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The Woman in the Burqa

The Woman in the Burqa

A true story for any Jew who ever felt their name was too Jewish or that wearing a kippah wasn't cool.


I haven't been on a college campus in a long time. Back when I was an undergrad, being Jewish didn't place a target on my head. Sure I had my share of arguments with folks who made some inappropriate comments and even a scuffle or two (or twelve), but anti-Semitism wasn't as prevalent and out in the open as it is these days.

Last month a college newspaper in California published anti-Semitic cartoons about Alan Dershowitz that mirror Nazi propaganda. Pro-Israel freedom of speech is squashed even by Jewish organizations such as the Princeton Hillel where an Israeli diplomat was blocked from lecturing (they later apologized, but still – how did it happen in the first place?). And then there are the cowards from BDS movements who engage in libelous and even physically-intimidating tactics to scare Jewish and pro-Israel students.

So when I was recently asked to speak to a group of American college students on a trip to Jerusalem, I wasn't surprised to hear that all had felt intimidated because of their faith. They had been shouted down in class, embarrassed for wearing their kippot, and even presented with "eviction notices" to leave their dorms.

It was time to make them proud again to be Jewish. To help them appreciate that they are part of the most wonderful nation in the world charged with the mission to bring light to the world.

Preparing for my talk reminded me of a unique case I had in my clinic. I am a clinical psychiatrist and work at an Orthodox Jewish treatment facility in Jerusalem; the vast majority of patients that I see are religious Jews. I am inspired every day by the faith of my patients under adverse circumstances. One day the name Fahima was on my patient list and I was very curious to see who would walk in.

A religious Arab woman entered my office with her infant child. While I was surprised to see a woman wearing a burqa in my clinic that mainly serves the Orthodox Jewish community, I was happy to provide the same high-quality of care to all.

Fahima told me an awful story of her husband's brutal temper and how he's broken her ribs after she returned from the hospital the previous month having delivered a girl instead of a boy. He had subsequently began drinking alcohol on a daily basis and would threaten her life throughout the night.

As we spoke, it became clear to me that making a diagnosis was less important than finding this young woman a safe haven from her increasingly-abusive husband. With her permission, I contacted the local welfare office and was able to schedule her an intake at a domestic violence shelter in the city.

Within an hour, a social worker from the city had arrived to bring her to a safe place. As the episode neared its closure, I couldn't help but to wonder what had brought Fahima to our clinic as opposed to any of the other facilities in the area. Luckily Fahima answered my question for me as she walked out the door.

"God bless you Dr. Freedman. I had nowhere to turn in my own village but I knew if I came to the Jews that they would help me. God bless you."

I was grateful for her blessing, and I felt proud. Not of myself of course – I had only done the simple and obvious thing of connecting a domestic violence victim with social welfare services – but proud of the Jewish people. Her words echoed in my mind, "I knew if I came to the Jews that they would help me."

For every Jew who ever felt that the name Goldstein was too Jewish or that wearing a kippah wasn't cool, I beg to differ. And for every Jewish comedian that seeks to belittle their heritage for a few cheap laughs, I'd offer a rebuttal: nothing should make a person more proud than being part of a people with a national mission to fix the world.

And that was my message to those college students. "But it's so hard," one them said to me.

“It’s true,” I replied, “but a little bit of light can chase away a whole lot of darkness.”

November 13, 2017

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Visitor Comments: 8

(8) Donna Holland, November 17, 2017 9:13 PM

This story touched my heart...

As I read the responses, I became jaded or fearful. What if it was a ruse to find shelters and make them vulnerable to attack. Why do we have to have these thoughts?!

(7) Bracha Goetz, November 17, 2017 2:26 AM


(6) Jerusalem Mom, November 16, 2017 2:00 AM

Hey - that's Bayit Cham's clinic!

Great story, written by a great doctor, about a great clinic! Bayit Cham has an amazing network of mental health clinics in many cities around Israel plus a humogous vocational rehab program throughout Israel - probably close to 50 cities and towns - serving people with every type a disability. Keep up the great work, Doc Freedman and the Bayit Cham team!

(5) Anonymous, November 15, 2017 12:06 PM

Great story on individual level

Jews and Arabs work and help each often. Just check out any hospital or auto repair shop in Jerusalem. That doesn't change the fact that the vast majority of Muslims view all of Israel /Palestine as temporarily occupied land. Arabs have patience and life as a minority in Israel is relatively good for most especially compared to the neighboring Arab countries,but it seems foolish to me to expect loyalty to a Jewish State they never wanted. The Druze being a minority within a minority seem to be a major exception.

(4) chanah, November 14, 2017 7:43 PM


islam and hitler worked hand in hand to get rid of the Jews it was the grand mufti of Jerusalem a guest of hitler who suggested that hitler should use gas to exterminate the Jews, at first hitler wanted all the Jews send back to palestine but oh no the grand mufti wouldn't have none of that so instead he perseverated hitler to use gas, maybe a few muslim helped but as a whole no, they are taught to hate Jews it’s in their DMA and their religion

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