If your spouse portrays a picture of him/herself more
positively than you feel is accurate, accept it. Build upon
it. It is frequently a mistake to try to demolish this picture.
By building upon it, you create a more positive future
People tend to act in ways that are consistent with their
view of themselves. For example, your spouse might
say, "I consider myself to be very considerate." Let's
say you disagree and feel that your spouse has a long
way to go to fit this picture. You would like your spouse
to be more considerate, wouldn't you? Therefore, it is
best to express gratitude for the consideration already
displayed. By doing so you have a better chance of
having a more considerate spouse. If you argue, there is
a good chance you will end up in a no-win quarrel. Even
if your spouse ends up agreeing with you, it is not likely
that your approach will improve their character.
We're human. We need food. We need meaning and connection. And we most definitely need encouragement.
Now, in this wise and charming new volume, we learn how to effectively use the massive power of encouragement,
to encourage ourselves and others, particularly when we feel overwhelmed or depleted.
In Encouragement, Rabbi Pliskin shares meditations and affirmations, inspirational true stories, and his trademark
wise, practical advice. He shows us how our words can help others - and ourselves -- become more confident,
optimistic, and upbeat people.
Rabbi Zelig Pliskin is the author of 25 books with his specialty in mastering happiness and other positive inner resources.
His last 15 books include such titles as: "Taking Action", "Happiness", "Kindness", "Courage", "Serenity", "Building Your Self-image" "Conversations with
Yourself" and "Marriage." These books are available at: Artscroll.com.
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