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Daily Lift #155

Telling Yourself the Story of Your Life

What is the story of your life? The story you choose to tell yourself about your life has a tremendous impact on your self-image, on making and reaching goals, on your character traits, and on your level of happiness.

Some people think, "I don't choose to tell myself a story about my life. My life happened. When I tell myself and others about my life, I am just recounting the objective picture of my life.

Sorry. There is no such thing as an objective picture of your life. All experiences are experienced subjectively.

What does this mean? It means that the way you think about what happened in your life is the way that you experience what was and what is. You give meaning to your life and the events in your life by the way you tell yourself about your experiences.

Regardless of the stories that you've been telling yourself about your life and about specific incidents in the past, you can choose to upgrade the level of your stories.

At this moment, you can make a life-enhancing decision. From now on, I will tell myself stories of appreciation and gratitude. Stories of personal growth and self-development. Stories about increasing my confidence, courage, and self-empowerment.

Writing an essay is an effective tool to upgrade the story of your life. You may use the title: "The Story of My Life." In this essay, write down the highlights of your life. Write down some of your best moments. Write down skills and talents that you have already developed. Write down your strengths and positive qualities. Write down dreams, goals, and plans for the future. Write down attitudes that you are in the process of developing.

You don't yet know exactly how the rest of your life will unfold. But you can know what positive qualities and ways of being you want to develop. As you write this down as part of the story of your life, you will be setting a direction for yourself.

(from Rabbi Zelig Pliskin's book: "Conversations With Yourself, pp.46-7) [])

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