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Daily Lift #108

Complain Effectively

Before you complain, think carefully to determine if your complaint is valid.

When interacting with the people you see frequently, even if your complaint is valid, be certain to praise more frequently than you complain.

(For a series of probing questions on this topic, see Rabbi Pliskin's "Gateway to Self Knowledge," pp.164-7)

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Visitor Comments: 1

(1) mysteries, September 10, 2009 6:54 PM

Good side

When one complains it is right but it feels negative and makes one feel terrible and down and changes the fragile mind-set in ways one cannot control. It is better for mental health to try to talk about good points and to rack the mind with delightful thoughts that are therapeutic and relieve the load and heaviness on the brain. Another point is that if one were to complain too much to the wrong people then others may get wind of what one is moaning about and the story they hear would have been changed by malicious trouble causing persons bent upon discord. Try to talk to those people who are not associated with the whom one is discussing about and on one's own part make sure that one's own mischievous character has not conjured up false facts and scenarios to spice up the contents of the conversation.

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