagers. Most startling of all is the comment of the State Department spokesperson Jen Psaki: We recognize this is an incredibly sensitive and difficult circumstance on the ground, and we feel all sides should exercise restraint,” she stated at a press conference last Wednesday.

So too, the New York Times, in its typical attempt to appear to be the voice of a “sane and balanced approach” in the aftermath of any unprovoked attacks on Israel or its citizens, rushed to condemn the Israeli government for its “overreaction.” After all, its editorial staff simply couldn’t understand why there is so much furor over the fate of but three of its children.

Each One a Universe

Let us take this opportunity to make one thing very clear to the media and to the world. God began creation with only one human being to teach a powerful truth: Every person is a potential world. Every individual is a universe.

Steven Spielberg understood it when he closed Schindler’s List, his masterpiece on the Holocaust, with the Talmudic quote that “he who saves but one life is as if he saves an entire world.” Jewish law codifies it when it mandates that we never count people by number. If we need to know whether there is a minyan, a quorum of 10 for prayer, we turn to those present and say, “not one, not two, not three...” because no person should ever be viewed simply as a number. That indeed was one of the unspeakable crimes of the Nazis, who began their debasement of the Jewish victims by depriving them of their identities as individuals, henceforth to be known only by their tattooed numbers.

The Holocaust only became real to many when it went from the tragedy of 6 million to the profoundly moving story of Anne Frank, one precocious and profoundly talented young girl whose dreams were turned to ashes in the flames of the crematoria.

Of all the cruel comments to surface from the world’s reaction to last week’s tragic events, perhaps this captures best why it still does not deserve to be called civilized. “Only three youngsters” the New York Times claims, as it proceeds once again to criticize the “overreaction” of a Jewish people who treasure every child as a world, every Adam as a potential progenitor of countless generations to come.

It is only the remarkable response of Jews around the world that gives me a measure of hope for the future. And for that reason I have every confidence that God will answer our prayers for good and for blessing.

June 22, 2014

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Visitor Comments: 26

(22) Anonymous, July 6, 2014 7:33 PM

3 Murdered teens

I just read your article about the murder of these precious young men. Why does Israeli government continue to placate terrorists? Why is there concerted effort to irradicate Jewish identity and compromise land etc? G-d is Israel's guide, ruler...why wont they obey what HaShem commands and demands of them? There can be no peace if even our Jewish brothers and sisters discard G-d's Torah. Hamas will continue to murder until there is break with the world governments. A returning to Torah is the instruction to all...but we need a holy nation to lead the way and follow Pinehas's example which will bring ultimate peace...and usher in the anointed one....My prayer continues to be that all Jews by birth, conversion...return to the divine Word of Torah...

(21) Andy, July 1, 2014 12:34 AM

Baruch Dayan Emes

Hey Zvi - By now we've all heard the news. Are you still "enraged " and advocating protest ? When you demonstrate weakness your populace is at great risk. You let prisoners free, they send body bags. You give them land and greenhouses, they give you rockets. The response now must be physical and overwhelming - attack and kill terrorists wherever they are. Let the long arm of the IDF target Hamas leaders and take them out, whether in Iran, Syria, or anywhere else. Dismantle the networks. Pulverize the enemy and your women and children will live in peace. Make the retaliation so painful that the idea of another kidnapping will be a second thought and not realized. Peace through strength, not liberal minded, timid protestation. Get real.

(20) brenda, June 30, 2014 2:14 AM

Don't despair. There are more for you than you are aware of.

Many Christians have taken up the burden of praying for the boys return and faith and strength for the distressed parents family and friends. With God all things are possible and He can see them.

(19) Zvi Horovitz, June 29, 2014 7:05 AM

Not only prayer but action too

Nothing is simple when it comes to the Middle-East. So a call to "crush" the enemy or ignore what external actors say and do is more emotional reaction and less thinking. The prime minister and his cabinet makes decisions based on information which we are not privy to. Who knows in the grand scheme of things what's at stake. I have no doubt that Israel will do what needs to be done according to what each situation dictates.
n my opinion, the biggest disappointment comes from our leaders, many who are rabies calling for prayer. Prayer is important but I believe that Hashem also wants his congregation to act! How can we complain about the non-participation of democratic societies when our leaders fail to organize their own communities to step up to the plate - go out and protest. We need to demonstrably show our outrage and attract media attention. If Jews don't show in a demonstrable way that they care for each other, why should the rest of the world care.

Andy, June 29, 2014 3:07 PM

Action not pacifism

Zvi - Protest? Is that it? The action you call for is a leftist, pacifism that the Arabs see as weakness. It's gotten us nowhere, with the Arabs or the Europeans. When you wake up and realize the Arabs want you dead, then you might come around to thinking: crush the enemy! At one time when the Arabs feared the ferocious IDF there were fewer terrorist attacks. It's the leftist thinking that has allowed the Arabs to think they can triumph through terror. It's enough already -protesting, pleading, groveling, asking permission from the sinister, hypocritical nations to let us live in peace. It's time for serious military action, targeted assassinations, and a complete takedown of the terror networks.

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