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Daily Lift #63

Expect Insults When Influencing Others

The Chafetz Chaim wrote: "If you try to influence others to improve, at times they might insult you for your efforts. So before you approach someone, realize you may be insulted and try to accept it. Don't reply to their insults, nor let those insults deter you from your goal. The more difficulties you have in trying to do good, the more elevated you become.

"If you were new in business and an experienced businessman made fun of you, you would not give up trying to make a profit. You would still make an effort to be successful. After a while no one would make fun of you. Trying to influence others is similar. Even though in the beginning some may mock you, if you are sincere [and persistent], they will eventually respect you."

(Chomas Hadas, ch.6; Rabbi Pliskin's "Gateway to Happiness," pp.300-1)

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Visitor Comments: 1

(1) Mysteries, July 27, 2009 7:06 PM

co-respect

It is sad that eventually respect is not obtained. If one expects something in return then that will never be forthcoming. Most cases do not turn out to be happy endings contrary to what is portrayed in folk tales, novels and fantasy in fact a sort of compromise is reached wth not all requirements fulfiled. Getting respect from others is not a good objective because one may never know what the other is thinking or what conclusion they have reached in their minds and how they will convince one that they like you. It may all be part of a strategy.

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