If you seek approval, ask yourself why you want it in the first place. The answer is that you view approval as pleasurable and giving you happiness.
Realize how much needless suffering your approval-seeking causes you. This will motivate you to master an attitude that allows you to feel happy even when people fail to show you honor and approval.
It is ironic that something one wants for happiness causes so much unhappiness. By giving up the demand for approval, you will ensure yourself greater happiness in life.
(Rabbi Pliskin's "Gateway to Happiness," p.282)
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