Love is a concept that is often distorted. For example, someone will say that he loves fish. But what does he do with fish? He cuts them up, cooks them, and then swallows them. He doesn't really love fish, he loves himself!
The Torah definition of love is feeling positive about someone because you appreciate his positive traits. When your love for someone is based totally on love for him (and not on self-love), you will have great patience. In the Torah, Jacob waited seven years before marrying Rachel!
Today, ask yourself if your "love" for others is based on your perception of how they can benefit you, or based on your perception of their positive qualities.
(see Genesis 29:20; Rabbi Eliyahu Lopian - Lev Eliyahu, vol.1,
pp.254-5; Rabbi Pliskin's "Consulting the Wise")
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